Dutch, like Ludens said try disbanding and building your economy save every few turns and if they attack reload and hide your generals in the forest or just reload sometimes they won't attack it's kinda weird, once you take the first town I recommend Ictis and then Ynis-Mon cause there's a mine in Ynis, build ports and markets and once you get a taste of the champion troops you'll be hooked.
I really loved the idea of small numbers of elite champions helping and inspiring regular troops to hold the line and push onward while chariots scared and peppered the enemy with javelins. Chariots are really weak against light infantry, I remember against heavier types they can drive through them, they're sometimes out of control though and really hard to maneuver, that's why after reforms I switched to Rycalawre.
BTW, if you're dutch as in from Holland, go Romania!
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