Can't we just drop a nuke on the Vatican

[caravel]

Remove marriage from the state and the problem solves itself.

+1

The thread was solved at this point...

Yes marriage (and indeed the church) can be "removed from the state" or civil marriage can be clearly separated from religious marriage as it is in some countries and then gays and lesbians allowed to marry with the same rights as heteros. The religious establishment can then do as they please and (almost) everyone's happy.

The only ones who will find fault are those who would go to a Chinese restaurant and order Pizza - such people will always exist irrespective of what team they're batting for...