...A Little Scared

[Samurai Waki]

I can't honestly say that I'm taking it extremely well, it's still like taking a hard punch to the jaw, it just so happens that I'm not so easy to take down. I've been depressed and angry the last couple of days, but we've opened up dialogue with each other on how we're going to handle it, it's still a lot of emotions jumbled up together, both her's and mine so we're counseling each other as best we can through it. Not too mention paranoia is still nagging at me, which is driving my anger and depression into further depths, and I don't think I'll be completely relieved until I get a full DNA test right after the birth. I've explained this too her, that it's in no way her fault for me being this way, its just six months...six months, what if she hasn't been completely honest or faithful? It's not that I don't trust her, I trust her almost implicitly, but I do suffer from paranoia disorder, and it's like even though I've locked out those feelings of distrust, it's still like they're knocking on the door and telling me to be careful. You pour everything you have into the relationship emotional wise, and you don't want to be dissapointed, sometimes you want to try and ignore the voices nagging at you in your head, but I'm someone who would rather hear the truth and be destroyed by it, then be suspicious of her and the child for the rest of my life.

[Gregoshi]

Wakizashi, you might not be taking it too well, but you seem to be handling it very well. Both of you are communicating and that is a very good thing. You also both seem to be supportive of each other and that too is a very good thing.

I don't know what to say about the paranoia. However, relationships are built on trust. Unless she gives you valid reasons not to trust her, you should ignore the paranoia as much as you are able to.

[doc_bean]

That doesn't mean he can't get a blood test though does it ?
If it would be something that reassures him and lets him better handle the situation I'd say there's nothing wrong with it imho. I'd probably get a bloodtest if my girlfriend got pregnant and we've been together for two years. She already laughed at me for suggesting that and said I should do that if I felt I needed it because it would be mine anyway.

Paranoia becomes a problem if you're constantly stalking her, have to know where she is constantly, get suspicious if she's a little late and such. Don't let it go that far Wakizashi. I'm sure she can understand your need for reassurance, after all, like you said, you've only been together for six months, and you have inherited a small fortune. Just tell her that you do thrust her but there's just this little *weird* thought in the back of your head that you know is irrational but that you'd rather eliminate than suppress.

Likewise, don't get married without a pre-nup.

[Gregoshi]

That doesn't mean he can't get a blood test though does it ?
If it would be something that reassures him and lets him better handle the situation I'd say there's nothing wrong with it imho.

No, I didn't mean not to get the blood test doc, but if I understand correctly, Wakizashi has to wait until the child is born to get the comprehensive blood test done. He's got to live through six or so months of uncertainty until then. I agree about the reassurance factor in getting the test done.

[Kagemusha]

Congratulations Wakizashi! You are taking a great step in your life and reading through your impressions on this.I think the child will have a great father.I wish you and your future family all the best for the road of life,where ever it may take you.

[naut]

You pour everything you have into the relationship emotional wise, and you don't want to be dissapointed, sometimes you want to try and ignore the voices nagging at you in your head, but I'm someone who would rather hear the truth and be destroyed by it, then be suspicious of her and the child for the rest of my life.

I can understand your need for reassurance that the child is yours, but as doc_bean said don't let it drive you to extremities. If your gut tells your the child is yours, then you should have nothing to fear as instincts are usually correct.