Quote Originally Posted by Yunus Dogus
I disagree

for the following reasons

1. He already said he hadnt seen the guy in a while - chances are you were prolly gunna lose touch with this guy - different lives growing apart. So in the long term in will hurt you less not to tell this guy anything.

2. Its none of his business - if this chick dropped him for another guy - then she was going to drop him 'fullstop', if it wasnt for the brother in law - then it woulda been someone else. For all he knows the friend couldve been a jerk toward her, and deserved it.

3. Blood is thicker than water - even blood in law - you said it yourself - chances are this guy will be your brother in law one day - best start by looking out for your kin. Mates are mates, blood is more than mates. And no your GF will not understand if you side with your mate over her brother - particularly if shes close to her brother.

my 5c - sometimes when relationships break up - the friends are forced to choose sides - sometimes the friends politc - ends up differently to how it began. If you didnt rush to console the guy, chances are you were thinking of cutting him lose already - sad but sounds inevitable to me. Better than damaging the relationship with your future brother.

edit: I couldve sworn this post didnt have this many typos when i firts read it..... is there such a thing as a naughty post fairy that adds typos to your posts when your not looking!!!
Well, there's another issue, which both complicates matters and makes it easier. I talked about this with the gf and she doesn't think her brother will ever truly hook up with her. He seems to be trying (though the man is so closed you never really know what he's doing) but the feeling probably isn't mutual. She just wants a friend.

This makes it harder because in the end I'll probably end up with two unhappy friends. This makes it easier, because if I wait until I tell my other friend and if they didn't hook up he probably won't feel to bad about it. He'll probably say something about how it's natural everyone would want to hook up with such a great woman (yes, currently he's that bad).

So I'm glad I bought myself some time. I'll see how it turns out in a few weeks...