Hear me out...

[Sarmatian]

I need to get something of my chest. Some of you know, but most don't that my wife was pregnant and the baby was due in the second half of August. Unfortunately, she got diagnosed with pre-eclampsia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pre-eclampsia), a very rare disorder, about 15 days ago and she was admitted into a hospital. Things got complicated rather quickly, her health was in grave danger, and doctors were forced to deliver that baby yesterday, after just 26 weeks. They didn't expect the baby to pull through. Miraculously, she did.

The not so good news is that she is in intensive care, in critical condition. I've been a member of this community for almost ten years, and consider many of you my friends, even though we often have different views on things. I've wanted to share my grief with you and to ask you to send a thought or say a prayer for my daughter, whatever you think may help. I don't care what, it's the intention that counts. I'm not a religious or a superstitious man, but an experience such as this can change a man.

We've already pulled off one miracle, but we need one more.

I'm not sure how often I'll be here in the immediate future, maybe I'll just come and post something totally unrelated in a different thread but I will read this thread and I will appreciate your support, even if I don't answer. Thank you.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter, I hope and pray God keeps all three of you safe.

[rvg]

I need to get something of my chest...

Sorry to hear this bro. Best wishes to your wife and your baby. Don't lose hope.

[Crandar]

I wish the best for all your family, Sarmatian. Hopefully, everything will go well.

[Hooahguy]

I wish you and your family only the best, we are all hoping everything will have a happy ending.

:bow:

[wooly_mammoth]

Faith has nothing to do with it. Strong baby and good doctors made the difference, and they'll do it again!

[Kadagar_AV]

At times like this I wish I was religious, so I could feel like I actually could do something...

*And no, I don't mean that in any bad way what so ever*

All I can say is... What a trauma you must be living through right now... I can not even begin to understand your uncertainty and anxiousness!!

My hope and thoughts go out to you and your family tonight and on, and regardless of the outcome I hope you will let us know.

Also don't hesitate to post about what happened regardless of the outcome, I will personally bash anyone who would write something stupid.

Godspeed, and ALL my best wishes mate.

Jag håller tummarna för dig och din familj!! *the meaning of that can't really be properly translated, but it generally means that I root and care*

[Andres]

It's been ages, but if you think it'll help, I'll pray.Wishing you, your wife and the little one all the best.If you want to talk, vent, need a distraction, whatever, then we're here for you.

[Fragony]

I don't pray but my thoughts are with you, I hope things will turn out fine.

[Papewaio]

Best wishes. Keep yourself healthy so you can look after your wife.

[Husar]

All the best to you and your family.
I hope it turns out well.

[Gregoshi]

You got it. All the best to you and your family. May the doctors, nurses and hospital staff all be on their "A" game with your wife and daughter.

[a completely inoffensive name]

Hope everything turns out well, my thoughts are with you.

[Fisherking]

All my thoughts and prayers go out for your family. Best wishes for a speedy recovery for you all.

[Kagemusha]

Best wishes to your family and strength for you all in order to pull through this ordeal.

[Ironside]

Best wishes for you and your family. I hope everything will turn out well.

[Brenus]

May the technology and science that saved me be good for you and your family. Best wishes.

[Rhyfelwyr]

I will keep your daughter in my prayers. :bow:

[InsaneApache]

Blimey mate that's heavy stuff. Being a father and a grandfather I know what you're going through. I was in a very similar situation 20 years ago. Keep your spirits up and support your wife. She'll need it. Take some time for yourself as well, you also need it.

I shall finish by saying that I wish health and happiness for you all at this time.

[Sarmatian]

Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.

[I of the Storm]

I'm sad to read this. You have my compassion, Sarmatian. Being a dad myself I'm having a glimpse on the magnitude of your loss, perhaps. For what it's worth, I'm sending some good thoughts.

[Kadagar_AV]

Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.

Take care of your wife mate... Whatever YOU feel, she will probably feel it harder... Just keep that in mind...

This is when you have to step up as husband and be the rock to rely on... I hope she has good friends she can talk to, if not you will have to fill that job too...

I am extremely sorry for you mate. But this is really where you have to take a step back from your own feelings, and concentrate on your wifes.. I don't mean to sound cold hearted, but you are probably more able to be stabile than her, if I know you right from over the years...

My thoughts will go out to you today though, love from Sweden!!

Also, of course I am terribly sorry for your loss. F**K man!!



EDIT: Bear in mind that your wife will probably blame herself... That's fully normal... That is why I am so hardcore about looking after her. Don't let that thought fester in her mind!!

It will poison her forever if you let it root...

[Crandar]

Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.
I am really sorry to hear that, Sarmatian. Losing a child is the worst thing that could happen to someone, so you and your wife have my sincere condolences. I truly hope that you will both manage to overcome the difficulties.

[Fragony]

Really sorry for you, my condoleances. Can't say anything nor should I, my sympaties and good luck dealing with your loss.

[Husar]

That's tough, Sarmatian, I wish you and your wife lots of strength!

[InsaneApache]

So sad mate, sorry for your loss.

I shall elaborate on my trouble 20 years ago. I too lost a baby daughter back then. It's one of, if not, the hardest thing to bear. You and your wife will need time to get used to this. There are organisations that can help you both. The hospital should be able to help there. You will need to support each other in this time of pain. It does help. So does crying a lot.

I shall stop there but if you need someone to talk too who knows what you're going through, please feel free to PM me and I shall do my utmost to help.

Again, my condolences.

[Kralizec]

That's terrible news. My condoleances and best wishes to you and your wife, Sarmatian.

[Andres]

So terribly sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences, Sarmatian.

I'd hug you if I could.

