Another girl thread

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Visor]

Try talking to her?

[Moros]

You're fifty!?

Woha.

Err... advice err...
Just be nice and chill down. She's just a person and so are you. If you treat her like one you'll find out soon enough whether there's a spark or not. And if there's not that doesn't mean you can't have good times. I guess. Just be relaxed. That's actually the best thing one could do.

[Tuuvi]

I think Moros has the right advice. Just chill and be yourself. Think of something fun that you like to do and ask her if she wants to come.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Tuuvi]

I suggest you stop worrying about how you feel when you're trying to relate to people your age and just start talking to her. Like Moros said, you'll either find something to talk about or you won't, and if you don't that means it wasn't going to work anyway.

You don't need to have the same interests to connect with someone. One of my best friends is a girl who likes hip-hop, R&B, and crappy movies and t.v. shows, and is really ignorant. I'm a guy who likes punk rock, learning new things and hates all the mainstream entertainment crap (with the exception of the occasional good movie). We're basically opposites, but we're still able to have a good time when we hang out.

If this girl is right for you, you'll able to relate to her just fine once you get over that awkward stage where you don't really know her yet.

[Peasant Phill]

Take her to a nice public place where you can talk. A great pub or restaurant. Nothing to showy. Somewhere where you can get to know each other.

I took the last girl to a nice pub and we just talked for a few hours. Give her a look into you and take intrest in what she says. Let the conversation eb and flow. And if it doesn't work, nothing is lost.

[Monk]

Stop making this more complicated than it needs to be.

[Visor]

Problem is I'm clueless as to what to do next.

Help please...

Do you want to come here everytime you meet a girl?

You can only learn by trying. Don't come here to learn what to do, if you're bold enough to go over and get her number then you know enough to do whatever need to.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[gaelic cowboy]

Guys I don't think you are understanding me, I'm not asking how to form a deep spiritual connection.

The thing I don't get is do younger people tend to go more for 'hanging out' these days rather than more formal dates.

For example, me and a few of the guys from work are going to a pub and later a club on Friday. Would it be appropriate to ask her if she wants to come along?

Is that the sort of thing someone my age would ask a girl to do if he had never met her and just got her number?

Thats where texting is great today send a little message and sound her out on meeting up in town later.

important thing is to get her replying.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Peasant Phill]

I'm thinking tomorrow (Thursday) I will give her a call.

Because first of all I have to buy a mobile phone tonight. (yeah, lol... was gonna get one anyway for my job interviews).

And just say hey want to meet up tomorrow night at 11 with some of the ones from work (not too late?).

If she says yeah great, if she says no I'll just say well you have my number now you can call if you want to meet up, and leave the ball in her court.

This thread is just because I am not sure what the social norms are with these things, I live a very isolated life from mainstream society.

That sounds perfect. Don't take 'social norms' to serious, just do what makes sense.
Best of luck.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[PanzerJaeger]

I've no idea how young people operate when it comes to this sort of thing.

Text her at some point in the early morning hours asking for nudes. If she sends them, you're in. That's how the young people operate these days.

[Secura]

And just say hey want to meet up tomorrow night at 11 with some of the ones from work (not too late?).

If you want to get to know this girl beyond the possibility of the horizontal samba, then an atmosphere of your mates (boys will be boys), alcohol and loud music isn't really the way to go. That's not to say you want to go for intimate, candlelight stuff, but the pub/club scene doesn't make for a good first date, too many distractions.

What exciting things are there to do in your area?

[Andres]

I would take her to a pub without your friends, to be honest

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Peasant Phill]

Well I called her but she said she was staying in tomorrow.

Just said well you've got my number now if you want to meet up.

I'm not even sure she was old enough to go to the pub like I suggested. (eh... lol)

At least that's some experience there, got a girl's number out of the blue after all.

Too bad. Oh wel, nothing gained but nothing lost.

