Women are confusing

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Ethelred Unread]

Sounds like she's willing to give you another go. Ask her for a coffee or drink after the lecture next time.

If you don't know someone, shyness almost always comes across as arrogance, so take it mellow this time.

Good Luck!

[Strike For The South]

Sometimes people talk to each other just to talk, I do this all the time. I love the sound of my own voice

She may like talking to you! OMG!

If want to have a go at her, have a go. If she says no, such is life.

But sitting here and thinking about it does nothing

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Strike For The South]

I must have missed the part where she spurned your advances

Oh right that parts in your head

Make her laugh ask her out

Or come back here in two weeks and ask the same bloody question

Talk about what a git the professor is, or the class, or the weather. Smile a bit, use your hands

IDK what you're looking for in the forum, No one can give you a clear cut answer as to how she veiws you nor can we give you an answer about what will happen

She on the other hand is a real live woman who has found you good enough to intiate conversation with

This could lead to a rousing round of intercourse or nothing or something in between

But I can gaurngoddamntee you what happens next will have nothing to do with what we tell you, wether we stroke or hurt your ego. And it certainly will have nothing to do with us extracting elementary school clues on wether she likes you or not

You clearly have interest

Act on it

[Husar]

I must have missed the part where she spurned your advances

Oh right that parts in your head

You see, I think that is what he is looking for here, so stop telling him not to post here, he may have (and I don't mean any offense with that, I probably made the same mistake) never found out that this was only in his head without your help.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Vuk]

Women are not confusing...they are like nuclear physics...where am I going with this?

[Megas Methuselah]

But don't bother wearing a condom. They're so, like, unneccesary.

[Motep]

Her spurning my advances isn't in my head, it's in the OP... I asked for her number, and she said "sorry but there's no point because I'm getting a new mobile number in a few weeks". The consensus when I posted that here in a past thread was that was a polite way of saying no, and that's how I took it.

Until this happened...

Which is why I am confused...

Anyway what's so bad about posting a thread asking about it, who doesn't wonder about this sort of stuff? I have no experience in this area, so...

How long has it been? Maybe she really didnt have a phone. You know, people dont always lie.

[Rhyfelwyr]

How long has it been? Maybe she really didnt have a phone. You know, people dont always lie.

Well there was a couple of weeks after that when I never spoke to her in class (she was sitting elsewhere, but it was a new class so it's not like we were sitting together before), but now she starts sitting next to me and talking to me a couple of weeks later.

[pevergreen]

Shes talking to you, just ask her.

If she says no, either just keep talking, or end the conversation awkwardly and never talk to her again.

[Hosakawa Tito]

Hehehe, the women I've gotten to really know in my life admit that sometimes they don't understand their reasons and/or thought processes sometimes either. Which means we don't stand a chance of figuring it out. All ya can do is ask her. What's the worst that can happen? No ain't the end of the world. You'll know where you stand and have no regrets over missing that chance.

[InsaneApache]

I'm with you all the way there Hosakawa Tito, I've been married twice, I have five grand-daughters and I still don't understand them. As you say, when the subject is broached they don't understand themselves either! Must be a womb thing.

Or come back here in two weeks and ask the same bloody question

*chuckle*

[Cute Wolf]

Women are not confusing...they are like nuclear physics...where am I going with this?

well, nuclear physics are much more understandable

even I can't fully understand my own twin sister, but at least she can help if I have problems with another girls.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Her spurning my advances isn't in my head, it's in the OP... I asked for her number, and she said "sorry but there's no point because I'm getting a new mobile number in a few weeks". The consensus when I posted that here in a past thread was that was a polite way of saying no, and that's how I took it.

Until this happened...

Which is why I am confused...

Anyway what's so bad about posting a thread asking about it, who doesn't wonder about this sort of stuff? I have no experience in this area, so...

Hmmmm.

1. You're thinking too much.

2. she obviously has some sort of interest in her.

3. You seem to want her, so if try being just friends, it won't work.

4. If you don't ask her out you're obviously going to obsess.

So.....

Next time you see her make small talk at the start of the lecture, or just after, then say:

"Would like to go out some time, maybe dinner?"

She'll either say yes or no, if she say's yes ask for her number, maybe try to get her to agree to an evening later in the week.

If she ums and arss she's either not interested, or is as worried as you are - so try to be relaxed about it.

[Strike For The South]

have you had class again?

[InsaneApache]

Well have you?

[Megas Methuselah]

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[pevergreen]

You asked, time passed and now she is talking to you.

You ask on monday, or there will be consequences.

[Viking]

As always, you are dealing with humans. Your gut feeling is good to tell you how to behave properly, but it can be terrible to intepret the behaviour and expressions of others (interpretation tends to be self-centered, for instance). You'll have to use logic in order to fully master the latter (and it may help with the former).

What does it mean for you to sit down and chat to somebody? What range of reasons would you have? I'm sure you could come up with pretty different reasons. That's a good starting point if you want to come up with theoretical solutions, though of course empiricism is needed for the actual reality. And that's what you are interested in here.

[Sigurd]

You neglected to tell us if she is smoking hot. If this is just a girl - why not just be a friend? She might be looking for one.
I have had girls making a point of sitting next to me in class which led to nothing but friendship. During High School There was Iris René and Beate - People even thought we were a couple (Iris René). In Uni there was this Indonesian girl Tamara.

You should gauge her with a few conversation topics.
Suggestions:

• There is this Norwegian dude I know that totally refutes Sola Scriptura... what is that all about?
• There is this Texan I know that thinks I should just grab you and kiss you long and hard ... but I am just too shy.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Well nothing happened, I was flanked by people on both sides before she came in so she couldn't have sat next to me, and she left quite quickly at the end. Meh.

[A Nerd]

Cruel fate! Coincidence is a relative of fate. The function together on similar wave lenghts.

[Strike For The South]

Well nothing happened, I was flanked by people on both sides before she came in so she couldn't have sat next to me, and she left quite quickly at the end. Meh.

God forbid you seek her out

If we ever meet IRL I'm going to hug you until you stop breathing

[Rhyfelwyr]

God forbid you seek her out

If we ever meet IRL I'm going to hug you until you stop breathing

Well I don't want to come accross as creepy.

[Scienter]

Maybe she really didn't have a phone. Maybe she leaves quickly after class because she has another class to get to? Or, she doesn't like the class and just wants to get out ASAP. Maybe she has to pee.

The point is, you'll never know. Just ask her and be ready to deal with a rejection if that's what she does. Sure, some women act crazy and unpredictable. On the flip side, I think both sexes read way too much into the actions of the people they're interested in.

[Viking]

On the flip side, I think both sexes read way too much into the actions of the people they're interested in.

Most likely. I guess that it helps in the initial phase when it comes to make people bond - more courage to seek contact if you think they're interested in you.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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