predatory me, no I am not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
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predatory me, no I am not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
I didn't say you were Frag, I was just making the distinction.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fragony
You have to understand that the Nethrlands isn't like the US, we are completely different when it comes to certain things. Much the same, but different.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
Considering he's a brit I'm sure that'll be comforting :laugh4:Quote:
Originally Posted by Fragony
And again, not American. For Pete's sake, this is the second time you've done this this month alone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fragony
No offence to our American friends, but it's irritating.
In any case, a 30's or 40's year old man preying on girls in their teens/early twenties is considerably lacking in class.
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Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
you're welcome!Quote:
Originally Posted by Strike For The South
Well, I saw your post, and I thought of putting something like, "Strike remembers" (which sounded offensive to you) or "The Americans themselves can tell (maybe offensive in general).Quote:
Originally Posted by Strike For The South
So I copped out, sorry.
It's nice yto know someone does bother to pay attention, though.
Any attention for me is good attention.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
I wasn't held enough as a young girl.
If she is older then 17 what's the problem, old enough to fend for theirselves. I am 32, I'll sleep with a 17 year old girl. I will however never abuse anyoneQuote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
Neither was I, but like any man, it make me hard as Iron; then a woman broke my heart and I became like unto steel.Quote:
Originally Posted by Strike For The South
:knight:
Not all 17 year olds make good choices (most make bad ones), if you are trying to pick up 17 year olds you are pitting your own experience against their relative naivity. Also, there's no chance of a relatio nship, so the whole exercise is cynical.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fragony
Not cool really. I'm not quite 23 and I know it would be easy for me to wow 17 year old girls, I prefer a more even playing field.
I would never do such a thing, behaviour like that isn't exacly my thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
This thread is quickly moving into the backroom arena.
Suffice it to say, I don't think Frags, nor the Netherlands is in the wrong on this one. Elsewise, we would have a much smaller prison population of just over 18 sex offenders. The argument is a dubious one at best.
Many people never grow up.
So we can never have sex with them? :bigcry:Quote:
Originally Posted by Beskar
People ('women' would probably land me some points) make poor relationship choices into their 30s and beyond. You're making a fair point, but older women can be similarly 'duped'.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
This is more about intentions, IMO.
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Originally Posted by Beskar
Fair points, but what kind of man in his 30's tries to have sex with a teenager, I mean actually walks into a club/coffee shop etc. and goes for a woman so much his junior?Quote:
Originally Posted by Craterus
My sister is 18, I wouldn't go below that age now, to be honest at (nearly) 23 I'm not comfortable with going after teenagers any more, they're just so "young" compared to women in their 20's. Their outlook etc. is often totally different.
Why not? I would never take advantage of her, but 18 isn't unnacceptable to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
As long as he intends to go about it the right way and treats her with respect, I don't really have a problem with it. As long as both parties are happy, it's nobody else's business.Quote:
Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla
I understand what you're saying and I imagine a fair proportion of the guys in relationships like that are pretty sleazy but I don't think an age-gap is something that is intrinsically wrong.
in adults, no an age gap is not wrong. my 45 year old mom and 36 year old dad have been together for 10(11?) years, and they've almost never had any problems. the problem is that a 30 year old going after a teenager is not only creepy, it would never be a real relationship.
even at 14 1/2 i can tell you it is hard to put up with teenage girls; they squeal and scream for no reason all the time. no way a 30 year old is going to have a relationship past sex with that.
Back to "Should I"?
Andres's story is a good lesson to hear. I've been with a couple of 'crazies', and the biggest downside is that you're never allowed to be the crazy one. Everybody has to go a little nuts once in awhile; be irrational, emotional, temporarily childish. When you're with a crazy you never get that time, they get all the crazy attention, and you get to be "the rock". Over time you really do become the rock - humorless, all-business, hard - and eventually that "love" you had, when mixed with simmering resentment at being held back from life, turns into disgust and hatred. Or worse: apathy.
My recommendation: don't do that to yourself. Deep down, you already know what you truly want, or you wouldn't waste time asking "Should I"? I submit that your feelings for the ex spring more from your sense of duty, than from actual appeal. Hence the need for you two to take longs walks down Memory Lane to find feelings of happiness, cuz you're not happy now.
High marks for persistence and a highly-developed sense of duty. But I gotta give you an "F" if you entertain and keep the notion that you have any actual obligation to ex.
Wait... that's too harsh. Discover, then admit (to yourself) what you really want to do. Then do it. We'll all back you, whichever way you go.
Good luck.
You've got so much wisdomQuote:
Originally Posted by KukriKhan
Ever thought of applying as a grandfather?
KK: I do believe you are correct.
It has hit me since thursday, when, as Lemur can attest to, I was not well.
It did make me think. I'm hoping to see her (ex) soon and realise that she is nothing like the girl I remember. She doesnt look like it, and shes going downhill again. I can't let myself get drawn in.
I'll just try to be like STFS and it will all be good. I'll suddenly have 30 girls at once and a frenchman in the closet.
I'd imagine you're more well adjusted than me. I mean my day mostly consisits of going around the .Org seeking validation of the "cooler" posters.Quote:
Originally Posted by pevergreen
My life is a warning to others
LOL. Maybe just everybody's "Crazy Uncle Jimmy".Quote:
Originally Posted by Strike For The South
I am envious of the HoF award :tongue:
Hey, nice sig. :wink:
Excuse the double post, but:
This thread is now one of pure happiness.
My thanks to all those who have pushed me away from crazy :daisy: because she is goneskies.
I layed into her about everything. It was over the internet, but she came back with her counterpoints, which had no substance, and she fell to the mighty weight of the pever.
tl;dr Life is good, crazy ex will not be a factor ever again.
:beam:
I wish her all the best. Some people change, others never do. I hope she is the former.
Now pever, good luck with your new fancy :2thumbsup:
Now that you are free let me tell you how to win at life.
1. Disregard Females.
2. Acquire currency.
You're welcome.
My personal rule is a 4 year gap is the absolute max (3 year much prefered) with under 18's... though at 23 a 17 year old would be okay but im not sure about a 16 year old...
I forgotten what you should or shouldn't do so im going to go for you should!