So many posts. I agree largely with what Lemur, Davemeister, and Odin have said so far. I'm hitting my 4th anniv. in a week exactly, and it's been one of the best and worst things I've ever done. Along the lines of why divorce rates are so high, personally I really chalk that one up to laziness. People don't realize that it's not in any way shape or form a fairy tale (except maybe in like .00001% of cases), and it takes a LOT of effort and compromise. No shame here in admitting that we went to counselling for about a year because we were falling apart. If ya's need to do that, at least give it a shot. Just make sure you get a GOOD counselor that you can both relate to, and do NOT go to family members or friends to fulfill that role.