Life laughed at me again

[Caius]

(Excuse me Beirut, I need some bad language)

Again, life laughed at me. It made me some damage inside. Why God I have such problems? As Bijo said, who isnt ***** up?.

Is this time of the life you dont know what to do with it. You try to build something, but its useless. It just is *look, you have made this, this is useless.* But, people always says: What do you lose with trying? Well, I have lost my last (with hope) chance with my ex-girlfriend. Everything was ok. She talked to me, I talked to her. We were good friends, like the last year.

So, the words that gave me hope came. She told me she liked me so much that she would love me. Those words made me think she loved me. So, like a idiot, I believed in her. WHY?

I thought she was in love of me. But, God knows why, that WASNT the truth. I thought she loved me, and the next morning, I started to feel the same thing. I mean, I started to love her again.

When we met again, I told her what I felt. She started with a: "uhm...you know... I'm confused". I inmediatly thought, she have a boyfriend, but she did not tell me yet.

She told me we inverted roles. That happened exactly last time. Time went on, I had to go, we shall met soon.

Life irony is, that I have met her. Again. Such a big ****** error is commited here. She told me I was an opportunist, but, after that, she told me she dont love me anymore. I was angry. She made me believe something that was not true. We had an argument. She told me I was and I am an idiot, and she won't stay with me. She told me I will be strong enough when I find my true love.

Sad history, but life as a *big flowers*

El Garci'

(Just a tad of cleaning up - Beirut)

[Decker]

Sorry to hear that man, it definitely can be sometimes. Don't get too bent up over it, being depressed just makes it worse. Call up some of your best mates and take a road trip or something or go camping or something to get your mind off of it.

[naut]

Keep your chin up dude. There are plenty more women out there, and I'm sure at least one of them will treat you better.

[CountArach]

We still love you here Inca, and I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say we are sorry to hear this.

[edyzmedieval]

Have a hug.

[Husar]

We still love you here Inca, and I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say we are sorry to hear this.

It's the end of your relationship but not the end of the world, keep that in mind, there's also no valley without mountains.

[Beirut]

Ahh, the broken hearts are flocking to the Frontroom for friendship in times of distress. And we're here for ya buddy.

Have a seat, we'll bring you a beer and a sandwich. We can't fix anything, but at least we can let you know you're neither alone, nor without hope.

All us men suffer in equal parts, it's our lot in life, and no man goes without a broken heart or a lost love. Like holding your dog as he takes his last breath and dies in your arms, it's a rite of passage. Unavoidable. And honestly, I can't imagine life without that depth of feeling.

[KukriKhan]

We can't fix anything, but at least we can let you know you're neither alone, nor without hope.

All us men suffer in equal parts, it's our lot in life, and no man goes without a broken heart or a lost love. Like holding your dog as he takes his last breath and dies in your arms, it's a rite of passage. Unavoidable. And honestly, I can't imagine life without that depth of feeling.

^^Words of wisdom^^ with which I agree.

It seems like the end of the world - it's supposed to feel that way; it means you're alive and a fully-functioning male human being. If you felt nothing, you'd be on the road to becoming a sociopath.

There will be other disappointments and pain down the road, with women, work, children, and so on. This episode is teaching you how to handle them without just rolling over and sucking your thumb in a fetal position, or lying to yourself that it doesn't hurt and you don't care. Both those are reactions of children - a man faces his pain, embraces it, learns from it, and moves on... just like you're doing.

So: you have my empathy today (because i/we have been there & done that). But more importantly, you have my hearty handshake and "Welcome to the World of Men".

And a beer. Anytime.

[Odin]

(Excuse me Beirut, I need some bad language)

Again, life laughed at me. It made me some damage inside. Why God I have such problems? As Bijo said, who isnt ***** up?.

Is this time of the life you dont know what to do with it. You try to build something, but its useless. It just is *look, you have made this, this is useless.* But, people always says: What do you lose with trying? Well, I have lost my last (with hope) chance with my ex-girlfriend. Everything was ok. She talked to me, I talked to her. We were good friends, like the last year.

So, the words that gave me hope came. She told me she liked me so much that she would love me. Those words made me think she loved me. So, like a idiot, I believed in her. WHY?

I thought she was in love of me. But, God knows why, that WASNT the truth. I thought she loved me, and the next morning, I started to feel the same thing. I mean, I started to love her again.

When we met again, I told her what I felt. She started with a: "uhm...you know... I'm confused". I inmediatly thought, she have a boyfriend, but she did not tell me yet.

She told me we inverted roles. That happened exactly last time. Time went on, I had to go, we shall met soon.

Life irony is, that I have met her. Again. Such a big ****** error is commited here. She told me I was an opportunist, but, after that, she told me she dont love me anymore. I was angry. She made me believe something that was not true. We had an argument. She told me I was and I am an idiot, and she won't stay with me. She told me I will be strong enough when I find my true love.

Sad history, but life as a *big flowers*

El Garci'

(Just a tad of cleaning up - Beirut)

Your user profile lists you at 16, is this correct? If it is you have my personal guarantee that the sun will shine again on your romantic life. For now, attempt to transpose that anguish into a positive outcome, when i was 16 I was playing american football and that was my avenue of redirection.

Whats yours? art, sport music?

[Andres]

You are growing up, Garci. It's a slow and painful proces.

Right now, you probably feel terrible. It's 100 % normal. If I were you, I'd take the easiest way (which may seem like the most difficult, but trust me: it's the easiest way): break all contact with this girl. Take as long as you need. In the meanwhile, do the things you like the most or just do nothing. Do as you see fit and what makes you feel better. But do not touch that phone, do not send her an email, do not go to her place. Things like this don't have easy nor quick solutions. They need time, sometimes weeks, sometimes several months.

