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Hmm, that is tricky. I don't share that sentiment but that's because I think that having sex before marriage is something that couples should do to create a stronger emotional bond with each other. I don't think couples should abstain from sex before marriage and I think that when you are standing on the altar you are there because of love, not because you are excited about having sex. Marriage is a declaration, a promise, a commitment, not a ticket to the bedroom.
Don't get me wrong, I agree completely that marriage should not be as you say a ticket to the bedroom. It would be a bit of a perversion of marriage if I met a nice girl and married her just for that (though oddly enough the way I'm going that might be the natural conclusion of my beliefs when it comes to it... no, be good! ). My version of Christianity seems to be inherently self-destructive in general.

But seriously, if you aren't 'getting some' on a casual basis, it gets you motivated to get out there more and look for somebody.

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Ummm, well marriage is about declaring your being in love. Sex is about having fun or creating emotional bonds with another person. They are closely related, but not the same thing.
I think our different ideas on marriage probably come from our views on sex outwith marriage; neither are necessarily correct as its not exactly something that is striclty defined.

If for you sex is something that is normal outwith marriage, naturally it will be less connected to your idea of what marriage means. For people with my values that isn't true.