Dating a Japanese Girl

[Proletariat]

Did she choose sushi? If not, maybe you wanna pick a cuisine she's not already an expert on. Other than that, I don't know enough about dating Japanese chicks to contribute. Where's soly when you need him?

Good luck, Vlad!

[Caius]

Good luck.

I can't even date a girl from my city, so I give you luck. That's all I've got for you.

[Zim]

My brief relationship with a girl from Japan ended badly, partly because I suffered from niceguy-itis, I think.

Not sure I can offer much advice. I wouldn't reccommend changing your behavior too much, unless you'd want to change it even aside from trying to make a good impression. Any permanant characteristics (like your niceness) are likely to come out eventually anyway, best for her to figure out if she likes you know than get to like a you that doesn't reeally exist.

That said, it's easy to make mistakes in the name of being nice or a good host. I ruined things with that girl by coming on too strongly, and way overdoing my first Valentine's Gift for her. I can only imagine how creepy it seemed.

Then again, I overdid my first Valentine's Day gift to the next girl I dated as well, and now we're married!

[LeftEyeNine]

There should be a great difference between a native and traditional Japanese and another one with Japanese origins.

Being Mr. Niceguy would definitely somehow fail at the second kind. However it will fail at all girls if you only be Mr. Niceguy. My advice on women is "make an impact, no matter how. Don't push it along the lines of rudeness though. But don't avoid having fun of her if need be"

I think this is mostly about a girl than being Japanese. But as long as I've seen here and there, the native and traditional ones would count you out if you behave like a college "gazelle hunter".

As long as she likes you, she'd even like it two of you shopping from a greengrocery's. But going to some place which would provide you with ideas to open chats would serve you well, rather than debating the size of the cucumbers.

Good luck.

P.S. Learn some basic Japanese. It wouldn't hurt at all.

[Vladimir]

There should be a great difference between a native and traditional Japanese and another one with Japanese origins.

Being Mr. Niceguy would definitely somehow fail at the second kind. However it will fail at all girls if you only be Mr. Niceguy. My advice on women is "make an impact, no matter how. Don't push it along the lines of rudeness though. But don't avoid having fun of her if need be"

I think this is mostly about a girl than being Japanese. But as long as I've seen here and there, the native and traditional ones would count you out if you behave like a college "gazelle hunter".

As long as she likes you, she'd even like it two of you shopping from a greengrocery's. But going to some place which would provide you with ideas to open chats would serve you well, rather than debating the size of the cucumbers.

Good luck.

P.S. Learn some basic Japanese. It wouldn't hurt at all.

I knew I'd see you here!

I, ah, may have made an impact when we first met. I think I made her a little nervous, hopefully in a good way.

I guess I'll have to learn more than "wassabi" and "no-dachi."

Did she choose sushi? If not, maybe you wanna pick a cuisine she's not already an expert on. Other than that, I don't know enough about dating Japanese chicks to contribute. Where's soly when you need him?

Good luck, Vlad!

Yes, thank you (and everyone else!). The hypothetical second date would be much different, something like Spanish tapas, third maybe something really Japanese. Thank you for your contribution, and being the first poster. However, I'm not quite in Soly's league yet .

[SwordsMaster]

Man, women are women, even if they are japanese. And men are men, in the same way, before i get jumped on by some overzealous PC watchers. So even thought their cultural backgrounds are different, they "work" in the same way. So whatever makes them tick in Greece will be valid in Laos, at a gut level. That is all that matters anyway. If she's attracted to you at a gut level, everything else is polish.

[Rodion Romanovich]

Man, women are women, even if they are japanese. And men are men, in the same way, before i get jumped on by some overzealous PC watchers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFBOQzSk14c

[Rodion Romanovich]

@OT:
Best tips:
- Choose your level on the scale arrogance-niceness appropriately. Neither too urgent to be liked, nor too arrogant and uncaring about what she thinks of you.
- Start out the evening comparatively stiff, reserved and close to hostile, but polite. It gives you respect and makes you appear mentally strong and high up in the sexual rank fight hierarchy, and when you then relax more during the evening you give her a sense of accomplishment, which makes her happy. This point doesn't apply if you have a relationship in which you're already very friendly towards each other.
- If you can find a chance where it is legitimate to make body contact: 1. don't hesitate!, 2. be confident when doing it, and 3. target neither too neutral nor too intimate areas

[Samurai Waki]

Not too sure about dating across the cultural barrier, the only non-American I've ever dated was Italian, and i'm not too sure it was really even...well dating. (more like a fling).

any who, my personal opinion is that you shouldn't feel pressured, chances are she doesn't want you to be anything else but you.

and if you're really, really concerned about the Japanese Women thing. I believe it would be more necessary to have Papewaio's input here.