[Montmorency]

Don’t cry
Over the happy dead
But weep for those
who keep them.

:sad:

[Hooahguy]

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

[Brenus]

So sorry. Out of words.

[Kagemusha]

Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.

My condolences.I am not going to pretend i can understand what you and your wife are going through. We are all in the hands of fate and maybe she was too good for this world. While i have no words. Here is some music for your comfort. While this is finnish.Music is a language in itself and i hope it can comfort you. My condolences.:bow:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=908IZPBag30

[Vuk]

I am so sorry to hear that. I really am. I wish you all the best and will be praying for you and your wife.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

That's completely shit - I don't normally believe in profanity here but I don't have any nice words for this sort of thing.

~:grouphug:

[HopAlongBunny]

Very sorry for your loss.
Wishing you and your wife good health and good fortune in the future.

[Ironside]

My condolences. I hope both you and your wife endures and comes out of this as fine as you can be.

[Furunculus]

i'm very sorry for your loss, Sarmation.

[Gregoshi]

So very sorry to hear this Sarmatian. My condolences to you both. May you find the strength to get through this from each other, your family, your friends and wherever else you find solace.

[Sigurd]

Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.
Oh man... this brings back tears to my eyes. I feel a fraction of your pain. Last Monday (11th of May) I and my wife went to the hospital for an early ultrasound checkup. What was supposed to be an uplifting event to see our child for the first time ended in tragedy. The little life we expected to see on the monitor lay silent and immobile. The little boy had decided to call it a day prob. 2 weeks before the checkup (they called it a missed abortion). I have only told my father this, but your horrible experience prompted me to share. I think of the countless parents who experience similar griefs all over the world. I still feel hollow inside and keeping distracted only works so far. There are no words that can help in this... Gah!! this makes me so sad.

[ICantSpellDawg]

We will keep your new family in our prayers.
I hope that the fear and frustration gives way to joy very soon.

[Husar]

Oh man... this brings back tears to my eyes. I feel a fraction of your pain. Last Monday (11th of May) I and my wife went to the hospital for an early ultrasound checkup. What was supposed to be an uplifting event to see our child for the first time ended in tragedy. The little life we expected to see on the monitor lay silent and immobile. The little boy had decided to call it a day prob. 2 weeks before the checkup (they called it a missed abortion). I have only told my father this, but your horrible experience prompted me to share. I think of the countless parents who experience similar griefs all over the world. I still feel hollow inside and keeping distracted only works so far. There are no words that can help in this... Gah!! this makes me so sad.

Oh Sigurd, I'm really sorry for your loss as well. I wish your family the strength to pull through this.

[Fragony]

My best wishes to you as well Sigurd, it must be horrible to go though that.

[Gregoshi]

Sympathies to you and your wife as well Sigurd. Such a sad and terrible thing to go through.

[ICantSpellDawg]

Oh man... this brings back tears to my eyes. I feel a fraction of your pain. Last Monday (11th of May) I and my wife went to the hospital for an early ultrasound checkup. What was supposed to be an uplifting event to see our child for the first time ended in tragedy. The little life we expected to see on the monitor lay silent and immobile. The little boy had decided to call it a day prob. 2 weeks before the checkup (they called it a missed abortion). I have only told my father this, but your horrible experience prompted me to share. I think of the countless parents who experience similar griefs all over the world. I still feel hollow inside and keeping distracted only works so far. There are no words that can help in this... Gah!! this makes me so sad.

Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear this.

[Papewaio]

Sympathies to Sarmatian and to Sigurd.

Life can be pretty horrible, but until a better system comes along I'm going to drink it all in. May you and your loved ones get through this bitter experience and find sweetness again.

I wish that instead of just being able to send data quickly we could teleport to our friends in need.

Till then: ~:grouphug:

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Ugh, guys, I'm so sorry for both of you. You know I'm a religious man, I'm not going to harp on that, I'm just going to say that days like these make it hard for me to understand the way the world works.

I think I'll leave it there, just... ugh.

[InsaneApache]

Sigurd, words...

[HopAlongBunny]

Wishing you and your wife well Sigurd
If its any consolation, my mother has five brothers and 4 sisters; would have had 6 brothers but one miscarried and was lost.
It happens, but it need not deter you from dreams of a family.

[Andres]

So sorry to hear about that Sigurd. My sympaties to you, your wife and your family.

[Seamus Fermanagh]

Haven't been on this forum in a while.

Deeply saddened by your loss; and I will say prayers for all three of you.

[Seamus Fermanagh]

And reading further I am still more saddened.

Sigurd, you and yours are in my prayers as well.

[Sarmatian]

Thanks for the support. It's been a really hard time, but we're feeling a little better now. Of course, it will take quite a long time to feel normal again, if it ever happens. Friends and family really helped us.

Sigurd, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

I may speak more about this later, but I want you guys to know that your support was appreciated and helpful.

[edyzmedieval]

Sarmatian and Sigurd, you have my sincerest sympathies both of you.

I also want to add that I am touched by the unity and kindness around this community, I hope that this also has helped both of you.

Godspeed, my friends. :bow:

[InsaneApache]

Thanks for the support. It's been a really hard time, but we're feeling a little better now. Of course, it will take quite a long time to feel normal again, if it ever happens. Friends and family really helped us.

Sigurd, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

I may speak more about this later, but I want you guys to know that your support was appreciated and helpful.

I know where you're coming from. At these times the kindest words mean more than you can imagine.

[Visor]

Sarmatian and Sigurd you have my condolences.

And IA as well.

[Strike For The South]

My thoughts and prayers to both of you

[Myth]

Sorry for your loss man. You will have another baby. A son. I just feel it in my bones.