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woad&fangs
08-18-2007, 17:20
So, I asked out a friend of mine 3 days ago and yesterday morning I got a txt message from her saying that she isn't ready for another relationship yet.(her last boy"friend" was a complete ******* so I understand). I'm not asking for advice or anything like that because the only thing I can really do is wait until she is ready to try and have another relationship. She said she would try to call me this morning but its already 11 O'clock and she has yet to call so I'm just hoping that typing this will get all this emo out of my system. I know I shouldn't feel as bad as I do because I knew she might say this and the only thing that has really changed between us is that now she knows I think she is attractive and has a great personality. Anyone else broken up with someone through a txt message?
The Stranger
08-18-2007, 17:41
never date friends... heheh msn dude... msn :P im not really good at it.. but you must do it asap (in general) because from my xp waiting only makes it worse, for both
HoreTore
08-18-2007, 19:50
Get stinking drunk together. That ought to sort things out....
If it doesn't, hey, it's always fun to get drunk.
Strike For The South
08-19-2007, 01:35
Get stinking drunk together. That ought to sort things out....
If it doesn't, hey, it's always fun to get drunk.
QFT. Either you two hook up and get set back on a relationship path or you dont or you two hook up and it just ends up complacting things more. however I would like to point out that in any of these scnarios you are still drunk so the night wouldnt be a total loss.
Follow my advice, stay sober.
And be pacient man.
Get stinking drunk together. That ought to sort things out....
If it doesn't, hey, it's always fun to get drunk.
Always fun.
But that's harsh, txt message!?
But that's harsh, txt message!?
Romanticism had dropped too much down.
Caius, I actually agree with you on this one, about drinking. :grin: Alcohol + intense feelings = not good. This is something to think over when you've got a clear head and frame of mind. Getting smashed then hooking up does NOT indicate that there's anything like a relationship to be had or continued, that's just drunken sex. Not that it's always a bad thing... :laugh4: Just not in situations like this.
Romanticism had dropped too much down.
QFT.
Rodion Romanovich
08-19-2007, 13:57
So, I asked out a friend of mine 3 days ago and yesterday morning I got a txt message from her saying that she isn't ready for another relationship yet.(her last boy"friend" was a complete ******* so I understand). I'm not asking for advice or anything like that because the only thing I can really do is wait until she is ready to try and have another relationship. She said she would try to call me this morning but its already 11 O'clock and she has yet to call so I'm just hoping that typing this will get all this emo out of my system. I know I shouldn't feel as bad as I do because I knew she might say this and the only thing that has really changed between us is that now she knows I think she is attractive and has a great personality. Anyone else broken up with someone through a txt message?
Maybe just reply to her with a txt message that shows that you're both self-confident and possibly also capable of amusing her...?
And look richer always works too.
The Stranger
08-19-2007, 15:08
whats QFT?
The_Mark
08-19-2007, 16:44
QFT (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/QFT)
Be careful there, though, woad&fangs. The last time I got a message, or rather, an e-mail like that, telling that I'm a great guy et all but she's not quite ready for another relationship etc. etc., well, in few days she was in the laps of my (second) best friend, with me still being crazy fallen for her. It sucked. Big time.
Rodion Romanovich
08-19-2007, 18:55
QFT (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/QFT)
:idea2: I think he meant "quantum field theory" :idea2: :smash:
woad&fangs
08-20-2007, 19:49
Alright since I posted last I had a lot of rainfall on saturday night and my downstairs flooded. Hence the me not posting till now. I found out she txt'd because she is at her aunts house and she apparently can't call or recieve calls from there for some reason. so I feel a little bit better about that. I also found out that at least part of the reason she is saying she is not ready for another relationship is because her ex boy"friend" has somehow brought another one of our friends into the drama between the two of them. Also, how old do you guys really think I am??? Whenever I have reread some of my posts I thought they made me sound younger than I really am but I guess I was wrong.
Love? Blech...
In any case usually the principle seems this: make woman feel emotionally GOOD and ATTRACTED to you. That means: be funny, be interesting, be confident, be unpredictable, etc., etc.
I don't know your age, but you seem young. How it applies to teens if applicable? Well, I guess the same principle...?
edyzmedieval
08-20-2007, 20:46
Chicks love funny guys.
But, when a boy tells a girl that they love her, she freaks out. Why?!!!!
Strike For The South
08-20-2007, 20:49
Chicks love funny guys.
But, when a boy tells a girl that they love her, she freaks out. Why?!!!!
becuase that makes you creepy?
edyzmedieval
08-20-2007, 20:53
Lol?!
Look, your with a girl. You get along nicely. You love her, you dont know if she does the same. And then, you say you want more, and you love her.
