another thread for the broken hearted/txt message break up

[woad&fangs]

So, I asked out a friend of mine 3 days ago and yesterday morning I got a txt message from her saying that she isn't ready for another relationship yet.(her last boy"friend" was a complete ******* so I understand). I'm not asking for advice or anything like that because the only thing I can really do is wait until she is ready to try and have another relationship. She said she would try to call me this morning but its already 11 O'clock and she has yet to call so I'm just hoping that typing this will get all this emo out of my system. I know I shouldn't feel as bad as I do because I knew she might say this and the only thing that has really changed between us is that now she knows I think she is attractive and has a great personality. Anyone else broken up with someone through a txt message?

[The Stranger]

never date friends... heheh msn dude... msn :P im not really good at it.. but you must do it asap (in general) because from my xp waiting only makes it worse, for both

[HoreTore]

Get stinking drunk together. That ought to sort things out....

If it doesn't, hey, it's always fun to get drunk.

[Strike For The South]

Get stinking drunk together. That ought to sort things out....

If it doesn't, hey, it's always fun to get drunk.

QFT. Either you two hook up and get set back on a relationship path or you dont or you two hook up and it just ends up complacting things more. however I would like to point out that in any of these scnarios you are still drunk so the night wouldnt be a total loss.

[Caius]

Follow my advice, stay sober.

And be pacient man.

[naut]

Get stinking drunk together. That ought to sort things out....

If it doesn't, hey, it's always fun to get drunk.

Always fun.

But that's harsh, txt message!?

[Caius]

But that's harsh, txt message!?

Romanticism had dropped too much down.

[Whacker]

Caius, I actually agree with you on this one, about drinking. Alcohol + intense feelings = not good. This is something to think over when you've got a clear head and frame of mind. Getting smashed then hooking up does NOT indicate that there's anything like a relationship to be had or continued, that's just drunken sex. Not that it's always a bad thing... Just not in situations like this.

[naut]

Romanticism had dropped too much down.

QFT.

[Rodion Romanovich]

So, I asked out a friend of mine 3 days ago and yesterday morning I got a txt message from her saying that she isn't ready for another relationship yet.(her last boy"friend" was a complete ******* so I understand). I'm not asking for advice or anything like that because the only thing I can really do is wait until she is ready to try and have another relationship. She said she would try to call me this morning but its already 11 O'clock and she has yet to call so I'm just hoping that typing this will get all this emo out of my system. I know I shouldn't feel as bad as I do because I knew she might say this and the only thing that has really changed between us is that now she knows I think she is attractive and has a great personality. Anyone else broken up with someone through a txt message?

Maybe just reply to her with a txt message that shows that you're both self-confident and possibly also capable of amusing her...?

And look richer always works too.

[The Stranger]

whats QFT?

[The_Mark]

QFT

Be careful there, though, woad&fangs. The last time I got a message, or rather, an e-mail like that, telling that I'm a great guy et all but she's not quite ready for another relationship etc. etc., well, in few days she was in the laps of my (second) best friend, with me still being crazy fallen for her. It sucked. Big time.

[Rodion Romanovich]

QFT

I think he meant "quantum field theory"

[woad&fangs]

Alright since I posted last I had a lot of rainfall on saturday night and my downstairs flooded. Hence the me not posting till now. I found out she txt'd because she is at her aunts house and she apparently can't call or recieve calls from there for some reason. so I feel a little bit better about that. I also found out that at least part of the reason she is saying she is not ready for another relationship is because her ex boy"friend" has somehow brought another one of our friends into the drama between the two of them. Also, how old do you guys really think I am??? Whenever I have reread some of my posts I thought they made me sound younger than I really am but I guess I was wrong.

[Bijo]

Love? Blech...

In any case usually the principle seems this: make woman feel emotionally GOOD and ATTRACTED to you. That means: be funny, be interesting, be confident, be unpredictable, etc., etc.

I don't know your age, but you seem young. How it applies to teens if applicable? Well, I guess the same principle...?

[edyzmedieval]

Chicks love funny guys.

But, when a boy tells a girl that they love her, she freaks out. Why?!!!!

[Strike For The South]

Chicks love funny guys.

But, when a boy tells a girl that they love her, she freaks out. Why?!!!!

becuase that makes you creepy?

[edyzmedieval]

Lol?!

Look, your with a girl. You get along nicely. You love her, you dont know if she does the same. And then, you say you want more, and you love her.

Why the heck do they freak out when you tell em that? I mean, when a girl says this to you, if you like her, then fine, but if you don't, you don't give a damn about her actually, you just maintain a nice friendship.

[Lorenzo_H]

Follow my advice, stay sober.

And be pacient man.

Sound advice man. Be patient and be sober.

[Stig]

Sound advice man. Be patient and be sober.

Believe me, drunk can be pretty funny

[The_Mark]

A beer (or another drink of your choice) or two is never for the worse.

[Caius]

Believe me, drunk can be pretty funny

You will make a very bad mistake.

[Stig]

You will make a very bad mistake.

Nah I'm never badly drunk, like those irritating people that live on the same floor as me. When I'm drunk I'm a very entertaining person ... hence why I'm not drunk that often ... having the ability to drink 10 beers and feel nothing is not a blessing, believe me.

[Geoffrey S]

You win some, you lose some. Know when it's not worth pursuing. Fact that this happened via txt is indicative enough, methinks.

[Decker]

Hehe, that happened to a friend of mine with his GF of ooo say... 2 1/2 yrs. It couldn't have been better timing, he's going into college this year.
As for me... never had that happen let alone a break-up...but! If it does, then, I'd tell her we're still together until she tells it to me face-to-face.

[Rodion Romanovich]

Lol?!

Look, your with a girl. You get along nicely. You love her, you dont know if she does the same. And then, you say you want more, and you love her.

Why the heck do they freak out when you tell em that? I mean, when a girl says this to you, if you like her, then fine, but if you don't, you don't give a damn about her actually, you just maintain a nice friendship.

Well, when you make her laugh etc., that is a good scenario for her to deny the truth and pretend she likes what happens between you. Then, when you say you love her, the atmosphere gets thick and serious, and she realizes that she's only been lying to herself up to that point, and she starts thinking what a loser she is for not managing to get someone richer/better-looking/taller/less intelligent/etc/etc, and then she starts getting scared and think something like: "OMG!!! Will I spend the rest of my life with THAT guy??!!!" Alternatively, it's the combination of she wishing you well and thinking she's inferior to you, and thinking you should aim higher, or that since you're superior to her, she can't trust you because you would be a too powerful opponent when you start fighting over who should make dinner and take the dishes . So - NEVER tell a woman you love her, unless you're married to her already (and your wife is a religious fundamentalist of a type that believes people who divorce burn in hell for eternity), or you can, upon saying it, make your voice sound like you just told her the time or that you will go to the toilet and will soon come back, or something similar.

[edyzmedieval]

That helped a lot Legio.
I'm in a worser condition than before!

The big question: How do you know a girl likes you?

[Geoffrey S]

You ask her.

[woad&fangs]

well, if you ask her if she likes you then its pretty obvious you want to know because you like her. It always helps to be friends with her friends.

[Decker]

The big question: How do you know a girl likes you?

Go up to her. Tell her that, "hey you like me, I like me, so lets mate, I mean date! See you at 7."