Casual sex is good, or is it?

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Seamus Fermanagh]

...I have a reservation for "Bitter" party of one...

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Yoyoma1910]

The fruit of the apple most sought is seldom sweet, my friend.



You could have skipped all that, moved to New York, become an artist, and had the same conclusions in a few weeks.

[Strike For The South]

This thread doesnt deserve my humor

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[drone]

Is the list of flags in your sig the nationalities of all the snow bunnies you've hit?

[PanzerJaeger]

I used to adore girls, to follow their every whim. Today I am more likely to spit them in the mouth while having sex (most girls really like being dominated, even most girls who initially say they dont).

Oh boy.

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The only thing I can say is that you should treat women with respect as equals. Don't worship them, and certainly don't treat them like crap. A healthy relationship - or even a healthy one night stand that won't make you feel bad in the morning - is built on honesty and equality.

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Lemur]

Kadagar, it's useful when you're tied up in knots to ask: What do you want? Seems to me you thought you wanted to bang as many partners as possible, then realized what an empty thing that was.

So if you could have your way, what would you want now?

[LittleGrizzly]

Maybe i could interest you in swapping problems, you can leave out the casual sex and i..........


Anyway... casual sex is great for you phyiscally!! (assuming you avoid diseases and any partners they have) your problem sounds kind of like my friends problem, i don't think he's slept with quite so many girls but he treats them like crap and doesn't trust any women.... ill let you know if he figures out the solution himself...

ohh and btw if you happen to have friends who don't get it very often don't bring this complaint to them, its like bill gates complaining to a beggar that he has just too much money...

[Strike For The South]

Indeed:)


Panzer, you are right of course, I should. I wont, but I should.

I guess I have to get serious, I would never spit in a girls mouth unless she told me to. My mother raised me to be somewhat of a gentleman. I have found in my life the Misogynists are usually the ones who get hurt the most and the most often. You treat someone like they will return you knidly. I also think the fact that you have sex with mothers and wives to utterly disgusting and find men like you to be utterly deplorable. Without going into to much of my personal life all I can say is you have no idea what this does to all involved. You may have gotten your jolies but the wreckage you leave behind scars people for life. If you said that to me in public I would probably knock you out due to sheer reaction of actually hearing those words come out of someone's mouth. Nice try being the poor hopeless romantic but at the end of the day you have ruined many lives and maybe thats why you dont believe in love and hate women because as the old saying goes "Karma's a "

[Hooahguy]

The only thing I can say is that you should treat women with respect as equals. Don't worship them, and certainly don't treat them like crap. A healthy relationship - or even a healthy one night stand that won't make you feel bad in the morning - is built on honesty and equality.

aye-
having been through 3 relationships (2 with the same girl ) i can say that yes, this is very, very true.

[drone]

In all fairness, any man who lets his significant other go off on a skiing holiday without him is just asking for trouble. This was true 10 years ago when I used to ski, and apparently it's true today. If it's not the ski instructors, it's all the other skiers/boarders.

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Strike For The South]

SFTS, actually I dont think I have left many scarred persons in my wake. Don't get me wrong, I do still have morals.

Well you're lying to yourself.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Well I've got absolutedly no experience with these matters but I think PJ hit the nail on the head.

When you're at the one extreme of thingking they're angels, then its understandable that things don't go your way and so you flip and go in the opposite direction of thinking they are scum.

Just remember that they are equal, don't let your personal experiences cloud your mind. You had problems in the past, but now you know that you're quite capable of getting a proper girlfriend, and the sooner you do that the better because then you will feel better and reach the balance you've been looking for, and other relationships won't get damaged in the process.

[Koga No Goshi]

Kadgar, seriously, I believe you should consider that this may be a problem.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_addiction

[TinCow]

If you don't trust your partner not to cheat on you, then you're with the wrong person.

[Ice]

Kadagar, it's useful when you're tied up in knots to ask: What do you want? Seems to me you thought you wanted to bang as many partners as possible, then realized what an empty thing that was.

So if you could have your way, what would you want now?

I'd have to agree, although I can't really offer much advice for a solution other than don't screw committed people. It sounds like you have a lot of regret.

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Meneldil]

Oh boy.

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The only thing I can say is that you should treat women with respect as equals. Don't worship them, and certainly don't treat them like crap. A healthy relationship - or even a healthy one night stand that won't make you feel bad in the morning - is built on honesty and equality.

Unhappilly, that's not how it works, except in the rare case you find the Truly Beloved One.

In High School, I used to be like Kadagar_AV, kind of shy, romantic, intellectual (or at least pretending to be smart), treating girls as princesses and I only ended up as the 'absolute best friend' of all the hottest girls around there.
Obviously, I never got laid with any of them. Sure, they would come to me to explain how their actual boyfriend was an ass who treated them like crap. But sexual relation? No way, because you know, we're friends (the best part was when they asked "Why can't I find a nice guy like you ?", how many time have I heard that crap )

Then I went to the University, got new friends, who used to go to the Pub/Night Club quite often. So to the Pub I went. There I quickly discovered that there's actually no freaking point in being a gentleman. To get laid, you have to act as a jerk, to talk dirty, etc. That's stupid, but that's how it work unfortunaly.
Some girls (and let me emphazise on *some*) are actually attracted by charming, non-jerk people, but they're usually already in a relationship or simply not sexually attractive.

So now, I act as a gentleman with my female friends (just because I like to be a dandy), act as a jerk with girls met at the Pub and still see the only girl I ever fall in love with (and with who hopefully nothing will ever happen) as some kind of celestial-supernatural-creature.

Now, mind you, I'm only 22, so I don't know how things go later on, but according to Kadagar, it doesn't really turn out better, and that is quite disheartening.

Kadgar, seriously, I believe you should consider that this may be a problem.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_addiction

So hum, do you have any idea why so many students from basically all over the world go to the Pub as often as possible ? Yeah, that's it, because they want to get laid. It's actually quite ridiculous that young people have to get drunk and waste hundred of dollars per months to have some pleasure together. Wanting to have sex more than once every three weeks isn't sexual addiction. Or if it is, well I guess 90% of the western population under 40 is addicted to sex.

[Vladimir]

You doubt the true path?! You must ask the master for forgiveness.

[Koga No Goshi]

Koga, Maybe. I always liked sex:)

Liking sex =/= compulsion to have sex.

3 digit partners, that's over 100 presumably right? That's beyond just liking sex, that's nearly self destructive behavior in terms of risk, STD's, etc.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

SFTS. maybe, but I am a nice player. I dont intentionally hurt people. Sure, I might cause hurt if soemone finds out they have been cheated on, but, well, it#s bound to happen with or without me.

No. If there were less people doing what you have done, not nearly as many people would have been hurt. Sorry, but that's the cold, hard truth. You did something wrong if you knew they were taken. So did they, admittedly, but you had a certain responsibility. SFTS is right.

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Strike For The South]

EMFM, your logic is only true if the girls really wanted me. However, my belief is that most girls wants "a ski instructor" or "a cool guy". Meaning, if I was not around, some less attractive ski instructor would have got the girl, or some less cool guy. But she would have had sex either way.

Sure, you flatter my ego when you think the girls falls for me, however, I dont believe it to be true (in some cases, maybe, but that's very few).

They may have but that guy would've ruined a family not you.

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.

[Strike For The South]

I don't see why the family is ruined though... mommy got some sex, mommy is happy for half a year, mommy goes on vacation again..

It's not like they go home crying in their husbands arms...

they might or the husband may find out. Live your life just be aware of what you're doing.

[Kadagar_AV]

Too much censorship on these boards.