Kinda counter-logic isn't it? When your generals are at home with their wives they never have children, but when they're out in the field conquering they're having kids left and right.

Oddly though with all the family manipulation tactics I've tried I've just decieded that the number of children and whether or not your generals marry is more the work of some completely random number luck. Some games I get loads of kids no matter what I do, others no one marries. It's beyond annoying to have a game that's starting off great be trashed when it's 20, 30, 40 turns in and no ones gotten married or had kids yet, despite the fact that my family member to Province ratio is like 1:4 (1 general for every 4 provinces). Being forced to accept adoptions or quit due to lack of children is one of my biggest problems with this game.

I don't think there is, but if you find out how to modify the family stuff in the game, let me know. I'd personally like to either find something useful for females to do (other than marry some 50yr old goon with the same possible traits as a 20yr old promoted captain) or eliminate the chance to have them all together (100% chance at a male child). Since there's a 4 child max on all family members I've taken to simply reloading/moving a unit around whenever I get a female child and hope for a male or nothing. I'd love to change the family dynamic in this game, maybe force children if you have more regions than generals and no children have been born in X turns.