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    I don't really need advice just sympathy.

    My girlfriend of about a year broke up with me on saturday night because she says she needs space and wants to be single for awhile. I obviously didn't want to break up. I am having trouble dealing with this and have been pretty done in the dumps.

    One of (actually I guess alot of people wouldn't see it as a negative) is that she wants to keep having sex, as a friends with benefits kind of thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Centurion1 View Post

    One of (actually I guess alot of people wouldn't see it as a negative) is that she wants to keep having sex, as a friends with benefits kind of thing.
    If she's that kind of girl, she's not worth the time and effort of a long term relationship anyway. I'm not saying you shouldn't take her up on the offer, but marriage+kids+family material she is not.

    Hope that helps. Sorry about the bad news.

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    Sorry to hear it. Time is the only thing that helps much, until one day you will probably realize it was just as well.
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    That. Freaking. Blows. Man.

    It sounds all well and good to accept the sex part-- but, I mean seriously. If she can't accept all the you, is it really worth it in the end? Sounds like a lot more hurt a'coming if you ask me. You're young, and from what I can ascertain a very intelligent, good-looking guy... duration of the relationship apart; You've got a lot more good times ahead of you if you take the punch and move on.

    Just my point of view, certainly- but you need to draw the line somewhere on how much respect you have for yourself.

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    I'm sorry about that man. I wouldn't accept the sex because:

    A. Seems pathetic from a personal stand point to have her reject you as a person but continue letting her have you as a body to get off on.
    B. Sex without any sort of connection just seems pointless to me.


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    I would consider breaking up with someone but still wanting to have sex when the other person wants to continue the relationship to be using that person. If I were you, I would tell her hell no, if you want to have sex with me then you have to be in a relationship with me.

    I'm sorry that she broke up with you dude.

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    Default Re: Centurion Style Girl Problems

    Quote Originally Posted by Centurion1 View Post
    I don't really need advice just sympathy.

    My girlfriend of about a year broke up with me on saturday night because she says she needs space and wants to be single for awhile. I obviously didn't want to break up. I am having trouble dealing with this and have been pretty done in the dumps.

    One of (actually I guess alot of people wouldn't see it as a negative) is that she wants to keep having sex, as a friends with benefits kind of thing.

    On the last part; OH HELL YEAH BROTHER!

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    Sucks man. Have a Guy's Night this weekend, when you get with your buddies and do all the things your girlfriend wouldn't let you do and/or disapprove of. Don't let her use you as she's suggesting - you're worth more than that, despite comments to the contrary.

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    Tell her you're up for the friends with benefits thing, then every time she calls tell her you are busy, or that you have another girl round.

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    Sorry for the situation, but I'll second/third/whatever the advice of turning down the "free" sex. You still feel for her, but she no longer is committed to you and might just be playing the field. Much pain and suffering on your part if she's using you for booty calls in between others. And I don't know how you handled birth control during your relationship, but if for some reason you do take her up on the FWB sex, wrap it. Regardless of what she says.

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    Tell her you're up for the friends with benefits thing, then every time she calls tell her you are busy, or that you have another girl round.
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    Quote Originally Posted by johnhughthom View Post
    Tell her you're up for the friends with benefits thing, then every time she calls tell her you are busy, or that you have another girl round.
    And get around with as many girls as you can. Let her know (indirectly) that if she wants to use you like that it's on your terms and you have other options. That will make her more grateful an compliant when the time comes...no pun intended.


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    Show her how fun having Cashews and Milk can be and if and when you come across Mr.Peanut, don't be shy!



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