Why the heck do they freak out when you tell em that? I mean, when a girl says this to you, if you like her, then fine, but if you don't, you don't give a damn about her actually, you just maintain a nice friendship.
Lorenzo_H
08-20-2007, 22:23
Follow my advice, stay sober.
And be pacient man.
Sound advice man. Be patient and be sober.
Sound advice man. Be patient and be sober.
Believe me, drunk can be pretty funny
~:cheers:
The_Mark
08-20-2007, 22:42
A beer (or another drink of your choice) or two is never for the worse.
Believe me, drunk can be pretty funny
~:cheers:
You will make a very bad mistake.
You will make a very bad mistake.
Nah I'm never badly drunk, like those irritating people that live on the same floor as me. When I'm drunk I'm a very entertaining person ... hence why I'm not drunk that often ... having the ability to drink 10 beers and feel nothing is not a blessing, believe me.
Geoffrey S
08-20-2007, 23:23
You win some, you lose some. Know when it's not worth pursuing. Fact that this happened via txt is indicative enough, methinks.
Hehe, that happened to a friend of mine with his GF of ooo say... 2 1/2 yrs. It couldn't have been better timing, he's going into college this year.
As for me... never had that happen let alone a break-up...but! If it does, then, I'd tell her we're still together until she tells it to me face-to-face.
Rodion Romanovich
08-21-2007, 09:57
Lol?!
Look, your with a girl. You get along nicely. You love her, you dont know if she does the same. And then, you say you want more, and you love her.
Why the heck do they freak out when you tell em that? I mean, when a girl says this to you, if you like her, then fine, but if you don't, you don't give a damn about her actually, you just maintain a nice friendship.
Well, when you make her laugh etc., that is a good scenario for her to deny the truth and pretend she likes what happens between you. Then, when you say you love her, the atmosphere gets thick and serious, and she realizes that she's only been lying to herself up to that point, and she starts thinking what a loser she is for not managing to get someone richer/better-looking/taller/less intelligent/etc/etc, :idea2: and then she starts getting scared and think something like: "OMG!!! Will I spend the rest of my life with THAT guy??!!!" Alternatively, it's the combination of she wishing you well and thinking she's inferior to you, and thinking you should aim higher, or that since you're superior to her, she can't trust you because you would be a too powerful opponent when you start fighting over who should make dinner and take the dishes :furious3: . So - NEVER tell a woman you love her, unless you're married to her already (and your wife is a religious fundamentalist of a type that believes people who divorce burn in hell for eternity), or you can, upon saying it, make your voice sound like you just told her the time or that you will go to the toilet :toilet: and will soon come back, or something similar.
:juggle2:
:jester:
edyzmedieval
08-21-2007, 20:35
That helped a lot Legio. ~:(
I'm in a worser condition than before!
The big question: How do you know a girl likes you?
Geoffrey S
08-21-2007, 20:52
You ask her.
woad&fangs
08-21-2007, 21:25
well, if you ask her if she likes you then its pretty obvious you want to know because you like her. It always helps to be friends with her friends.~:grouphug:
The big question: How do you know a girl likes you?
Go up to her. Tell her that, "hey you like me, I like me, so lets mate, I mean date! See you at 7."
Go up to her. Tell her that, "hey you like me, I like me, so lets mate, I mean date! See you at 7."
:laugh4:
HoreTore
08-22-2007, 00:03
The big question: How do you know a girl likes you?
You can tell that by looking at the other side of the bed in the morning. If there's someone there, odds are that someone has a thing for you ~;)
You can tell that by looking at the other side of the bed in the morning. If there's someone there, odds are that someone has a thing for you ~;)
If she isn't there, she has even more of a thing for you because she's preparing your breakfast. Then again, I wake up every morning, noone's there, and there's no breakfast either. :shrug:
Rodion Romanovich
08-22-2007, 11:43
That helped a lot Legio. ~:(
I'm in a worser condition than before!
The big question: How do you know a girl likes you?
My piece of advice is: Don't bother finding out if she likes you! If she does, you will find out sooner or later anyway. Don't struggle to find out whether she likes you - struggle to make sure she does, whether she did so before or not!
Rodion Romanovich
08-22-2007, 11:48
If she isn't there, she has even more of a thing for you because she's preparing your breakfast. Then again, I wake up every morning, noone's there, and there's no breakfast either. :shrug:
Now, if you wake up, and find there's someone there, even though you had noone there when you went to bed, that's a real sign that she likes you! Or, in the case that someone turns out to be a "he", go to the nearest hospital and make an HIV test... :skull:
Now, if you wake up, and find there's someone there, even though you had noone there when you went to bed, that's a real sign that she likes you! Or, in the case that someone turns out to be a "he", go to the nearest hospital and make an HIV test... :skull:
Chances of that happening are very low, I always lock the door(basically because then I can't go outside without a key...).