Now can we please go back to discussing where the first date should be had?
Both the intimate approach as the public approach have their merits. Focus vs. safety in numbers I would say.

[Centurion1]

intimate is creepy for a first date with someone you just met.

coffee is a win, coffee is always a win.

going out with your group to the club or bar and bringing her along is a win also.

[a completely inoffensive name]

The only reasonable person in here is PJ. One of my friends got 600+ naked pics from around 80+ fellow high school girls just by asking. He also committed sexual assault by pretending to be his brother's fingers. But that's another story in itself. Point is, hit the gym, lawyer up and delete your facebook because you never want to stick your appendages in crazy.

EDIT: Also, if it requires a fist, it's no longer foreplay.

[A Nerd]

I have never had much luck with spur of the moment number askings. Such relationships require grooming. That won't even work all the time. If you can read her expressions, then this should guide your conversations. Disinterest or interest should be easy to note. A casual place to meet with a modest crowd might be the best place to go. So she feels comfortable in her surroundings and you can conversate without the fear of your perhaps being too forward. A nice safety if you will. Don't leave the next meeting up to her. Persue modestly.

You never know, some women might find your inexperience and shyness (lack of experience) becoming. Not to mention your maturity, Mr. 50 year old 22 year old. ;)

[Fragony]

intimate is creepy for a first date with someone you just met.

coffee is a win, coffee is always a win.

going out with your group to the club or bar and bringing her along is a win also.

Lunch you ijjit. It's never a date it's just lunch.

[a completely inoffensive name]

Hmm my last post was more than I should have shared. Maybe I should try to be more serious and not divulge the horrors of my high school experience.

You should just ask her what she is into and find something interesting about it and base the conversation off that. If you can relate it to something you are interested or some aspect about yourself, "Oh, you are an art major, that's cool. I enjoy art myself from time to time, mostly pre 1800s Japanese stuff, whats your taste?" (Idk, this seems like a **** example.) This way she knows about you, you know about her. You are not controlling the conversation and screwing it up. It's an easier flow imo to start off with then hopping in, hoping the flow of the date will just magically align.

[Centurion1]

Hmm my last post was more than I should have shared. Maybe I should try to be more serious and not divulge the horrors of my high school experience.

You should just ask her what she is into and find something interesting about it and base the conversation off that. If you can relate it to something you are interested or some aspect about yourself, "Oh, you are an art major, that's cool. I enjoy art myself from time to time, mostly pre 1800s Japanese stuff, whats your taste?" (Idk, this seems like a **** example.) This way she knows about you, you know about her. You are not controlling the conversation and screwing it up. It's an easier flow imo to start off with then hopping in, hoping the flow of the date will just magically align.

I took Acin to the Frick our first date. He put out on the first date.

[a completely inoffensive name]

I took Acin to the Frick our first date. He put out on the first date.

I was a bit tipsy that night.

EDIT: But I have no regrets >:D

[Strike For The South]

I was a bit tipsy that night.

EDIT: But I have no regrets >:D

I still expect a visit.....PROMISES WERE MADE

[a completely inoffensive name]

I still expect a visit.....PROMISES WERE MADE

Oh, I will be visiting the greatest state in the country sometime before I am out of college.

[PanzerJaeger]

The only reasonable person in here is PJ. One of my friends got 600+ naked pics from around 80+ fellow high school girls just by asking. He also committed sexual assault by pretending to be his brother's fingers. But that's another story in itself. Point is, hit the gym, lawyer up and delete your facebook because you never want to stick your appendages in crazy.

EDIT: Also, if it requires a fist, it's no longer foreplay.

Just saw this and LOL.

[Shaka_Khan]

Confidence is the key. Try enlisting in the army and get stationed in South Korea or Japan. You'll feel less nervous about losing a local girl there because you're going to return home anyway. You won't have to worry about meeting her and her parents again. If all goes well with a girl then you could take her home.