In control one of the things "Shepard" references with those who sacrificed is apparently his own helmet, which is in the same pile of rubble as sheppard is shown covered in at the end of Destroy. Destroy is also the only one where Shepard's name isn't added to the wall, by the looks of it. So they STILL haven't explained that and the whole thing could STILL be a dream.
Weird, his name gets added to the wall in this destroy ending.