My piece of advice is: Don't bother finding out if she likes you! If she does, you will find out sooner or later anyway. Don't struggle to find out whether she likes you - struggle to make sure she does, whether she did so before or not!
I think that's a good advice, though there is a chance that a) she will never like you simply because she doesn't like the way you are and b) she will like you as a good friend and it's not always possible to go one step further.
That said, I'm eagerly awaiting Saturday.:jumping:
edyzmedieval
08-22-2007, 16:10
How I hate that damned b... A won't be a problem, but if you go far, B will equal disaster.
In my experience.. talking about serious stuff or asking serious things is disastrous. They seem to prefer to lie then to hurt you, and end up hurting you 1000 times worse. My first and till now last ex appearantly was feeling bad about something, she ignored me when asking about it.. and it ended up like we couldn't talk about anything anymore, because I really wanted to know what bothered her so I/we could do something about it, and she didn't.. so basically we had very few contact, until she decided to break up.. I still don't know what it was that bothered her, and doubting about that made the process of getting back normal/happy quite long/painful. I'm over it now, luckily, and going to university so I'm meeting all kinds of cool girls now. I guess there could be one or a few suitable among them. ~:):book:
Good luck, all!
pevergreen
08-24-2007, 15:24
*hopes intensly friends wont come and read this*
The advice of "make sure she likes you, dont ask" could be good. Time to try.
But if they have recently come out of a relationship...wait.
Happened twice to me. Broke up with a lovely young lady, who was convieniately "not over" her last one....of 4-5 months earlier. Ah well.
Come back to school the next year, all is fine and dandy. I decide to get friends together for my birthday. Bit of screwing around in the pool. What do you know! She and my best friend of 12 years now (i think) are hitting on each other. Great. :inquisitive:
That was in feburary. They seem happy :shrug:
Numerous other examples. But hey, enough of my ranting :tongue:
My advice to another secondary school student. Dont tell them you like them. Ever. It turns out bad. Just wait, or leak it to one of their friends.
A good (young) woman? They don't exist. "Suitable", perhaps. You might compromise, but they always have some kind of problem (at least one) usually in personality or behaviour (simply because it's so). If she is perfect, well... no, a perfect woman doesn't exist either :P
Be careful if it regards your friends and women. A woman can easily cause conflict between a few men (and conflict within you), especially if she's good at it and even more so if the man/men is/are vulnerable. No woman is worth a good friendship you have with buddies.
There are ways to make women like you. It all boils down to psychology... knowing what works and what doesn't and knowing how women are in general. You either learn the ways by analyzing with your mind or you already practise them unconsciously if you are a natural. Having both is even better since it makes you aware of what you have been doing to even enhance your control and apply it as you see fit.
Many guys simply don't understand women and that's where the problem usually is.
Many guys simply don't understand women and that's where the problem usually is.
If you understand them too well, they tend to see you as a platonic friend and nothing more. Sooner or later they will tell you that they want to find a girlfriend for you.:sweatdrop:
Yeah, I know at least two of them and I'm currently very interested in one of them. Well, we will see how that turns out.:laugh4:
edit: They both also told me I'd be the perfect man for a relationship, maybe I'm just too good at hiding my real intentions. :laugh4:
At least that would be something I can change.:eyebrows:
Anyway, good luck and be nice to all you singles in this thread.:2thumbsup:
If you understand them too well, they tend to see you as a platonic friend and nothing more.
so true :thumbsdown: :wall:
:gah: <- This sums up my history with girls
But it's cool, I'm working on one sloooowly.
For me too. A couple of quotes from this thread, and you have all of my painful experiences with girls till now. Reading this makes me think it must be kind of impossible have a relationship and keeping it(for me, at least) unless there are girls that don't behave/think as weird as the other ones. Hmmm:book:
well.. let's get back to work. :embarassed: :balloon2: :juggle2:
edyzmedieval
08-24-2007, 21:19
So let's presume this. You love the girl, and you don't know if the feeling is the same for her. You ask one of her best friends.
But she leaks it, so that's why I don't quite trust the best friends, because that's what best friends are... :skull:
So, ehm, how do you get out of this with a clean face?
woad&fangs
08-24-2007, 21:32
So let's presume this. You love the girl, and you don't know if the feeling is the same for her. You ask one of her best friends.
But she leaks it, so that's why I don't quite trust the best friends, because that's what best friends are... :skull:
So, ehm, how do you get out of this with a clean face?
