I think part of the problem is just that...you said you're using various avatars and what-not?

I would say wait for a bit, becoming a slightly known user in the forums, and when you have the ability, talk to people in the modding-centric forums. This is just a welcoming forum where noobs like me that don't really mod but like to hang out because the people are cool come and post back. And then the mods come and give you links, to things, sort of.

But trust me, from what I've seen, these people are MORE than willing to help, it's just that not everyone has the time to check every sub-section of every forum. I'm sure help shall come!