I did it. I'll be leaving my dad for good.

[Del Arroyo]

Dude, you'll be fine.

If you have enough money to come to America, then come on over and find a job. You will find one, it will not be that hard.

In fact, if you wanted to join the Army, I would try-- though if your ear prevents you from getting in, there's nothing you can do about it.

Some of these guys are telling you to rethink things, but I don't think you have anything to worry about. Your parents will come around once you make good as an independent man. I know that's not the way things usually work in Korea-- but you have to do what you have to do.

As far as your college degree, find out how many of your credits will transfer and to where. Once you get stabilized you can start taking classes again and finish it out. People work their way through college all the time-- my father did, while raising his first five children, and he has a PhD. He also had a difficult relationship with his father very similar to the one you have just described.

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At any rate, I don't find Cha's story particularly surprising and it probably isn't that unusual. From what I understand Korea culture places a very strong emphasis on obedience to superiors, and that they quite frequently beat people. In the classroom, in the dojang, and elsewhere, corporal punishment is very normal. But more importantly, everybody everywhere in the world fights with their parents, so there is really nothing so unusual about Cha's situation at all. In some cases the best solution is to break away and make it on your own, that's what Cha has decided to do, and that's what I think he should do.