You should just ask the girl out, since she already knows you like her there is nothing to lose. If you don't ask her out then you'll probably end up in the awkward situation I'm in where the girl knows I like her and at least two of her friends know I like her but there is nothing I can really do about it.
edyzmedieval
08-24-2007, 21:45
And what happens when you 2 are in a boarding school and nothing you can do about it? :skull:
[QUOTE=Husar]If you understand them too well, they tend to see you as a platonic friend and nothing more. Sooner or later they will tell you that they want to find a girlfriend for you.:sweatdrop:
[QUOTE]
In that case, the man/guy in question was not performing the right actions or performed them wrongly in some way. It would severely put in question his knowledge.
What I am saying is that you must manipulate in the proper ways. The basic point is that a woman must FEEL EMOTIONALLY GOOD about the man and she must be ATTRACTED to him. If the man in question did not achieve this effect, he did not play his cards right.
*Southern accent* Hel', even iv you's po', youken have many wííímen, ya hear?
In that case, the man/guy in question was not performing the right actions or performed them wrongly in some way. It would severely put in question his knowledge.
I never claimed to know a lot about girls, but I don't think anyone knows enough to get every girl to love him. There's also something about being yourself, I wouldn't want to play someone else for all my life to keep a girl, ya know.:sweatdrop:
pevergreen
08-25-2007, 00:38
Dont hold grudges.
(:laugh4: My example earlier. She is going out with Twilightblade)
Hmm, just had a bit of a heated moment with a female friend yesterday.
Told her she was "An evil manipulative :daisy: who causes people to die inside"
It's true though. She screws with their minds for fun.
She told me that "you're fighting back, that makes it worse. No wonder you cant keep or get a girlfriend"
:sweatdrop:
One thing. Dont trust in your friends about this matter.
She told me that "you're fighting back, that makes it worse. No wonder you cant keep or get a girlfriend"
SHE'S THE ONE!! Go for it:2thumbsup:
You should just ask the girl out, since she already knows you like her there is nothing to lose. If you don't ask her out then you'll probably end up in the awkward situation I'm in where the girl knows I like her and at least two of her friends know I like her but there is nothing I can really do about it.
I know the feeling, and it's terrible.
SHE'S THE ONE!! Go for it:2thumbsup:
:laugh4:
edyzmedieval
08-25-2007, 10:11
SHE'S THE ONE!! Go for it:2thumbsup:
:laugh4:
Exactly! Take her out, and you'll know what you'll get.
pevergreen
08-25-2007, 12:16
A long and painful death? :laugh4:
I'll keep everyone posted. Maybe I will ask her out...:wink:
Rodion Romanovich
08-25-2007, 13:53
Dont hold grudges.
(:laugh4: My example earlier. She is going out with Twilightblade)
Hmm, just had a bit of a heated moment with a female friend yesterday.
Told her she was "An evil manipulative :daisy: who causes people to die inside"
It's true though. She screws with their minds for fun.
She told me that "you're fighting back, that makes it worse. No wonder you cant keep or get a girlfriend"
:sweatdrop:
Be careful breeding with such a ***** or you may end up with:
http://thumbs.photo.net/photo/1442359-sm.jpg
http://www.abc.net.au/thingo/img/ep34/horror01.jpg
:creep:
woad&fangs
08-25-2007, 14:08
"An evil manipulative :daisy: who causes people to die inside"
Basically sums up the :daisy: exboy"friend" in my situation.
edyzmedieval
08-25-2007, 20:21
Ah, how evil can some women be...
Ah, how evil can some women be...
How long have you got?
How long have you got?
:laugh4:
Now I'm curious.
A long and painful death? :laugh4:
I'll keep everyone posted. Maybe I will ask her out...:wink:
haha have fun my friend and don't let the bed bugs bite:2thumbsup:
edyzmedieval
08-26-2007, 11:59
How long have you got?
Off-side. What do you mean? :embarassed:
Rodion Romanovich
08-26-2007, 12:23
Off-side. What do you mean? :embarassed:
Let x be the number of hours you have free
Let y be the number of hours of material for stories about evil girls
Then it can be trivially seen that:
1. for all x: y > x
and:
2. lim x->infinity y/x > 1
:sweatdrop:
Let x be the number of hours you have free
Let y be the number of hours of material for stories about evil girls
Then it can be trivially seen that:
1. for all x: y > x
and:
2. lim x->infinity y/x > 1
:sweatdrop:
So like E=MC2 :yes:
Rodion Romanovich
08-27-2007, 12:19
I can give another one:
Girls = Time * Money
Time = Money, thus:
Girls = Money * Money
Money = sqrt(Evil), thus:
Girls = sqrt(Evil) * sqrt(Evil)
therefore:
Girls = Evil
Hmm, since this is about broken hearts etc, maybe someone could appreciate this song: Freedom VS. Musikk - Hang On 2007 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1vNQyskHx6Y)
I really like it, broken heart or not.:2thumbsup:
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