Dating a Japanese Girl

[Vladimir]

There should be a great difference between a native and traditional Japanese and another one with Japanese origins.

Being Mr. Niceguy would definitely somehow fail at the second kind. However it will fail at all girls if you only be Mr. Niceguy. My advice on women is "make an impact, no matter how. Don't push it along the lines of rudeness though. But don't avoid having fun of her if need be"

I think this is mostly about a girl than being Japanese. But as long as I've seen here and there, the native and traditional ones would count you out if you behave like a college "gazelle hunter".

As long as she likes you, she'd even like it two of you shopping from a greengrocery's. But going to some place which would provide you with ideas to open chats would serve you well, rather than debating the size of the cucumbers.

Good luck.

P.S. Learn some basic Japanese. It wouldn't hurt at all.

I knew I'd see you here!

I, ah, may have made an impact when we first met. I think I made her a little nervous, hopefully in a good way.

I guess I'll have to learn more than "wassabi" and "no-dachi."

Did she choose sushi? If not, maybe you wanna pick a cuisine she's not already an expert on. Other than that, I don't know enough about dating Japanese chicks to contribute. Where's soly when you need him?

Good luck, Vlad!

Yes, thank you (and everyone else!). The hypothetical second date would be much different, something like Spanish tapas, third maybe something really Japanese. Thank you for your contribution, and being the first poster. However, I'm not quite in Soly's league yet .

[SwordsMaster]

Man, women are women, even if they are japanese. And men are men, in the same way, before i get jumped on by some overzealous PC watchers. So even thought their cultural backgrounds are different, they "work" in the same way. So whatever makes them tick in Greece will be valid in Laos, at a gut level. That is all that matters anyway. If she's attracted to you at a gut level, everything else is polish.

[Rodion Romanovich]

Man, women are women, even if they are japanese. And men are men, in the same way, before i get jumped on by some overzealous PC watchers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFBOQzSk14c

[Rodion Romanovich]

@OT:
Best tips:
- Choose your level on the scale arrogance-niceness appropriately. Neither too urgent to be liked, nor too arrogant and uncaring about what she thinks of you.
- Start out the evening comparatively stiff, reserved and close to hostile, but polite. It gives you respect and makes you appear mentally strong and high up in the sexual rank fight hierarchy, and when you then relax more during the evening you give her a sense of accomplishment, which makes her happy. This point doesn't apply if you have a relationship in which you're already very friendly towards each other.
- If you can find a chance where it is legitimate to make body contact: 1. don't hesitate!, 2. be confident when doing it, and 3. target neither too neutral nor too intimate areas

[Samurai Waki]

Not too sure about dating across the cultural barrier, the only non-American I've ever dated was Italian, and i'm not too sure it was really even...well dating. (more like a fling).

any who, my personal opinion is that you shouldn't feel pressured, chances are she doesn't want you to be anything else but you.

and if you're really, really concerned about the Japanese Women thing. I believe it would be more necessary to have Papewaio's input here.

[Kagemusha]

Date the girl, not the culture.

[Samurai Waki]

Date the girl, not the culture.

Completely agree. But I don't know if it is wise to dismiss her culture entirely, I mean don't be rigid. But curious is good. But, my perspective could also be entirely dismissed... I wouldn't know. apparently I'm not good with dating until I get myself into a lot of trouble.

[Kagemusha]

Completely agree. But I don't know if it is wise to dismiss her culture entirely, I mean don't be rigid. But curious is good. But, my perspective could also be entirely dismissed... I wouldn't know. apparently I'm not good with dating until I get myself into a lot of trouble.

I agree with your point and i admit that my advice sounds very black and white. What im trying to say is that the focus should be on the woman herself. Im sure women from any culture have dated men who know about their culture, mainly men from the same culture. If you will perform a Japanese tea ceremony to her, it doesnt necessarily do you any good. Ofcourse it could if you can give message to her that you did learn it just because of her.Show her that you are interested of her, mentally and physically, take her into consideration, without turning into a lapdog yourself. Show that you are a man and you appreciate her because of her character and also as a woman. Thats all i can pretty much advice. Technicalities are then ..well technicalities.

[Beirut]

Date the girl, not the culture.

Oh, I don't know about that.

Promise a Canadian woman you'll keep her warm through the winter and you've already got her down to her third level of thermal underwear.

[Vladimir]

Oh, I don't know about that.

Promise a Canadian woman you'll keep her warm through the winter and you've already got her down to her third level of thermal underwear.

Third level?

That reminds me of the time where I was "encouraged" to go swimming in Ontario.

[Kagemusha]

Oh, I don't know about that.

Promise a Canadian woman you'll keep her warm through the winter and you've already got her down to her third level of thermal underwear.

That applies to Finland also, so it could be one of the many reasons id advice not to date the culture, or should i say thermal underwear.