Should I?

[Csargo]

Point is probably moot. I mean, I'm more popular here than IRL right now (side effect of work) and I'm not exactley loved here.

It's alright I love u pever

As far as the other stuff, I have no opinion since don't any experience with such things(no social/love life)

[pevergreen]

It sounds to me like she is no longer the gilr you love, and you are still in love with the memory.

I've often felt that myself, but...I just don't know.

Shes getting better. She's (within the last week or two) started to quit smoking and has stopped the drugs.



That's the best way to put it.

[Caius]

Go to another country. Seriously.

[Samurai Waki]

I've often felt that myself, but...I just don't know.

Shes getting better. She's (within the last week or two) started to quit smoking and has stopped the drugs.



That's the best way to put it.

You're looking at this from the wrong angle... Who do you think you deserve? And who is going to be the one whose there if you're going through a rough patch?

Food for thought, anyways.

[pevergreen]

In answer to your two questions:

Neither.

Both.

[Craterus]

If you're so desperate not to give up on the ex-girlfriend, get back with her. You'll know soon enough if it's going to work or not (by the sounds of it, no) and it'll also give the other girl time to 'grow up' a bit to make the age gap less...controversial.

Don't let yourself get taken advantage of though. Ex-girlfriend sounds like a drama queen who always needs some crisis to be going on, it might seem noble playing rescuer but don't get stuck in the role because it's difficult to get out of. Anyway, all I feel like writing on this.

[pevergreen]

Shes lost all her friends as well now...

She caused me to fail high school...

I like her. Even though shes changed, its easy to see the old her there. Its beginning to win back. Plus...shes helped me...a lot. in the same way I/the backroom helped her.

The younger one also strongly reminds me of a girl I used to go out with, before I was on here. Different enough for it not to make me think I only like her because she reminds me of the other, but close enough that maybe I do.



Good fun.

[drone]

Shes lost all her friends as well now...

She caused me to fail high school...

Leave her. You are too young to let women ruin your life. That should come around age 30.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

Shes lost all her friends as well now...

She caused me to fail high school...

Leave. Run. Never go back.

[pevergreen]

I must be getting annoying by now, but I haven't been happy since I was with her. Best period in memory, that was.



Guess I'll just have to go have a better one.

[Andres]

When I was your age (that makes me sound old ), I was in almost exactly the same situation.

My first year at uni, I fell in love like I've never had fallen in love before.

We had a very short relationship, but it didn't work out. She wanted to stay friends. Fine by me (what a naive idiot I was ).

She was always depressed, claimed that she visited a psychogolist, claimed that she had been raped by her previous-previous-previous boyfriend and "now it's all coming back to haunt me, boohoohoo", her best friend was going to commit suicide, she wanted her parents to divorce because of too much arguments, she was depressed because her cat died, she was taking drugs, ... (Except for the drug taking and the dead cat, it all turned out to be lies or at least gross exaggerations, as I learned years later, when I accidentally stumbled upon her best friend and her brother on the train.)

I was always good enough "to be there for her", always hoping we would get back in a relationship and it would work out well.

It didn't. And I'm very, very happy about that.

My best friend saw what was happening back then, and after standing and watching at the sidelines for a few months, he couldn't stay silent any longer and he called me an idiot, yelled at me, gave me a mental and physical slap in the face (I hit back and then we went out and got drunk ) to wake me up.

I followed his orders advice and broke all contact with that girl. It was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life.

Thinking about it, many people were giving me signals to get rid of her back then, but I ignored it or explained it away, somehow.

Don't be the idiot I was.

Get rid of that woman, she sounds exactly like the girl I used to know so many years ago. You deserve better. Or better put: nobody deserves to be in the claws of such a

[Fragony]

I must be getting annoying by now, but I haven't been happy since I was with her. Best period in memory, that was.



Guess I'll just have to go have a better one.

sweetest way to die

[pevergreen]

Who woulda thought that when reversing, that if you didnt look through the back, you instantly fail your driving test.

Silly me for using mirrors.

[Prussian to the Iron]

Situation:
Bad idea for first one: Shes three years younger. Which makes her 15.

I'm caught in the middle. Right now, I aim for the former and back-up meeting with the latter.

Is either a good idea?

LOL are you a pedo pever?

18 year old....or 15 year old whos 3 years younger than you.......is it that hard?

but drug use and attempted suicide....i have a friend whos girlfriend was just like that; she did drugs, drank, and smoked, until finally he dumped her for it. after swearing that she would stop he took her back.

than she started again, and that was her last chance.

people like that dont ever change, no matter what you do. if you want to be around a drug-using, alcohol drinking, smoking pregnant chick thats not my business to tell you not to.


ask me? I say drop em both: 1 is jailbait and 1 seems like a loser.