But one day, the wounds will be healed or will have become easier to bear. I guess this is the first time that your heart got broken. It'll probably happen again and it will be as painful as it is now

But in the long run, you will benefit from this experience and you will become a stronger and more mature man

[doc_bean]

(Excuse me Beirut, I need some bad language)

Again, life laughed at me. It made me some damage inside. Why God I have such problems?

Honestly, if it's just about women than don't feel too bad about yourself, there will be others.

Pain is a part of life, you can either try to run away from it or accept it. No matter what you do, the pain will find you. So i suggest accepting it, people who can do that seem to turn out better in the end.

[Ice]

Life laughs at me (and I'm sure many others on this board) almost daily. It's life though. Best you can do is keep your chin up and keep trying.

If this is the worst thing that is happening to you, feel lucky. Many fish in the sea my friend. Just give it some time. Time heals.

[Big King Sanctaphrax]

Tough luck fella. Chin up though. Just think about it this way: even if you've metaphorically been kicked in the balls, at least you haven't been literally kicked there. There's always that.

[Kagemusha]

Its like the saying death stares to us all.Well there is no other sensible way other then stare back. If life laughs at you. Laugh back. You will get hurt, you will get betrayed, you will make mistakes and fail on your tasks. But the main thing is that if you have the courage to live life to the fullest, to have the courage to dive into the life by trying, each time you will became wiser and stronger. Each time it will be easier to laugh back eventually.

[Mouzafphaerre]

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You laugh at life mate!

Beirut and Kukri's posts, in particular, are worth printing out and getting framed.
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[edyzmedieval]

Why do I experience the same things? =/

I don't know, I felt depressed and human contact hasn't been to the standards. Plus, I like someone, but I'm too shy or something like it to do anything about it.

I don't even want to play on the computer...

[Lorenzo_H]

I suck at life. Plain and simple. Socially I have so much ground to recover that it is unbearable to think about. So, take heart in the fact that you aren't alone.

Listen to this song, it might raise your spirits. It usually helps people who are depressed; https://youtube.com/watch?v=ls7ila3srzI

[Decker]

Garcilaso de la Vega el Inca are you still alive ??? It's been almost a week man. What's up ?

[edyzmedieval]

I suck at life. Plain and simple. Socially I have so much ground to recover that it is unbearable to think about. So, take heart in the fact that you aren't alone.

Many of us do have problems with RL, including me.

[Viking]

I suck at life. Plain and simple. Socially I have so much ground to recover that it is unbearable to think about. So, take heart in the fact that you aren't alone.

Listen to this song, it might raise your spirits. It usually helps people who are depressed; https://youtube.com/watch?v=ls7ila3srzI

It isn't possible to suck at life; there are different ways of living it.

[CountArach]

Garcilaso de la Vega el Inca are you still alive ??? It's been almost a week man. What's up ?

He posted last on the last day of October. I'm sure he is just getting over this speed-bump, but will be back and stronger for it.

[Caius]

Garcilaso de la Vega el Inca are you still alive ??? It's been almost a week man. What's up ?

I'm alive, and I love you guys too.

[woad&fangs]

Good to know your still around and okay, Garci.

[Decker]

He posted last on the last day of October. I'm sure he is just getting over this speed-bump, but will be back and stronger for it.

That is true, but we seem to a pretty good support system when it comes to break-ups around here in the Frontroom, so I was just curious about it that's all.

I'm alive, and I love you guys too.

Well that's good. Started to get worried there.

[Moros]

hihi, I read "Wife laughed at me again" first. lol.

[edyzmedieval]

I'm alive, and I love you guys too.

This calls for drastic measures!!

[Pharnakes]

The best advice anyone can have if something like this happens is faind someone or something who is dependent on you for their own happinnes and well being, and who will never let you down like this. Personaly, if your circumstances allow for it, I would recomend a dog, but a younger (or even older) sibling or a very old friend (male and whom you have know since you were a child, and will thus never abandon you).

This can make such a diference. You need to find someone who is more important to you than your own life, and then even if you want to just give up yourself you will have no choice but to contiue becuase they need you to.

As I said I really would recomend a dog, they are know as man's best friend for a reason . And having a dog will help you in so many ways, he/she will force you to get out of the house in order to give him/her excercise, which in turn will get you excercise, which in turn can be a very big help to your own mental well being, quite apart from your physical being. And last, but definately not least, it is a wonderul feeling to know that there is a fellow being in this universe to whom you are everything, who looks up to you as being only a short step below god. If it can't be a girl, then a dog will do just as well.


Personaly I have just gone to University, been here for 3 months now, which is the 2nd longest period I have ever been without at least one dog being in my imidiate family circle, and I really am feeling the let down from it, I acctualy miss her more than I miss my father, because I can atleast speak to my family on the phone, but my dog... Bad me musn't steal somone else sympathy thread


Ah well, I'm going home next week so hopefuly there'll be some nice weather for once and I can get in a few days out with the dog.

[Caius]

I suck at life. Plain and simple. Socially I have so much ground to recover that it is unbearable to think about. So, take heart in the fact that you aren't alone

I bet I suck more than you do!

[El Diablo]

Not meaning to lessen the pain you are feeling Inca but I just got off the phone having heard that my friends wife has passed on.

Lung cancer got her at 31.

She never smoked in her life and neither did her family.

Those in Aussie (particularly Queensland) may have seen her on TV flying by on a hot air balloon ride thing for cancer awareness about a year ago.

Man that is a kick in the slats. Bit of a downer all around the .org this week huh?

Hope you soon feel better Inca. Lets hope the sun comes up tomorrow...

[Husar]

Not meaning to lessen the pain you are feeling Inca but I just got off the phone having heard that my friends wife has passed on.

Lung cancer got her at 31.

That is really, really sad.