Leaving school

[Geoffrey S]

Quit school, don't quit school - whatever you choose it doesn't matter. People do fine both ways. What is important is that it's your own decision, made on your terms. At the moment it doesn't sound like that's the case, and making big decisions in these kind of situations is a very risky business.

You make the decision, don't let it make you.

[FactionHeir]

Fighting back...it works, but you shouldn't break anything, just make sure you hurt them bad enough and look angry enough to make them back off. Worked for me when I was bullied across several schools during my primary and secondary education. The bullies would end up rather wanting to be in my good graces instead.

One more thing:
If you quit school, you basically let the bully win. You don't want this, do you?

[Sigurd]

Don't quit school... Could you change schools if it is that bad?

When I was ... in school ... I had no problems with bullying.
I might have been bullying others.

I remember being called into a meeting where the topic was this small kid looking like a cartoon character. We used to call him Texas Kid because of his looks. It was never our intention to bully, but this was the way he percieved it. All it took was for a teacher to tell us: He doesn't like to be called Texas Kid, and we stopped.
Have you tried this approach?

[Raz]

Ahh, but you say yourself that your intention was not to bully...

[Quintus.JC]

Being bullied can be really tough, I think everybody at one time or another gets bullied. I was always a tall fella (5 ft 11 inches) in my secondary school, but there’re always some random prats that doesn’t seems to have anything better to do. I am rather gifted at football (Play for my own youth academy) and no-one in my year group gives me any trouble but the year 7 and 8s are less mature and likes to take advantage of my peaceful nature. I am an immigrant of Sino-Italian origin so that seems to be the reason. Talking to teachers doesn’t always solve the problem and some times you have to fight back in order to live in peace.

Considering that you only got one more year left then you really should stay Caius. Don’t let a couple of mindless idiot ruin your future.

[Rhyfelwyr]

If it is so bad you are thinking of leaving school then I would definetely talk to either your parents or a teacher about it. Because if you try to leave school then they will want to know why, and the truth may well come out anyway.

Or if you give us the address then we could always organise an Orgah meeting outside his house. There are thousands of members here, I reckon we could get a couple hundred marching down his street with pitchforks and flaming torches...

[Fragony]

If it's only a year... Never been bullied myselve but a certain type tends to be the one, sit it out and enjoy a fresh start.

[pevergreen]

Or if you give us the address then we could always organise an Orgah meeting outside his house. There are thousands of members here, I reckon we could get a couple hundred marching down his street with pitchforks and flaming torches...

Gives me an idea for a unit:

"Orgah Band"
Special attack: Backroom debates

heh. you can fill whatever stats you wanted in

[RoadKill]

I thought you were one of the 300 Spartans. Scream some crazy **** and kick him down a well.

[Caius]

Have you tried this approach?

Rule no1: Thats the stupidest idea evar. Period. I tried, but the only thing I made was that they wanted to punch me so hard, with more angry than ever.

That will make them more angry, and I know it from my very own experience.

[naut]

Alright sounds like a couple guys who went to my school. Lucky for them our school, although it had it's fair share of s there were enough nicer people and people for them to relate to for it never to become an real issue.

In terms of changing yourself, that can be risky:

a) You lose sight of who you are and you become a facade of a person
b) They beat the out of you because your a "try-hard".

It can be done, if done early/convincingly. Yet, it sounds like it's too late for that since you've only got one year of school left.

You don't have to smoke or drink or anything like that if you don't want to, it's your prerogative. However, I would advise you try to get/enlist some help. It could be anybody, anyone you can trust. Because, you can't go through this without help. It just doesn't work.

[Gaius Scribonius Curio]

You lose sight of who you are and you become a facade of a person

I can attest to that.

Best option having read through the whole thread seems to be to talk to your school counsellor or a teacher. As I and others have said, quitting now is letting the bullies win.

[Geoffrey S]

Well. What have you tried, then? Quite frankly, if you haven't been through this with the school administration or your parents yet, keeping this problem spinning around in your head with no release valve, then I think you've got far more productive things to do than wasting your time asking these kind of questions on an internet forum.

We can't help you. Only you, the school, and your family can do that.