[A Very Super Market]

Pedophilia is a desire for pre-pubescent children. Ephebophilia would be a proper descriptor, but the ages are so close that it hardly matters.

[pevergreen]

She comes of age in a few months, so the low age is not the factor.

Yes PI, I am a pedo.

I had a post written but the sheer....I don't even know. I can't relpy without insulting you PI, so I say nothing.

[Samurai Waki]

LOL are you a pedo pever?

18 year old....or 15 year old whos 3 years younger than you...

I'm not going to insult your intelligence, even though the temptation is terribly difficult... I'm 5 years older than my wife.

My Father was 16 years older than my mom,

my sister in law is 14 years older than my brother...

You get the picture, now all you have to do is grow up a bit.

[pevergreen]

Plus the other one is 19 now.


WOAH.

[Prussian to the Iron]

I'm not going to insult your intelligence, even though the temptation is terribly difficult... I'm 5 years older than my wife.

My Father was 16 years older than my mom,

my sister in law is 14 years older than my brother...

You get the picture, now all you have to do is grow up a bit.

oh no, thats not what i meant at all. what i meant was the fact that he said she was 15. my mom is 10 years older than my dad.

no cougar jokes please

Plus the other one is 19 now.


WOAH.

the one who is older and was doing drugs and stuff?

[pevergreen]

Yes that one.

So, shes 15. 3 year age difference, fine.

But I bet a score (practising my english english) that she's more mature than you.

[Prussian to the Iron]

well...yeah....girls mature faster than guys and i'll be 15 in 6 months.

its not the fact that shes 3 years younger, its the fact that shes underage. 24 year old and 21 year old going out? fine. 15 year old and 18 year old? very wierd. i personally wouldn't let my daughter go out with a guy whos 18 when shes 15. would you?

half plus 7 rule man. that means you shouldnt be going out with anyone under 16 ATM.

and this chart:



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_dis..._relationships

[pevergreen]

I doubt you'd have a daughter.

I'm aware of that chart.

However her last boyfriend (unsure of time) was 21. She may have been 14 at that point.

[Fragony]

18 and 15, completely normal. Had sex with a 13 year old when I was 18. Shoot me.

[Prussian to the Iron]

I doubt you'd have a daughter.

I'm aware of that chart.

However her last boyfriend (unsure of time) was 21. She may have been 14 at that point.

i meant when i have a daughter. i wouldnt let an 18 year old son go out with a 15 year old either.

what country are you in that no one cares about a 7-year age difference, when that amount of time is half of the girls age?

18 and 15, completely normal. Had sex with a 13 year old when I was 18. Shoot me.

jesus christ......i think you guys are just trying to screw with me......

[Fragony]

jesus christ......i think you guys are just trying to screw with me......

Nope, I am not. Slept with just about every girlfriend of my sister. There is nothing wrong with that, a guy of 18 is pretty much on the same level. Call the police

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Nope, I am not. Slept with just about every girlfriend of my sister. There is nothing wrong with that, a guy of 18 is pretty much on the same level. Call the police

Actually, I think there's quite a lot wrong with that.

I also think Prussian Iron was being a bit of a jerk, but that's by the by.

Bottom line Pever, if you are still hung up on your old girlfriend, regardless of how bad she is, you can't commit to anyone else with any hope of success.

I suggest you resolve your conflicted feelings before doing anything else, with anyone else.

[Fragony]

Actually, I think there's quite a lot wrong with that.

Well our governement disagrees, sex is legal starting from 12. And it was a good time not a snack ,I still have happy feelings about it.

[Strike For The South]

pever you need to start a new chapter. This new girl sounds very good, why would you pass that up for something that may end up in regeret.

Don't let the wrold pass you by for what might be.

[Prussian to the Iron]

Actually, I think there's quite a lot wrong with that.

I also think Prussian Iron was being a bit of a jerk, but that's by the by.

Bottom line Pever, if you are still hung up on your old girlfriend, regardless of how bad she is, you can't commit to anyone else with any hope of success.

I suggest you resolve your conflicted feelings before doing anything else, with anyone else.

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i wasnt trying to be. its just i am against the idea that its ok to just go out with/have sex with people who are just becoming pubescent/are in the middle of it.

and the other half to pever.....unfortunately this is true. if you have feelings for somebody strongly enough, you'll not be able to have a real relationship with anyone else.

Well our governement disagrees, sex is legal starting from 12. And it was a good time not a snack ,I still have happy feelings about it.

well, sex is legal no matter what our age is, its the age of consent that you are thinking of. you mean that once you are 12 you can do anyone you want, right?

can we not talk about 12 year old sex anymore please?

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Well our governement disagrees, sex is legal starting from 12. And it was a good time not a snack ,I still have happy feelings about it.

Her age is less the issue for me than having sex with one of your sister's friends. Age gap on the other hand is a big issue for me, older men who associate with younger women are often predatory in nature.