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    Default I did it. I'll be leaving my dad for good.

    The problem is that I don't have a job to support myself, and I didn't finish college yet. So I'll have to stay for a few weeks before I move. For now, I'm at a PC cafe typing this.

    What happened was that I got tired of my dad threatening me and my mother. No wonder my sister got married (against my dad's wishes) and left us. So I yelled at my dad for the first time in my life. If he hadn't been threatening us, then I wouldn't have yelled at him.

    He wanted me to do this job which I did for nearly a month. It was a job where I started doing hard labour, and then I would move up to a more comfortable position. My boss was a friend of my dad. Before I joined this company, my dad told my boss that I never talked to my dad, and that my Korean was terrible. Well, I found it difficult to talk to someone who was prone to anger towards his family. The other people didn't realize this because he was a totally different person when he was outside of the home. My Korean is bad of course because I lived in America and there was no one to teach me Korean. My parents were too busy to teach me. Whenever my dad had the time to teach me, it sometimes involved a beating to my head, so that didn't go too well. (Now going back to the topic of my new job), the hard labour was fine and I worked hard, but I couldn't stand the boss. One of his workers suggested that I live in the company campus because I lived too far. I had to wake up at 5:30 in the morning in order to get to the company by 7:30am. The boss gave me an angry 1 hour lecture about how I deserved to wake up early. He told me to talk to my dad, and said that my Korean was not even in the elementary level. I didn't deserve this so I quit the job. When I went home, my dad said that he would disown me. Apparently, the boss made up stories about how I was lazy, and that he never lectured me. Then my dad started to yell at my mom. I felt sorry for my mom because I was the reason for her going through this. So I told my dad that it was I who would be walking away from him. I'm done with my life with him, and I'm done with my life in South Korea. I'd rather be in America although I won't be having a decent job. My dad was like, "go ahead and leave. I'm sure you'll come back."

    I'm sorry for my mom because she was always sweet to me. In Korea, it is the oldest son's duty to take care of the parents. When I find a job in America, I'll take care of my mom. In the meantime, I think she is better off living with dad.
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    I am sorry to hear you have such trouble in the family, family should be shelter. I hope it all turns out well, I don't know anything about Korean culture, except that they eat squid alive, maybe it is normal that fathers place such pressure on their sons, I dunno. I hope it all turns out well for you, and your parents.

    Good luck

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    Commiserations.

    I hope your mother is OK.

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    Wow...that's one messed up story.

    How are you going to pay for your move to America?

    I wish you the best of luck.

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    Thanks all. Live squid? You know something about Korean culture. :)
    Quote Originally Posted by Kralizec
    Wow...that's one messed up story.

    How are you going to pay for your move to America?

    I wish you the best of luck.
    I worked in another job for six months. I have enough money to move, but I'll have to find another job soon.

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    Yea Mess up story m8.... But Not to much different then mine :-(

    Hope it works out for you :)

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    Sometimes I wonder about joining the American army. Unfortunately, I failed the physical exam because I can't hear with one of my ear. My dad doesn't know that I attempted to join the army some years ago.

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    Yea My Dad tried to when he was in his 20's, but he had a speech ploblem, and could not get in, but he said no when the Retruciter said he would try,now he regrets it.

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    How old are you? Are you bigger than your father, becuase then you can have a lot of leverage on him. Also hope this turns out for the best. If you get to America though, the Koreans, I hear, I really stick together. If you find some, they will get you a job. Good luck.

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    @ IrishArmenian,

    thanks, I didn't think of that. I'm an American citizen and my English is ok. These things should give me an advantage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cha
    The problem is that I don't have a job to support myself, and I didn't finish college yet. So I'll have to stay for a few weeks before I move. For now, I'm at a PC cafe typing this.

    What happened was that I got tired of my dad threatening me and my mother. No wonder my sister got married (against my dad's wishes) and left us. So I yelled at my dad for the first time in my life. If he hadn't been threatening us, then I wouldn't have yelled at him.

    He wanted me to do this job which I did for nearly a month. It was a job where I started doing hard labour, and then I would move up to a more comfortable position. My boss was a friend of my dad. Before I joined this company, my dad told my boss that I never talked to my dad, and that my Korean was terrible. Well, I found it difficult to talk to someone who was prone to anger towards his family. The other people didn't realize this because he was a totally different person when he was outside of the home. My Korean is bad of course because I lived in America and there was no one to teach me Korean. My parents were too busy to teach me. Whenever my dad had the time to teach me, it sometimes involved a beating to my head, so that didn't go too well. (Now going back to the topic of my new job), the hard labour was fine and I worked hard, but I couldn't stand the boss. One of his workers suggested that I live in the company campus because I lived too far. I had to wake up at 5:30 in the morning in order to get to the company by 7:30am. The boss gave me an angry 1 hour lecture about how I deserved to wake up early. He told me to talk to my dad, and said that my Korean was not even in the elementary level. I didn't deserve this so I quit the job. When I went home, my dad said that he would disown me. Apparently, the boss made up stories about how I was lazy, and that he never lectured me. Then my dad started to yell at my mom. I felt sorry for my mom because I was the reason for her going through this. So I told my dad that it was I who would be walking away from him. I'm done with my life with him, and I'm done with my life in South Korea. I'd rather be in America although I won't be having a decent job. My dad was like, "go ahead and leave. I'm sure you'll come back."

    I'm sorry for my mom because she was always sweet to me. In Korea, it is the oldest son's duty to take care of the parents. When I find a job in America, I'll take care of my mom. In the meantime, I think she is better off living with dad.
    Good luck man.


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