Quote Originally Posted by bamff

As the others have said, please don't judge us all on the basis of one. I have always found this place to be full of people who are very friendly and very helpful.
That's true, no group should be judged by one member, but that one character was also a worst case. There have been other slights. Some were unintentional. Some were not.

The bottom line, as bamff said, is that most of us are very friendly and very helpful.

However, part of that friendliness is not being quick to take offense.

Please consider the following few lines as an example only. I'm not offended. However, consider how I could have reacted:

As a muslim woman, I am amazed at the insensitivity displayed by members of this forum.
You didn't say "some members." You said "members."

I'm a member.

When did I show insensitivity? Or am I guilty of complying in bigotry because I am a member of a forum that was "slow and slacking" in deleting the offensive posts?

That's the end of the example.

You see? Insults, if easily taken, are easily given even by those with the most righteous of causes and the best of intentions.

On the other hand, an excess of tolerance leads to never standing up to the insults, which is unacceptable.

These are simple things, but the simplest things are difficult to do.