but doesnt the young women deserve the right to have a chance at having a family? see the second you start you start taking their respective positions into a account you treat them un-equally and you toss equality out of the window

I phrased the question like that on purpose to catch as many flys in the honey as i could there are so many reasons to pick one or the other but the question is really "which has a greater right to life?" the answer is neither if you subscribe to Equality