Age and Wisdom

[Andres]

Gaining experience certainly helps. But you must be able to learn from your experiences as well.

And common sense is also a necessary prerequisite imo. If you have a decent amount of common sense, you can see and understand alot of things already without really experiencing them.

Off course, one can argue that common sense = wisdom.

[Stig]

@Ronin, try running a country

I think experience does help, but if you want to call that being wise, I dunno.

[John86]

"Nature is full of freaks, and now puts an old head on young shoulders, and then a young heart beating under fourscore winters." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

[Bijo]

The responses have gladdened me.

In real life I have / had been arguing with those of old age (about anything) and when I use logic and experience of the things I have learnt and recall the deepness I have had and I know they err (and sometimes they themselves know so too), they usually turn to the argument that with age wisdom comes.

I then inform them they are in error and they -- wanting to be correct -- keep up silly arguments based on (their belief of) 'age --> wisdom'. The fools.

But it taught me another wisdom, a truism actually: it is difficult to change most old peoples' minds.

[Papewaio]

Meme's seem to be territorial. Once an idea has taken hold it takes alot more effort to replace it then it took to originally plant one.

Sometimes part of learning is the ability to unlearn.

[KukriKhan]

The older I grow the more I distrust the familiar doctrine that age brings wisdom.

H.L. Mencken

Perhaps one has to be very old before one learns to be amused rather than shocked.

Pearl S. Buck

I agree with both.

It's not the years, it's the mileage.

[Husar]

Bijo, get a heart that's not made of stone.

"You're all idiots to think you could learn from your experience, I prefer to learn from the mistakes of others to prevent making mistakes myself." - Otto von Bismarck (translated by your humble Husar because it's only on the german page of wikiquote)

[Bijo]

Bijo, get a heart that's not made of stone.

Essentially I already have one not made of stone. It is an engine-like apparatus constructed from metal-like tools, iron, electrical wires, and so on, that could be referred to as "heart." But the point is: it is not made of stone.

[Husar]

Essentially I already have one not made of stone. It is an engine-like apparatus constructed from metal-like tools, iron, electrical wires, and so on, that could be referred to as "heart." But the point is: it is not made of stone.

I already explained it in the chat, but logic can also be used to spot metaphors.

There's another quote I'd like to add:

"I don't believe that people choose to be stupid." - N. M. Vonken

[Lemur]

When I use logic and experience of the things I have learnt and recall the deepness I have had and I know they err (and sometimes they themselves know so too), they usually turn to the argument that with age wisdom comes.

This sounds like more of a last refuge sort of thing than a serious argument. But to be frank, I don't know anyone who reacts well to being told they are wrong. There's an art to that sort of discussion.

I then inform them they are in error and they -- wanting to be correct -- keep up silly arguments based on (their belief of) 'age --> wisdom'. The fools.

Yeah, this is the sort of thing I'm talking about. Nobody likes to be "informed they are in error." One has to be a bit delicate when correcting another human being, even when they are obviously wrong. And as often as not, they're not going to change their minds right then. It's much better to ask questions, drop facts, and let their minds chug it over in their own good time. Unless the situation is life-threatening, there's no rush.

One thing that can come with age: patience.

But it taught me another wisdom, a truism actually: it is difficult to change most old peoples' minds.

Why restrict this truism to old people? It's hard to change anyone's mind. Look at how you've posted in the SF/drama thread in the Frontroom. Multiple people came back at you with intelligent, informed critiques of your initial post, and you didn't modify your position in any meaningful way. You aren't old, are you?

A mulish attitude is not the preserve of the aged, and you don't need to be advanced in years to plant your heels in the ground.

[Gawain of Orkeny]

I then inform them they are in error and they -- wanting to be correct -- keep up silly arguments based on (their belief of) 'age --> wisdom'. The fools.

It works both ways young fella I cant tell you how many times I argue with my son about things and he says your old fashioned . It dont work that way any more. I got news for you both. I said the same exact thing to my dad. And you know what? He was almost always right. Human nature doesnt change. The young think we old people are senile and out of touch and we think you just havent had enough experience to be really wise yet. Nothing as they say beats experience. You usually learn more from your mistakes than you accomplishments. So yes wisdom once more does come with age.

[Bijo]

Why restrict this truism to old people?

I was referring to them in real life situations, thus the truism was applied accordingly. It is no restriction.



EDIT: excluded the unnecessary word 'because'

[Bijo]

This sounds like more of a last refuge sort of thing than a serious argument. But to be frank, I don't know anyone who reacts well to being told they are wrong. There's an art to that sort of discussion.


Yeah, this is the sort of thing I'm talking about. Nobody likes to be "informed they are in error." One has to be a bit delicate when correcting another human being, even when they are obviously wrong. And as often as not, they're not going to change their minds right then. It's much better to ask questions, drop facts, and let their minds chug it over in their own good time. Unless the situation is life-threatening, there's no rush.

Yes, yes indeed. It is quite correct. I must admit there have been times I noticed people after some time (weeks, or months, etc.) and what I told them before suddenly was so obvious to them.

But that is not enough. It shouldn't just be about... "changing minds" as if people are changing (irrelevant) "beliefs or opinions" (for it really appears like it, as if having to get used to another belief which they have to get comfortable with); they should use logic (rationality, reason) in the first place and rid themselves of the irrelevant things that only distract them in false ways -- that only distort their minds.

If they did that, there wouldn't even be a need to... "carefully tweak them" and let them "get used to an idea" to finally after a long time arrive at the obvious truth.