Personal Privacy and its Violation.

How does one deal with an intruding step parent? Im only back at my dads house for the summer and I'm taking classes that last from 7 am to 5pm at our local Community College. Today when I got home from class I saw an application that I had sitting IN my desk out in the open and not in my room anymore. Now I already know I'm going to get a once over from my dad since one of his arrangements was for me to find a summer job, which is really hard considering there are about 20 businesses in this town that hire and there are now 2000+ high school students flooding the job market. So how do I deal with the fact that while i am gone for the day my room is open to the prying eyes of my step mom and her persistent war against me and all I am. Quite seriously though, she thinks this is a war and that I'm out to get her or something.:inquisitive:

Any help would be most appreciated.

My parents are together so I never dealt. With something like this. Maybe talk to your dad. Or confront your step mother and scream at her, if anyone did that to me I would be incredibly pissed

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

My parents are together so I never dealt. With something like this. Maybe talk to your dad. Or confront your step mother and scream at her, if anyone did that to me I would be incredibly pissed

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The whole screaming at her thing has gotten me kicked out before. There have even been fights where I'm doing something like washing dishes and she disagrees with how I soap them up or something and my dad would get mad at me for not conforming to her will. My dad's :daisy::whip: and he doesn't seem to recognize when I'm not trying to argue.


On a side note... You know we don't have a cat smiley :/

Is there any possiblity to lock your desk and places containing your property?

I would leave couldn't. Deal with things like that

try talking. if it doesnt work, hide the stuff.

You just can't talk conflicts away. I will think about it and come back with nasty things you could do to her.

Put a piece of her underwear in your desk.

There's so many nasty things you could do.

Talk about it. If it doesn't work, try hiding your stuff. If she keeps looking through your stuff, take out the guns and be nasty.
I hate when people pry in my stuff, and when it's someone that I'm not particularly getting along with, I'm saying what's on my mind.

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Originally Posted by Fragony

Put a piece of her underwear in your desk.

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Step 1 to getting kicked out?

Welcome to step-parents.

You are not their child, and usually never will be. They will always prefer their children over you, and they have far less patience with you then they would give their own children.

If they never even had children themselves, the situation is even worse.

I only actually get on with my step-parents (both of them) since I am in adulthood and rarely see them.

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Originally Posted by pevergreen

Step 1 to getting kicked out?

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It's no suggestion, it's what I would do, abuse can be hilarious.

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Originally Posted by Beskar

Welcome to step-parents.

I only actually get on with my step-parents (both of them) since I am in adulthood and rarely see them.

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Thats what my older brother says. Apparently he never got along with his step mom, but now he does since he only see's her once in blue moon.

I dont think she will warm up to me to much as time goes on and I never see them. My sister recently came back from NY and she got into a fight the first night back.

Last night i worked out a deal with my dad, since I can't get a job I have to start doing house maintenance and have to keep a B or above in my summer classes. My part of the deal being I want my privacy. Hopefully it works, it hasn't before but it might now.

If it's a step parent, get them drunk and have sex with them. Then use it as blackmail. (Where's DD at?)

Try being polite and brief in conversation. Be understanding and agreeable even when it is not what you are thinking. Avoid interaction when you can. Unless you have already tried this it might work, otherwise, I have no useful advice.

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Originally Posted by Vladimir

If it's a step parent, get them drunk and have sex with them. Then use it as blackmail. (Where's DD at?)

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if his step mom is a hot MILF, then it could be a great idea... but when she was another old hag...

Your dad is taking side for her because he fears he could loose her. So the best thing you can do imho is to prove that fear right. The only problem is I doubt she would go to bed with you. Why don't you hide male underwear where she keeps her stuff and let your dad find it? Or fake telephone calls. You know ...

I doubt he wants to hurt his own father. Sometimes you have to put up with the worse parts for the greater good.

I think Veho Nex has come about with the better idea, of trying to sort it out with his father. I think the father understands he is finding it hard, but his father is between a rock and a hard-place, he loves his son and he loves his new wife (I am amusing this is the case).

