I give up.

[Prussian to the Iron]

So I'll edit and give full details later, but basically I'm freaking done with women. Too much effort and hurt and nothing in return. screw sex, I haven't even had a girlfriend for more than 1 date before! and I've only been out on 2 dates, 1 of which thought it wasnt one!

so yeah, I'm just saying screw it and not even caring. I'll be that guy who's like 30 before I even have a girlfriend. the worst part is that I have tons of friends, but girls just always wanna be friends. *sigh*. it doesnt matter anyway. I'll just creep back into my little hole.


So here's the scoop:

So I transferred into another Gym class like 2 weeks ago (because my math class changed which changed half my schedule), where I met this girl Shelby. we totally clicked and just talked and laughed like every day of gym for the whole time almost. Homecoming (last night) was coming up, so I asked her to it. she said yes, I bought her ticket, and we had everything planned out pretty much.
I was going to her house to ride with her, and her best friend and her date were riding with us. we were getting pizza beforehand, and her friends dad was supposed to pick us up at 11, after being dropped off at 8.

her mom really liked me (I think) and we were talking and laughing at her house and it was great. then we got to the dance.
so we're kinda talking, then we get inside and she bolts off to talk to just about everyone at the dance who wasn't me, leaving me lonely standing next to her friends date while they were talking away almost the whole time. I asked her to dance, she said she didn't feel well (she'd been sick for a couple weeks with a chest infection), so we went out into the cafeteria where it was pretty calm and everything.
then her friend comes up to me and asks if I thought we were just going as friends or if I thought it was a date. told her it was a date.
then shelby comes over and says she didnt wanna dance because like her ex-boyfriend (they broke up 4 MONTHS AGO!!!!), who is constantly flirting with her in band, had something to do with like she doesnt like to slow dance (I offered at the not slow dance too). so then after this she goes off and talks to more people, while I'm left by myself again.

so after waiting...and waiting...and waiting....and then searching for her for a while, I just decided that I'd just leave. why stay there alone while my date pretty much didn't even need me to be there? so I left.

later, she texts me and asks if I was still there...like an hour after I left. then she said that she had been looking for me for almost an hour. the part that really hurts me here is that last year her date stood her up the day before, so she said she probably won't go to any more dances. and then we went into a whole discussion about why she doesn't wanna go out with anyone right now (the prior discussion about the ex-boyfriend happened here, where I said it happened before she just said she had bad experiences slow dancing). so...now I'm stuck in friendland at best, probably lower than that if possible, because this little ****e piece of crap harasses her. frickin douche.


so yeah. thats why I'm done. callin it quits. frickin sick and tired of trying and just getting beat down every time, while being forced to observe the successful or at least good relationships that just about all of my friends have. I'll never understand why girls are like they are, but it'd be nice if they'd just quit like all the a-hole stuff, I think that would really help the world out.

[Major Robert Dump]

So you into dudes now?

[Hooahguy]

Dude, youre in high school, chill out. I was just like you and went through three "girlfriends" until I figured out that girls at the high school age, with a few exceptions, are just not ready for relationships. And neither are us guys. Wait until college. I know, its tough, but its the awful truth of the matter.

[Rhyfelwyr]

I cannot understand this phenomenon where people end up just being friends with girls. I honestly can't see how you could ever get into that sort of situation.

It's not like you would share typical interests like football or gaming or whatever. It's like both genders act the same these days. At Uni they all seem to hang out in mixed groups, and the guys all wear fancy clothes with designer hair cuts and all the crap. What do they even talk about? X-factor (lol)?

Bah! I sound like an old man and I'm 21!

Meh, I'm probably just too far removed from 'popular culture' these days.

[Crazed Rabbit]

Well, you know what they say - if you try and fail, then give up and never try again.

I think that was it, anyway...

Seriously dude, you're young. Don't sweat that it doesn't work out yet.

CR

[Prussian to the Iron]

I cannot understand this phenomenon where people end up just being friends with girls. I honestly can't see how you could ever get into that sort of situation.

It's not like you would share typical interests like football or gaming or whatever. It's like both genders act the same these days. At Uni they all seem to hang out in mixed groups, and the guys all wear fancy clothes with designer hair cuts and all the crap. What do they even talk about? X-factor (lol)?

Bah! I sound like an old man and I'm 21!

Meh, I'm probably just too far removed from 'popular culture' these days.

Because some total A-hole 50 years ago decided he could just be friends with girls, and then girls started to get the idea that it was ok to not only just be friends with a guy that would be a good match for them, but also to lead said guy on as if she was his girlfriend, thus making him into the un-escapable friend stage.

trust me Rhyfelwyr, I'm totally with you. i hate guys that act like girls, and dress like that. and i hate that girls then like these guys over the actual men that they know.

Hell, I'm on the Football Team (runningback), I'm like really smart, ROTC, and overall pretty buff (not to sound too arrogant or full of myself). but nowadays no girls want that. they want all the gay dudes.

[gaelic cowboy]

Your probably trying too hard just relax and you know talk to people for you the craic trust me it works.

[Beskar]

It's not like you would share typical interests like football or gaming or whatever. It's like both genders act the same these days.

Go Rhyfelwyr, tell them to return to that kitchen and make you a sandwich like it was 1879.

[gaelic cowboy]

Go Rhyfelwyr, tell them to return to that kitchen and make you a sandwich like it was 1879.

Thankfully the brainstrust on the tinterwebby have this all under control.

[ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88]

So you into dudes now?

Epic .



You younger then I am (18 I am) and you flipping out already? Chilllllllll. Have some Cashews and Milk from the Local Swissland Carebear store in your area. Wait about 5 years, you get a GF.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Go Rhyfelwyr, tell them to return to that kitchen and make you a sandwich like it was 1879.

