On Conquest!

[Hooahguy]

i plan on directly confronting her on why we dont talk too much, then work with her to figure out a way to make it less akward for her to talk to me.
would that do more harm than good?

[Decker]

i plan on directly confronting her on why we dont talk too much, then work with her to figure out a way to make it less akward for her to talk to me.
would that do more harm than good?

Maybe if you did it in the nude...

[Hooahguy]

that a joke?

[Decker]

that a joke?

No...

This is serious business get with it

[Yoyoma1910]

i plan on directly confronting her on why we dont talk too much, then work with her to figure out a way to make it less akward for her to talk to me.
would that do more harm than good?

It sounds like you're trying to make the situation more awkward.

[Hooahguy]

maybe. but i should definitly tell her that my intentions are only to be friends, not anything else (as of now).
that should help, i guess.

[Yoyoma1910]

If you're going to be direct and confrontational about it, why lie?


Just go the whole way and get it over with, rather than drag it out.


If she's not interested in you now, what is going to change the situation? Is she dating someone she might break up with? Are you planing on changing your personality? Lifting some weights maybe?

[Hooahguy]

shes not dating anyone, and she just broke up w/ someone a month or two ago.
so i dunno....
EDIT: and ya, im working our and stuff......
when i rip that shirt off at the next dance i wont be that flat stomach anymore!
but the key is that i just want to be good friends with her, before anything else....

[Yoyoma1910]

Alright,


How long was she dating the other person? Give her a week or so of recovery per month of relationship.


When you go in to tell her, "You simply want to be friends," use a neutral, low key social situation to talk to her about it. And don't force the issue. Start off with something light, maybe ask her how she's been, since you haven't seen her in awhile. Feel out whether she's willing to address what you actually want to talk about. Don't make her deal with it if doesn't want to.

[Megas Methuselah]

Oh, wow. King Henry is creeping me out with his stalker-like description, as others have previously pointed out.

Anyways, this is for you, Hooah. I've never been involved in a serious relationship, so I would have to agree with others on the following advice: Move on. However, you're a little stubborn about not doing so, therefore I'll think of something else.

[previous advice removed]

EDIT: Hmm. Now that I really think about it... Perhaps you should just casually talk to her, as you previously suggested. It requires a lot of thought, though. Taking into consideration that you want to be good friends with her first, then yeah, I would approach and say something along the lines of, "Hey, how's it going? I haven't heard from you for a while!" You should ensure, though, that there's at least a week or so of no direct contact beforehand. It makes your approach seem more legitimate.

Anyways, if she says no when you eventually ask her out, then so be it. Just move on and do what I do, casually hopping from girl to girl. I can guarantee that it's really fun.

[Hooahguy]

Alright,


How long was she dating the other person? Give her a week or so of recovery per month of relationship.


When you go in to tell her, "You simply want to be friends," use a neutral, low key social situation to talk to her about it. And don't force the issue. Start off with something light, maybe ask her how she's been, since you haven't seen her in awhile. Feel out whether she's willing to address what you actually want to talk about. Don't make her deal with it if doesn't want to.

she dated for a month with him. technically 2 months, but one of them she was at camp.