Quote Originally Posted by Louis VI the Fat View Post
Within any peer group, girls divide guys into two groups, and two groups only: a - guys all of them want, b - guys none of them want. If you're in group 'b', it's all over unless you can pull some sort of game-changing stunt.
"Game-changing stunt"? Heh. Usually it's something as basic as building self-confidence and self-worth. Basic yes, but I understand that it is hard for many people (been there done that). Guys get lumped in that group because a girl won't see them as "potential", because they often lack pride/self-esteem or have not come to terms with insecurities. Girls want men who act like men, not men who whine about their petty issues. Everyone's got issues, but don't whine about them, go and do something about them.

PS: Yes, listen to Louis, date the mum, Cougar's will do things for you if you treat them right.

Tangentially, schools are horrible for the development of male-female interaction because of the strictness of school yard stereotypes (nerds are nerds and nothing else, athletes are athletes and nothing else, etc) and the limited pool of the opposite sex. People get the sense that the person they are chasing is the only one for them, "its perfect", bleah, simply because the viable options are minimal. When in fact there are many, many viable options out there and they just need to be found. These perceptions grow and carry on over into adult life, and as a result you end up with mopey adults hung up over some bird/bloke they went on a date with once and even though nothing happened they must be "the one".