There was one conherent point there, enforced choices are immoral and you should fight them. I'm sorry if the examples were poorly framed.
As to your examples, those are easy.
Never break your word and uphold the law over any familial loyalty, unless the law is unjust in which case oppose it over any loyalty.
Loyalty implies oathtaking, lawbreakers are oathbreakers - outlaws and felons - you don't owe them anything because they cannot be trusted.
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