Ideas for a First Date

[SeekerDK]

Great advise Kevit, just wanna add some commentaries.

1. Do NOT talk about medical conditions or medications. Unless it's really obvious like an asthma inhaler, your date doesn't need to know you are a psycho that was just released from the hospital mental ward a week ago and are on six different medications at the same time. Total date killer.

2. If such a topic comes up, avoid correcting them. Rather, change the topic. This is the polite way of saying "STFU, n00b!"

LOL.. Funny story. My last serious relationship started out with her telling me that she was borderline and me japing on about what a nerd i was. We stayed together for 1½ years and are still good friends today

But normally, yeah, it can be a real buzz killer, thou not something "normal" people make a habit of. To add to me previous post on showing your weakness, it a definite NO-NO, to talk about creepy/scary/disgusting stuff about you self. Bad habits can be a conversation starter, but there is a major difference between admitting that you bid your nails (don't bring it up on less she asks) and admitting that you bid you toe-nails, if you catch my drift.

3. Lay out your intentions from the start. If the date is supposed to be romantic, ask the other party if they kiss on the first date. This way you wont feel embarrassed or disappointed if they turn you down later on because you didn't ask and they didn't feel like it.

Ehhmm. It might be a culture thing, but in that particular question came up in a date in Denmark, it would be pretty awkward. Kissing a very natural part of a date and it would be sort of like asking the obvious. It can how ever be used if you are REALLY nervous and can't seem to get a chance to plant that first kiss. But defiantly not the best way to display you confidences in your self.

Thou I actually tried once, asking her if she had sex on the first date. She laughed and refused to answer, but it was defiantly not the worst question I asked a girl on a first date (and turned out she did :)
Mind you, that one only work with some girls and can easily back-fire. You might wanna save it till you turn 20 or something.

6. Smile and make eye contact. It says to your date, "I'm friendly, and I'm interested in you." Don't overdo it. You don't want to look like a creepy stalker.

7. Tap your chin in thought when your date is speaking. This subtly tells the other party, "I'm interested in what you are saying and taking in every word."

Great advise.
Additions:
Remember to blink!
If the eye contact gets wierd, there is an alternative to just looking away (which might not always be the best move, if the starring has already gone sour). Try a wink, a smile or if you have good facial muscle control in tight situations, a funny face - "sexy pout" or something (- not sure about that word.. Look it up in the dic, but have never heard it before).
Objective is to make her smile. If she doesn't, you failed: Look away and take a fast sip of you drink.

Follow-up questions are always a winner. I have most success with not telling anything about my self that she don't ask (other then SMALL anecdotes and personal experiences that fit the conversation), but it might just be a skill that I don't have (when I try, I usually end up talking about work, computers or M2TW :)

Anyway, I think SeekerDK's idea is the best. It's different enough to work but not in the geeky way (which is instant fail at 16).

Yeah! Freudian puns are the best