How to get new family members to spawn in the Holy Land?

[Tuidjy]

AFAIK the new generals and family members spawn where your
faction leader currently resides. So either you move your faction leader to the
holy land, or you're in a deep trouble :P

Unfortunately, this is not true. My king has been pacifying Jerusalem for the
last ten years, but the maturing kids still show up in France. I am having the
same problem as the original poster. I was lucky enough to get one man of
the hour the first year, but I have been sending hospitalier knights against
huge stacks since, and no luck. I wish I understood the requirements for
promoting a winning captain.

[Oaty]

One trick is when asked to marry is to minimize the message move the capitol where you want him accept and then move your capital back

[magnum]

Lol, now thats a trick I hadn't thought of. Will have to remember it. =)

[FactionHeir]

Oaty, that, again, would only work if the father of the woman you are marrying to the general was dead. Otherwise he'll join the father's army, wherever he currently is.

[Zenicetus]

I am having the same problem as the original poster. I was lucky enough to get one man of the hour the first year, but I have been sending hospitalier knights against huge stacks since, and no luck. I wish I understood the requirements for promoting a winning captain.

As far as I know, it's the same as RTW: it triggers when you don't have a certain threshold number of generals, relative to the number of provinces you own. You'll get more Men of the Hour promotions if you conquer territory rapidly (more rapidly than the normal birth/maturation of family members), or if you lose a bunch of male family members to disease, assassination, or combat.

You might be able to trigger more captain promotions with your Holy Land armies if you kill off family members and generals back home, like sending them solo against big rebel stacks. Of course the trade-off is that you might be sacrificing high-ranked generals with good retinues for newbies, just to gain geographic position.

At least I think that's how it works. It's basically a quota system.