SFTS Just lost something important (PLease Read)

**Husar** · 11-26-2007, 11:38

I'm very sorry for you SFTS, I can only wish you all the best for the future.
She may come back, you may find another one, hard to tell but I hope you'll be happy either way.

Originally Posted by Papewaio

For a long term relationship you should ask yourself this question "Do I want this woman to be the mother of my children?"

That's what I always ask myself before attempting a relationship.

**Odin** · 11-26-2007, 13:14

Tough break man, but you know what the "nod" didnt seem all that convincing to me. Be open to a reconcilliation if you like the girl, just dont count on it.

**macsen rufus** · 11-26-2007, 15:30

Quote:
Originally Posted by Papewaio
For a long term relationship you should ask yourself this question "Do I want this woman to be the mother of my children?"

Personally I ask "Will I still feel this way when either of us needs bed-baths, a Zimmer frame, and nursing care?"

Gah, I'm single again, it's a hard choice sometimes....

Tough times, STFS, and it sure hurts. Just hope one day you'll find that rare one who has you looking back on this and wondering why it seemed to matter. Hard as it may seem, there are things that hurt more though, and you'll probably meet most of 'em before your days are out. I know it's not much consolation, but remember that to lose it, you have to have it first, and you did, for however short a while.

For now, wish I could e-mail you a shot or two of bourbon

At least claim your free evening of forgivable drunkenness if you have a good buddy in town

**Fragony** · 11-26-2007, 15:46

Sounds completily fixable to me.

'She looked at me and looked away and said she didnt think she had been a good enough girlfriend and she thought she was holding me back.'

-->translation: call me first then your mother. She is playing you like a violin, you are heartbroken that helps, hold that thought.

**Geoffrey S** · 11-26-2007, 15:55

It's never nice, but think of one thing: the worse it feels at the moment shows just how good a times you had. Remember those, and not the break-up.

**Adrian II** · 11-26-2007, 17:34

At your age you'll always have tomorrow. I have a lot of yesterdays.

But yeah, it stinks.

**El Diablo** · 11-26-2007, 20:50

You guys really don't understand women, no wonder most of you are married.

by Fraggony

That is the best quote of the day. Classic!!!

**Vladimir** · 11-26-2007, 15:55

Where's Banquo? We need Shakespeare quotes.

Not a good enough girlfriend? Holding you back? Either she has some real self-esteem issues (lots of sex can be a symptom) or it was a short term fling. Enjoy the pain while it lasts. If you're not in pain or cold, you're probably dead. Chicks dig scars, especially the ones that run deep.

**Fragony** · 11-26-2007, 16:10

You guys really don't understand women, no wonder most of you are married. Nothing is lost Strike, quite the contrary, you completily misinterpeted what just happened. She wants things to be more serious and wants some devotion from your part, that is what she said, 'holding you back', they are masters of reverse psycholigy alright.

**ICantSpellDawg** · 11-26-2007, 16:24

Necessary for your development. Hang out with some friends (male ones) and move on. Nothing that anyone can say will do much. Perfect girls have very little drama. Fuming through writing or talking with friends helped me when I was young and felt things.

**Vladimir** · 11-26-2007, 16:25

If I have a son and he asks me what women want, I'll tell him that question lies on the assumption that they know what they want. Sometimes it's "good enough" FTW!

**Adrian II** · 11-26-2007, 22:33

Originally Posted by Fragony

You guys really don't understand women, no wonder most of you are married. Nothing is lost Strike, quite the contrary, you completily misinterpeted what just happened. She wants things to be more serious and wants some devotion from your part, that is what she said, 'holding you back', they are masters of reverse psycholigy alright.

Jesus Fragony, you're starting to sound like Dr Phil.

And yeah, most of us are married. Given the choice between that and being chained naked to a radiator in my basement, my woman was all for it. I keep the chains around though.