Yes because that's absolutely what I was saying, you crazed communist!

You know what I mean, even in secondary school they tend to mix more and I don't understand what their shared interests could be. I was still football crazy right up until the end of school. Darned kids growing up too quick these days! *shakes walking stick in anger*

[Rhyfelwyr]

Hell, I'm on the Football Team (runningback), I'm like really smart, ROTC, and overall pretty buff (not to sound too arrogant or full of myself). but nowadays no girls want that. they want all the gay dudes.

I think that is probably only a problem for girls in your age group (you're 15 or so, IIRC?), they probably like Justine Bieber lookalikes. I never got any attention until the last couple of years, since then I've been approached a few times, I can't complain since I barely leave the house and I've only got one Uni class for two hours per term (ha!). I ruin everything with my lack of social skills though, I'm still annoyed about the last time. Gah!

And I do not act all 'macho' and I am not chauvinistic. I just see myself as normal and the problem is with all these emo's and such likes today which have become the new 'norm'. Where I live I am a completely average, this phenomenon I have noticed is more at Uni.

[Motep]

give 'em time. They'll come around

[gaelic cowboy]

Hold on Prusiian Iron cant be that young is ROTC not like a Cadetship in the army






Anyway who cares if there all into "Gay Dudes" they soon cop there not into them.

[Hax]

trust me Rhyfelwyr, I'm totally with you. i hate guys that act like girls, and dress like that. and i hate that girls then like these guys over the actual men boys that they know.

So I'll edit and give full details later, but basically I'm freaking done with women girls. Too much effort and hurt and nothing in return. screw sex, I haven't even had a girlfriend for more than 1 date before! and I've only been out on 2 dates, 1 of which thought it wasnt one!

Look, I made it somewhat more fitting ^___^

[Prussian to the Iron]

Hold on Prusiian Iron cant be that young is ROTC not like a Cadetship in the army

I'm 15, 16 in april

[Hosakawa Tito]

A love song. Pick yer self up, dust yer self off, never give up.

[Motep]

I approve of the above post

[Megas Methuselah]

Don't worry, brah. Even the ugliest bastards can get laid once they get into university. I don't know how they do it, but they get by somehow.

[Prussian to the Iron]

Don't worry, brah. Even the ugliest bastards can get laid once they get into university. I don't know how they do it, but they get by somehow.

and nice guys like me get left the hell behind.

[Hooahguy]

I'll repeat: Cool it, wait until college. Or at least Senior year.

[pevergreen]

Its pretty obvious you aren't ready.

Cultural differences could be popping up here so my view may be tainted, but yeah.

Give up, come back in a couple years when you might be ready. Why do you need a girlfriend now anyway?

Give a good reason.

[Motep]

I'll repeat: Cool it, wait until college. Or at least Senior year.

yeah, senior year is going pretty good for me. I had your same situation, just give it time, they will see the value of you.

[gaelic cowboy]

I'm 15, 16 in april

What is ROTC so then I thought it stood for Reserve Officer's Training Corps your cant be in that at 15.

The lads are right just play it cool college is where the action happens anyway

[Prussian to the Iron]

What is ROTC so then I thought it stood for Reserve Officer's Training Corps your cant be in that at 15.

The lads are right just play it cool college is where the action happens anyway

whatever jrotc does it matter?

[tibilicus]

I cannot understand this phenomenon where people end up just being friends with girls. I honestly can't see how you could ever get into that sort of situation.

It's not like you would share typical interests like football or gaming or whatever. It's like both genders act the same these days. At Uni they all seem to hang out in mixed groups, and the guys all wear fancy clothes with designer hair cuts and all the crap. What do they even talk about? X-factor (lol)?

Bah! I sound like an old man and I'm 21!

Meh, I'm probably just too far removed from 'popular culture' these days.

The different genders often contribute different things to a group. I have different conversations with my guy friends as opposed to my girl friends and probably act a bit differently around each but I still value each the same. I would say I only click with my guy friends slightly more as you probably do have more in common but saying that, it is entirely possible to have good friends who are girls.

[gaelic cowboy]

whoa lad take it easy I wasnt putting you down just wondering thats all

[Motep]

The different genders often contribute different things to a group. I have different conversations with my guy friends as opposed to my girl friends and probably act a bit differently around each but I still value each the same. I would say I only click with my guy friends slightly more as you probably do have more in common but saying that, it is entirely possible to have good friends who are girls.

seconded

[naut]

Your probably trying too hard just relax and you know talk to people for you the craic trust me it works.

Its pretty obvious you aren't ready.

Cultural differences could be popping up here so my view may be tainted, but yeah.

Give up, come back in a couple years when you might be ready. Why do you need a girlfriend now anyway?

Give a good reason.

I don't mean to pry or be rude, but you seem like you have some personal insecurities, etc. At the dance when she went to talk to her friends why did you do what you did? Isn't she allowed to have her own friends? Maybe you should have talked to other people there too, rather than worry about a girl you just met. If something is going to happen it is going to happen, calm down. I get the sense that you are "dependent" on others for approval. I may be completely off here, an I'm not trying to be rude, but you should take a step back, assess yourself, and say am I completely happy personally? If you can' love yourself, and if you don't have your own life and sense of identity you can never actually love someone else.

Uh, I hope that makes sense, 6 or so hours sleep over the last 3 days is messing with my thought processes.

[jabarto]

I'm going to go against the consensus here and agree with the OP. I'm 20, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and will be alone until the day I die. But it's so very worth it to not have to deal with people and their lies.