Centurion Style Girl Problems

**Subotan** · 10-18-2011, 14:13

Sucks man. Have a Guy's Night this weekend, when you get with your buddies and do all the things your girlfriend wouldn't let you do and/or disapprove of. Don't let her use you as she's suggesting - you're worth more than that, despite comments to the contrary.

**johnhughthom** · 10-18-2011, 14:54

Tell her you're up for the friends with benefits thing, then every time she calls tell her you are busy, or that you have another girl round.

**drone** · 10-18-2011, 16:01

Sorry for the situation, but I'll second/third/whatever the advice of turning down the "free" sex. You still feel for her, but she no longer is committed to you and might just be playing the field. Much pain and suffering on your part if she's using you for booty calls in between others. And I don't know how you handled birth control during your relationship, but if for some reason you do take her up on the FWB sex, wrap it. Regardless of what she says.

Originally Posted by johnhughthom

Tell her you're up for the friends with benefits thing, then every time she calls tell her you are busy, or that you have another girl round.

**Vladimir** · 10-18-2011, 16:12

Originally Posted by johnhughthom

Tell her you're up for the friends with benefits thing, then every time she calls tell her you are busy, or that you have another girl round.

And get around with as many girls as you can. Let her know (indirectly) that if she wants to use you like that it's on your terms and you have other options. That will make her more grateful an compliant when the time comes...no pun intended.

**ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88** · 10-18-2011, 16:25

Show her how fun having Cashews and Milk can be and if and when you come across Mr.Peanut, don't be shy!

**Strike For The South** · 10-18-2011, 18:24

"Never make someone your priority, when they only make you an option."

Anytime I've tried a FWB situation it always is more frustration than its worth. Breaking up sucks bro but the only advice I can give is don't be hateful, petty or desperate. Let her live her life and you live yours. When you get that 2 am call or text message, ignore it or simple state that fact. A FWB situation will hamstring you from meeting someone new.

**TheLastDays** · 10-18-2011, 19:23

Originally Posted by Secura

One of the inevitabilities that I've found with a friends-with-benefits situation is that, at some point, one of you will develop feelings for the other and it just leads to awkwardness; the whole point of it is the casual, no-strings aspect. In this situation, the feelings are already established and even if she can turn them off and just see you as a sex object, you cannot do that yourself... she means more to you than that, I'm sure.

This. Apart from the fact that I'm against premarital sex anyway

but in this case I'd advise against it, even if leaving all morality issues aside, simply because you will only get hurt even more. Sorry to hear about your "loss". You'll get better mate

**Cute Wolf** · 10-18-2011, 21:39

?

you may want to introspect yourself, are when you're in relationship with her, you intruding in her life too much?

too much jealously maybe?

or too much questioning of her?

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sounds like if she want "spend some time alone", but still want to stay with you... well, looks like you have problem with trust and or jealosly

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while it may seem trivial, a simple matter of saying "where are you last night / yesterday / what are you doing with *insert guy name* ; when you said to her quite regularly, it can be very very irritating