This thread is for the broken hearted.

[Andres]

Real love as Legio rightly says is about partnership and having a long lived relationship with another human being - despite all their idiosyncricies (sp?)

And for that you can take all the romantic fog (flowers and singing under windows and generally acting like a fool) out of your eyes and work hard on compromise, sacrifice, equality, giving and recieving.

real love - is a deeper thing
having dinner ready when your partners working all week,
tidying up despite you feeling that you should be able to live like a pig, holding them when they are frietened - despite if you think the fear is rational or not,
protecting them from the stupidity of others and your own,
smiling for them even when you feel like crying,
learning not to pee all over the toilet floor - cause someones gunna have to clean it up - probably you (same goes for skid marks),
having to visit her family when you had a M2TW mega session planned - and smiling about it,
learning that you (singular) no longer exists - there is only you (pleural) now

theres no obsession clouded vision
its loving someone despite the surficial things of life - like physical appearance, wealth/poverty , bodily excretions, etc etc - in real love none of this matters

its never pretty

its not exciting

alot of times its not even fun

this from a man who is happily married - happy because both of us have given up any delusions about what society tells us love is supposed to be and concentrated on one single idea - its me and her forever - sickness or health, young or old, wealthy or poor - the world and its skindeep BS are only relevent to the extent of how it impacts on our life together

Ah, the wisdom of the married man

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You forgot to add: "Watching "Beauty and the Nerd" with her, pretending you like the program, instead of playing M2TW". GAH!! Television makers! Put them on the stake and burn them ! GAH ! On the other hand, she has to sacrifice herself too sometimes: go out twice a week at 7.00 AM running with your husband who for once remembered something you said: "I am too fat, I want to exercise. We should do some sport together" That'll teach her! Beauty and the Nerd. GAH !

[Yun Dog]

You forgot to add: "Watching "Beauty and the Nerd" with her, pretending you like the program, instead of playing M2TW". GAH!! Television makers! Put them on the stake and burn them ! GAH ! On the other hand, she has to sacrifice herself too sometimes: go out twice a week at 7.00 AM running with your husband who for once remembered something you said: "I am too fat, I want to exercise. We should do some sport together" That'll teach her! Beauty and the Nerd. GAH !

Andres - you truely understand

now if you'll excuse me I promised to go on a bike ride around the river because my wife felt 'we' werent getting enough excersize

[AntiochusIII]

I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.

I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness.

[caravel]

I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.

I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness.

Well at 17 you've got plenty of time for that. It may be that your life is occupied with other pursuits?

[IrishArmenian]

Well at 17 you've got plenty of time for that. It may be that your life is occupied with other pursuits?

At 17, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend (which DID happen, and now I have this ball and chain), I was chasing... well, *****.

[Caius]

Are you married now?

[Del Arroyo]

I dunno about women. For me it all used to be about comforting my insecurities. Then I met one girl who really loved me and that pretty much took care of my insecurities.

Problem was I wasn't all that crazy about her, but when I dumped her she just wouldn't go away, and I didn't really have to heart to just keep turning her away, so now really my question is should you marry someone comfortable and loving and who, though there is great sexual chemistry, really doesn't light your fire... or should you hold out for someone who makes you feel all those exciting falling-in-love feelings?

It kills me. I can't bear to break her heart, but at the same time I can't help but feeling there is someone else out there for me. Not that there's a lot of opportunity to meet that person either where I'm at or the places I'll be going over the next two or three years. And she is far, far away. So really this is all sort of idle speculation.

[IrishArmenian]

Are you married now?

Yes. It has yet to get too bad, seeing as it was 6 months ago.

[caravel]

At 17, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend (which DID happen, and now I have this ball and chain), I was chasing... well, *****.

You often find it when you're not looking for it. I ended up getting married when I was younger to a girl I met at college. That went badly wrong, in too many ways to list, she had issues and was very paranoid so we had to separate and divorce after about two years of trying to live together. After that I opted for the single life. This didn't go to plan either, and while on my travels in foreign parts some years later, I met my second wife, whom I am still with. I like being with her, but not the married part, that was her idea. Marriage doesn't really interest me. Don't get me wrong I'm loyal but I hate the imprisoned feeling. I'm not religious so it's just a piece of paper. Almost every day I still yearn for freedom, thinking of the places I could go and see. Nowadays I simply don't have the available funds for this. Once you're married you never seem to stop paying out.

[Caius]

I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.

I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness.

I'm in the same situation.