Beautiful Girl in Supermarket Problem

[Ramses II CP]

Look, it's the same as meeting anyone:

First you need to know something about her, something about her tastes in music, movies, books, etc. You find this out by paying attention (Is she carrying a book today, wearing a button, etc?) or by having mutual friends (Any less interesting girls or guys from that store you know she hangs out with and you could tolerate?).

Second you need to invite her to do something with you (Or a group) related to those tastes.

Alternately you could just be direct. If you're single and she's single simply saying, at the close of a natural conversation, 'We should get coffee sometime,' can open things up. Everyone wants to meet interesting people, though, admittedly, there's a barrier to doing so at work, so just be interesting.

And if she says no shrug and let it go. At least you tried, and the next time you run into a girl like that (And it will happen) you'll be more relaxed and prepared.

[Jolt]

...Maybe she is Martian.

Hey, we never know.

[Husar]

Why not buy her a bouquet of 24 red roses and give it to her?

Alternatively you could hire a private detective to find out more about her and then confront her with your collected evidence and prove that you two belong together.

Well, you have a 50% chance with either option depending on whether she is a romantic (option one) or a rational (option 2) person.

[pevergreen]

POTM! (Post of the Month!)

We should have that award as well...

Thank you. I slaved long and hard over that post.

*mumbles something about ungrateful people*

[Marius Dynamite]

Okay, I'm going to try and give some advice even though I wouldn't do anything in your situation.

As others have said I wouldn't try to build up a relationship. She'll probably forget you from one day to the next and if your interacting with her often enough for her to remember you then she'll think your weird.

The best idea would be to dive in.

I would say, from experience as a sales assisstant, a good way to open any conversation with a sales assisstant is to ask them how the day was. In particular a sentence such as 'was the store busy today?'. Your not asking her personally about her day, just how the day was in general for the shop.

Note: I dont mean express the sentence in those words exactly, use whatever casual style you would normally use.

Perhaps the best time to try would be near closing time when the store isn't busy. If shes working the checkout and no one is behind you in the queue that would be the ideal time.



Either way from that you should get an answer which could lead to a good conversation. . It's a simple question for her to answer both positively and negatively (I don't mean rudely, I mean she could say "yeah its been busy all day").

Just make sure when you ask you dont sound like your only interested in how busy the store was. Your casual tone should indicate your happy to converse.

Depending on what she says back you should try to carry the conversation on. If shes saying something like 'it's the busiest its been since I've worked here' then ask her if shes been there long.

If your looking to ask her out, which you are, I would say its crucial you do 2 things. The first, make sure you introduce yourself. Maybe at this point in the light conversation you should say tell her your name and offer to shake her hand. After that comes the second crucial thing, which is to actually ask her if she would like to go out sometime. Maybe you could ask her when she finishes that day, maybe some other day, whatever works.


It's hard to describe what I'm trying to say but to summarise.. casual conversation-->introduce self-->ask out.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Well, I think I should go with SFTS here. Building a relationship would be somehow pointless. I've done that alot already and I don't think I want anymore friends... not that I didn't want friends but I'd like better to date her.

So, I approach her, smile (I was confirmed to have an attractive smile ), ask "excuse me, can you tell me where the xxx is", and then? "You are for sure the most beautiful in this shop" / "You are much more beautiful than your colleagues". Surely she will joyfully giggle cause she knows it's the truth. Then "Do you want to go out with me?" Isn't that pathetic? I know the chances for failure are high, but I want to decrease them...

Please keep on the good advice...

To say someone is pedantic is an insult...

What are they supposed to do in germany? Isn't customer service customer service?

No it's not meant as an insult, it's just that she pays very much attention on arranging the merchandise which is quite unusual for the shop. And in this supermarket chain the employees are never friendly, they never smile. So if they do you can be sure that they aren't forced to do it. Which is the case in a lot of German shops and supermarkets.

I don't know about that, mixing up Indian and Pakistani is not great, and she might concievably be Greek or Turkish, or Iranian.

OK, she could be Iranian now that you said that. After all I've read her name sign. I told you to give you a general idea about her look. I don't really mind what she is and I don't think that should play a role when I want to ask her out.

[drone]

Go through her checkout line with a tub of vaseline, a spatula, magnum condoms, and camera film. She will be all yours.

[Papewaio]

Complementing her on her looks is complementing her parents.

Complementing her on what she chooses to do, is complementing her.

Also by saying she is beautiful stops her from thinking 'Why does he want to ask me out?'. You have to get her curious enough to want to find that answer.

Sure everyone wants to feel attractive, but no one wants to be just attractive.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Complementing her on her looks is complementing her parents.

Complementing her on what she chooses to do, is complementing her.

Also by saying she is beautiful stops her from thinking 'Why does he want to ask me out?'. You have to get her curious enough to want to find that answer.

Sure everyone wants to feel attractive, but no one wants to be just attractive.

So you think I should say "You are by far the best shop attendant around! Not so dull and boring like your colleagues, but so smart and witty!"?

Three balloons for everyone who can come up with a real crack line. What would please an ambitious shop attendant?

[Papewaio]

No.

Just ask her out. "Hi, I'm Bob, would you like to go out for coffee sometime?".

Complement her later when she asks "Why did you ask me out."

