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**Budwise** · 09-24-2007, 21:50

Urggg, I know this will be moved and I wish it wouldn't because this is the only board that I have grown to know people at. My girlfriend cheated on me and I had to move out, I feel horrible right now but I did see this comming for some time and I still have to work with her on my primary job. I am sorry, I just had to vent.

I am not sure yet if she is even worth being a friend anymore and it sucks more that when I am with a girl, I shove everyone else out of the way for her and I don't have any real good friends right now.

(Pic deleted. A complaint was registered that the girl in the picture was having her private life disccused in detail and was not able to defend herself - Beirut)

**YAKOBU** · 09-24-2007, 22:46

Hi Budwise

May I offer my deepest sympathy. I'm not the most optimistic of people but do believe everything happens for a reason. You were too good for her and something better will come along soon.

In my experience I would have been better cutting contact with all ex-girlfriends as trying to be friends caused far more heartache.

I hope M2TW helps you through this difficult time.

**Slug For A Butt** · 09-25-2007, 00:28

Sorry to hear that Budwise. You seem quite a sensitive guy and I'm not sure that keeping in contact as friends is going to do you a favour really, at least in the short term.
Hell, I'm no phsycologist. Just my two penneth, and my regards.

**joe4iz** · 09-25-2007, 01:13

Sorry for your problems Budwise, but it is probably for the best. Better that she and you part ways now than when you really needed her. Truthfully, she sounded to me like she used you, either intentionally or unintentionally.
Good luck, there are plenty of women out there looking for a good guy.

God Speed and Good luck

**sapi** · 09-25-2007, 08:35

Sorry to hear that, Budwise

You're right, however, in suggesting that this will be moved; it's frontroom material. I'll keep the redirect bumped for a few days

**HoreTore** · 09-25-2007, 09:07

A word of advice: go easy on the alcohol. It feels good and can be a good comfort, but moderation is in order... It's quite easy to become an addict in such times... If things are a pain, sure down a bottle of scotch. But let it be with one time, don't do it again.

I fortunately stayed clear of alcohol(well, I didn't get addicted to it), but my nicotine addiction is due to a broken heart in the past...

**Shahed** · 09-25-2007, 09:55

I'm sorry for your loss mate.

That's too bad bro but remember women are an ABUNDANT commodity. There are many more out there for you, more than you can imagine. So many in fact that you cannot fall in love with all of them in a lifetime.

Stay clear of any substances, do not abuse yourself. Hit the gym, spend time alone and clear everything negative from your mind. Process and end the relationship inside yourself. Do something symbolic like get rid of all her pictures, and anything else you have from her.

It may be worth it to remain friends but if you could not trust her, don't expect anything from her.

Most importantly learn all you can from the experience. Tell us more, what happened etc. Feel free to let it all out, that's best. Talk to those who care about you. Ofc we are all here and you can post anything to us in complete confidence. Build your support group and be with people tha you can feel comfortable with.

Be good to yourself, and treat yourself right. Keep yourself busy building yourself and your life, but remember that you HAVE to spend time alone in solitude to correctly process the breakup otherwise it will always be there like a scar in your emotions. Release it and do anything and everything you have to do to build forward. You cannot change the past but you can change the future.

Heal yourself, rearm and MARCH ONWARD.

**Andres** · 09-25-2007, 10:40

Sorry to hear that Bud.

From my personal experience, breaking all contact is the best you can do. No phone calls, no chat on the internet and if you see her, just ignore her completely, don't talk to her.

It usually takes three months without any contact whatsoever and the first few weeks will suck big time, but believe me, it's the best you can do.

Afterwards, you will be a much stronger person.

And as Sinan said: the gym is much better then alcohol or cigarettes. Build some muscles while you are trying to get over this, it'll come in handy once you are ready to go hunting again

**Budwise** · 09-27-2007, 11:01

Originally Posted by Sinan

I'm sorry for your loss mate.

That's too bad bro but remember women are an ABUNDANT commodity. There are many more out there for you, more than you can imagine. So many in fact that you cannot fall in love with all of them in a lifetime.

True, but I am kinda sick of white girls (I am white, I can say that) and only Cambodian Women excite me. I only want an Asian and they are in short supply at work.