This thread is for the broken hearted.

[AntiochusIII]

I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.

I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness.

[caravel]

I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.

I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness.

Well at 17 you've got plenty of time for that. It may be that your life is occupied with other pursuits?

[IrishArmenian]

Well at 17 you've got plenty of time for that. It may be that your life is occupied with other pursuits?

At 17, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend (which DID happen, and now I have this ball and chain), I was chasing... well, *****.

[Caius]

Are you married now?

[Del Arroyo]

I dunno about women. For me it all used to be about comforting my insecurities. Then I met one girl who really loved me and that pretty much took care of my insecurities.

Problem was I wasn't all that crazy about her, but when I dumped her she just wouldn't go away, and I didn't really have to heart to just keep turning her away, so now really my question is should you marry someone comfortable and loving and who, though there is great sexual chemistry, really doesn't light your fire... or should you hold out for someone who makes you feel all those exciting falling-in-love feelings?

It kills me. I can't bear to break her heart, but at the same time I can't help but feeling there is someone else out there for me. Not that there's a lot of opportunity to meet that person either where I'm at or the places I'll be going over the next two or three years. And she is far, far away. So really this is all sort of idle speculation.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

I dunno about women. For me it all used to be about comforting my insecurities. Then I met one girl who really loved me and that pretty much took care of my insecurities.

Problem was I wasn't all that crazy about her, but when I dumped her she just wouldn't go away, and I didn't really have to heart to just keep turning her away, so now really my question is should you marry someone comfortable and loving and who, though there is great sexual chemistry, really doesn't light your fire... or should you hold out for someone who makes you feel all those exciting falling-in-love feelings?

It kills me. I can't bear to break her heart, but at the same time I can't help but feeling there is someone else out there for me. Not that there's a lot of opportunity to meet that person either where I'm at or the places I'll be going over the next two or three years. And she is far, far away. So really this is all sort of idle speculation.

Do you care for her? If you do then you're in love, because all it is is a combination of attraction and caring. You might have passed through the lovy-dovy phase already and not realised it.

Me, I developed a crush on a girl at 14, we developed a friendship, unfortunately at the same time I fell in love with her. By the time I was 16 my brain had turned off to all other women, I could barely speak and my backbone had become a pile of jelly, I'd do anything for her. Worse, my infatuation was an open secret but every time I tried to tell her how I felt she would turn the conversation.

Predictably it ended badly, I had an emotional breakdown, went a bit nuts, confessed everything very publically and I have niether seen nor spoken to her for three and a half years. She said she needed space, which is code for "leave me alone you freak."

Anyway, it took me about three months to put myself back together and I am now a far grimmer and less romantic person. I also haven't been able to develope a real attraction to another woman since.

[Caius]

What do you think its better.

Live with parents
Live alone
Live with a wife

[IrishArmenian]

Are you married now?

Yes. It has yet to get too bad, seeing as it was 6 months ago.

[Caius]

Yes. It has yet to get too bad, seeing as it was 6 months ago.

My condolences.

[caravel]

At 17, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend (which DID happen, and now I have this ball and chain), I was chasing... well, *****.

You often find it when you're not looking for it. I ended up getting married when I was younger to a girl I met at college. That went badly wrong, in too many ways to list, she had issues and was very paranoid so we had to separate and divorce after about two years of trying to live together. After that I opted for the single life. This didn't go to plan either, and while on my travels in foreign parts some years later, I met my second wife, whom I am still with. I like being with her, but not the married part, that was her idea. Marriage doesn't really interest me. Don't get me wrong I'm loyal but I hate the imprisoned feeling. I'm not religious so it's just a piece of paper. Almost every day I still yearn for freedom, thinking of the places I could go and see. Nowadays I simply don't have the available funds for this. Once you're married you never seem to stop paying out.

[Caius]

I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.

I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness.

I'm in the same situation.