Should I?

**Philippus Flavius Homovallumus** · 10-20-2009, 17:18

While I appreciate why the others have said the things they have, I also appreciate that you are in a difficult emotional position.

Consider this: Why did you love her, what were those things, and are they still there? It sounds to me like she is no longer the gilr you love, and you are still in love with the memory.

I sympathise, but if she is not going to be that girl again and is just going to use you instead then you don't have anything more to do with her.

Recognising that, however, doesn't automatically leave you free to persue the oither girl.

**edyzmedieval** · 10-20-2009, 20:01

Dude, why 15? Get a 25 year old, you'll love it until you find a girl younger and experienced enough to be your wife.

Trust me on this one, experienced girls are just incredible. And if they look good, you're in for the ride of your life.

**Samurai Waki** · 10-20-2009, 20:53

I would say get rid of the ex, it's obvious you're her fallback guy. Go on to No Contact, don't take her phone calls, don't reply to texts or emails, if she says hi while you're walking down the street, nod and keep walking.

The young one sounds like she would be the much, much better option of the two.

**pevergreen** · 10-20-2009, 23:31

Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla

It sounds to me like she is no longer the gilr you love, and you are still in love with the memory.

I've often felt that myself, but...I just don't know.

Shes getting better. She's (within the last week or two) started to quit smoking and has stopped the drugs.

That's the best way to put it.

**Caius** · 10-21-2009, 00:10

Go to another country. Seriously.

**Samurai Waki** · 10-21-2009, 00:34

Originally Posted by pevergreen

I've often felt that myself, but...I just don't know.

Shes getting better. She's (within the last week or two) started to quit smoking and has stopped the drugs.

That's the best way to put it.

You're looking at this from the wrong angle... Who do you think you deserve? And who is going to be the one whose there if you're going through a rough patch?

Food for thought, anyways.

**pevergreen** · 10-21-2009, 01:05

In answer to your two questions:

Neither.

Both.

**Craterus** · 10-21-2009, 01:10

If you're so desperate not to give up on the ex-girlfriend, get back with her. You'll know soon enough if it's going to work or not (by the sounds of it, no) and it'll also give the other girl time to 'grow up' a bit to make the age gap less...controversial.

Don't let yourself get taken advantage of though. Ex-girlfriend sounds like a drama queen who always needs some crisis to be going on, it might seem noble playing rescuer but don't get stuck in the role because it's difficult to get out of. Anyway, all I feel like writing on this.

**pevergreen** · 10-21-2009, 01:33

Shes lost all her friends as well now...

She caused me to fail high school...

I like her. Even though shes changed, its easy to see the old her there. Its beginning to win back. Plus...shes helped me...a lot. in the same way I/the backroom helped her.

The younger one also strongly reminds me of a girl I used to go out with, before I was on here. Different enough for it not to make me think I only like her because she reminds me of the other, but close enough that maybe I do.

Good fun.