[Beefy187]

try Hypnosis

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Listen to Pape, he speaks wisdom from experience I think.

Now, if you want a line, after you've been out on a few dates you can say something like, "You look really lovely tonight". I find that works well with English girls, worst case you get a hug, best reaction I ever got was "I love you"

Unfortunately that killed that particular relationship.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

This may help:

Warning - may contain some "vivid" language or description. I'm not going to lie, I've only read the first part. I have, however, read other stories by this author. I strongly recommend them.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/en...game.phtml#934

[King Jan III Sobieski]

Give up; be like me - devote yourself to the Lord and decide to join a monastery...someday.

[Alexanderofmacedon]

Give up; be like me - devote yourself to the Lord and decide to join a monastery...someday.

Ihhhh...

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

This may help:

Warning - may contain some "vivid" language or description. I'm not going to lie, I've only read the first part. I have, however, read other stories by this author. I strongly recommend them.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/en...game.phtml#934

Great read! Thx!

[HoreTore]

Give up; be like me - devote yourself to the Lord and decide to join a monastery...someday.

I'm torn between that or becoming gay(it's a choice according to the christians, so...).

Women are a hassle. Plain and simple. If you enter a relationship - they nag. If you have a one night stand - they nag. If you fool around for a while - they nag. If you don't even touch them - they nag.

It's just not worth it.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

I'm torn between that or becoming gay(it's a choice according to the christians, so...).

Women are a hassle. Plain and simple. If you enter a relationship - they nag. If you have a one night stand - they nag. If you fool around for a while - they nag. If you don't even touch them - they nag.

It's just not worth it.

Nah, you can be a gay monk, Pope says that's fine.

Seriously though, the best advice I can give you is to just ask her out, if the plan has more than three steps it usually won't work. You need something simple so that your little brain can take over in case your big brain runs away scared.

[Kekvit Irae]

Needless to say everytime I have to visit the supermarket I pick the one where she works, although it's not the nearest. She's sadly not there everytime I visit but sometimes. Oh if I only knew the schedule!

Ah... the beginnings of a stalker young love.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Women are a hassle. Plain and simple. If you enter a relationship - they nag. If you have a one night stand - they nag. If you fool around for a while - they nag. If you don't even touch them - they nag.

Ah... the beginnings of a stalker young love.

Haha, quot erat demonstrandum! There we have a woman, could say something useful. But no! Ha. And why if you can nag instead.

[Fragony]

Ask for something you know they don't have "but I need it for [insert dish]"

Ah well, let's go to [ïnsert restaurant] then ok?

[Meneldil]

Any plan that involves more than a few sentences will fail.

Just ask directly if she want to go for a drink someday. Don't compliment her, because that's kind of old.

Having worked in a supermarket, I don't remember any cashier dating with a customer, even though most of the cashiers spent their time talking about sex and flirt during their break. I unhappily think this is not a good situation to start any kind of relationship, but good luck anyway :)

[HoreTore]

Having worked in a supermarket, I don't remember any cashier dating with a customer, even though most of the cashiers spent their time talking about sex and flirt during their break. I unhappily think this is not a good situation to start any kind of relationship, but good luck anyway :)

The woman I who worked my shift at the gas station before I started there is now living with a guy she met there, as a customer. But then, she was working the night shift, things are different at night, there's a lot more conversation going on(which makes the job actually quite fun, even though it's horribly paid). Also, he was working when he met her too, as he was working as a cop.

Hmmm.... Come to think of it, if I see him again and remember this, I could ask him how he did it and report back

[Abokasee]

Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

why ?

Prostitutes
Laywers

Two professions you ask before handing the money for there services.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

Yea I'll shamelessly make a really bad joke, don't care what ya think.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Prostitutes
Laywers

Two professions you ask before handing the money for there services.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

Yea I'll shamelessly make a really bad joke, don't care what ya think.

And bingo was his namo.

There you go.

[desert]

Go up to her and ask "Would you like to join me in descanting the Indiana Jones Star Wars theme song?"

Then burst into song:

"Kiss a wookieeeee, kick a droiiiid!
Fly the Falcoooonnnnnn, through an as-ter-oid!
'Till the princeeeesss, is annoooyyedd!
Oh, it's spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!
Come and help meeeee, Obi-waaaaannnn!
Action fighteerrrr, and a blas-ter-gun!
Dance with Ewoooookkss - oh, what fuuuuuunnnnn!
This is spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!"

If she doesn't join in by the second verse, then don't bother with her.

[naut]

Confidence. Confidence. Confidence.

P.S: It's better not to put her on a pedestal, she's just a girl.

[Beefy187]

Go up to her and ask "Would you like to join me in descanting the Indiana Jones Star Wars theme song?"

Then burst into song:

"Kiss a wookieeeee, kick a droiiiid!
Fly the Falcoooonnnnnn, through an as-ter-oid!
'Till the princeeeesss, is annoooyyedd!
Oh, it's spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!
Come and help meeeee, Obi-waaaaannnn!
Action fighteerrrr, and a blas-ter-gun!
Dance with Ewoooookkss - oh, what fuuuuuunnnnn!
This is spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!"

If she doesn't join in by the second verse, then don't bother with her.

whats the odds of her not knowing the song?
Although it would kick ass if she does