Leaving school

[Andres]

Imho, getting bullied has much to do with lack of self-confidence. I'm absolutely no psychologist, but I've always had the impression that bullies smell lack of self-confidence and they seem to have a talent to find an easy target. Personally, I got bullied when I was in elementary school. It stopped when I hit a bully hard on the face

You're a very nice guy Caius, friendly, helpfull and always avoiding to hurt or upset other Orgah's That's good and you should definitely keep it that way

But in RL, sometimes, when confronted with certain individuals, you need to let go that peaceful attitude and you have to fight back. You can do it physically, but that really should be the last option. Use your tongue. And most importantly act like you don't care don't care about what the bully thinks or says about you. Always keep in mind that he's probably just a pathetic who needs to bully ohter people to get some attention. He's the one having a problem, not you.

And if you have to get physical, no need to worry about not being a martial artist. One well placed kick in a certain spot will do the trick. I know it's not heroic, but the bully will certainly think twice before ever bullying you again. Unless there are several of them. If you think hurting him will result in getting beaten up by a group of cowardly bullies, you shouldn't even consider the physical option. Talk to your parents, to your favourite teacher (don't worry about the "you're a traitor/coward"-crap of other classmates, it's nonsense, they are as afraid of the group of bullies as you are), and if things are really looking ugly, go to the police (we had a bunch of drug dealers in our peaceful and respected high school, they got expelled after one guy finally had the courage of going to the police, afterwards, we learned the teachers were as afraid of them as we were).

As for a long term solution, well, you know yourself best. If you think you're lacking self-confidence, then please, don't feel bad about it. At your age, it's normal. Other kids of your age are just pretending that they don't lack self-confidence.

Join a sportsclub (and make sure you pick a sport you'll like, so that you'll keep going), take part in social events, build up your stamina by running/cycling on a regular basis, buy some dumbbells and do some weightlifiting, get an interesting hobby that requires dedication and hard work to see results (seeing the result of long and hard work is satisfying and will give you a very good feeling)... Anything that builds up your self-confidence. Ask advice to your parents, an older friend or a teacher.

But don't quit school. School doesn't seem to be the problem. The bullies are. Quitting school is like letting them win. And you don't want a pathetic bunch of attention seekers ruining YOUR future now, do you? Screw them, you are Caius and you want to finish high school. It's your life, nobody, and certainly not some idiot bully, will force you to take a decision.