One of the otherways is simply not to put up a fight, even if she nags. Perhaps even on her birthday, or a mothers day something, approach her with a nice gift (infront of your father and possibly others) and go "I apologise for any of my actions which have upset you, I understand we have had our disagreements, I hope we can improve our relationship, Happy Birthday/Mothers day/whatever" (or similar). As this is sort of done publicly, it starts putting you on a moral highground position. When she gets upset with you about not washing dishes correctly, just simply "I apologise, I will attempt to improve", if they attempts to grab them off to you show, just simply pick up another and mimick.

Ultimately, the agenda is, to make you look like the good guy. If she is seen as the one causing the hassle and the fuss, it will formulate the position she is in the wrong. If she gets worse or stay bad, just go to your father, and go "Look dad, I know I am not perfect, I am trying my best. How do you suggest I improve things?".

This would get him onto your side of things, as he will see you as one getting pushed around needlessly, and might say something about it, or have a private chat with her, and hopefully the situation improves.


If all this fails, work on getting a job/going to uni/getting out of the house as realistically as possible, because it will never work.

I dont want to goto uni, im back from 12 hours of CC and still have more work before i can sleep. I dont know how you higher edumacation people do it.

Other than that, Beskar, I see what your getting at but its all what ive tried before. I even went as far as calling her mom a couple times to see if that improved her attitude towards me. She hasnt been around since I called her out to my dad about entering my room while I was away. I still don't know if she will go for my deal though. And yes, I dont want to hurt my father.

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Originally Posted by Veho Nex

I dont know how you higher edumacation people do it.

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Copious amounts of alcohol and weed.

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Originally Posted by Veho Nex

And yes, I dont want to hurt my father.

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I understand that. However, as I see that, it is a war between you and your stepmother. You can either strike back or cope with it the way Beskar told you (which is the more reasonable and adult way). It's up to you, how much you can stand that YOU are the one on the loosing side this way. I wouldn't want to be a victim.

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Originally Posted by Vladimir

If it's a step parent, get them drunk and have sex with them. Then use it as blackmail. (Where's DD at?)

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YES! A man's gotta do what he's gotta do.

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Originally Posted by Megas Methuselah

YES! A man's gotta do what he's gotta do.

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I knew you were going to make such a comment... the thread was asking for it. :{

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Originally Posted by Secura

I knew you were going to make such a comment... the thread was asking for it. :{

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Wow Secura, you really are a genius at these smileys that look like famous people. First Peter Griffin, now Genghis Khan. I salute you madam.

Tell her to go to a place where it is really hot and there is little red men with pitchforks,waiting to jab her in her behind :laugh:.

Sit down with both of them and if that doesn't work save up for an apt

It's kinda strange that SFTS's advice is probably the least crazy idea ITT. I feel confused and scared.

Psychological warfare. Put a dead mouse in her desk. If you want to be more discreet put a stink bomb in there (theres ones where you can just pour the liquid and the stench will remain). If she wants to **** with you then **** with her back. When it comes to nonviolent means of retaliation (im a softie) im the master.

If she drinks wine, put a half empty (or half full, depends on how you look at it) bottle of wine in the refridgerator, dont say anything to anyone about it. But fill it up with piss. Chances are she will at least sip on it.

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Originally Posted by Mooks

Psychological warfare. Put a dead mouse in her desk. If you want to be more discreet put a stink bomb in there (theres ones where you can just pour the liquid and the stench will remain). If she wants to **** with you then **** with her back. When it comes to nonviolent means of retaliation (im a softie) im the master.

If she drinks wine, put a half empty (or half full, depends on how you look at it) bottle of wine in the refridgerator, dont say anything to anyone about it. But fill it up with piss. Chances are she will at least sip on it.

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lol, She is... uhhh a very heavy wine drinker, but so is my dad. (Box of wine a night anybody?)

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Originally Posted by Mooks

If she drinks wine, put a half empty (or half full, depends on how you look at it) bottle of wine in the refridgerator, dont say anything to anyone about it. But fill it up with piss. Chances are she will at least sip on it.

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Since his stepmum is American she won't even notice, like the rest of ya. I still think putting her underwear in the desk is the best way to seriously freak her out.

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Originally Posted by Fragony

Since his stepmum is American she won't even notice, like the rest of ya. I still think putting her underwear in the desk is the best way to seriously freak her out.

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I would agree with you, but I had a friend that brought back expensive wine back from France. We still got drunk like homeless people off of it, but it tasted like piss. And that was the fancy stuff.

heh, in reality I'll take Kali or Ozzy wine over Euro every time