Beautiful Girl in Supermarket Problem

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Hi comrades,

yes I know I once asked you "what to do if you notice you have just attracted a beautiful girl", but now the situation is different. What to say to the beautiful supermarket employee girl?

There is that girl that works in a local supermarket. Unlike the vast majority of these girls, this one is smart, intelligent, pedantic (yes) and extremely beautiful (cutie-hottie, what else). I'm sure she is Indian or Pakistani if that helps.

Needless to say everytime I have to visit the supermarket I pick the one where she works, although it's not the nearest. She's sadly not there everytime I visit but sometimes. Oh if I only knew the schedule!

So what could get me into conversation with her? We have "met" prior, when she was the cashier. She smiled at me, but not terribly flirty. I've thought about asking her "Umm, do you know where product x is?" Then she would show it to me, but what to say afterwards? I want to find out...

Please share your incredible experience with me.

[Sasaki Kojiro]

How do you know she's smart, intelligent (as well as smart? ), and pedantic ( ) if you've never talked to her?

btw, it's the cashiers job to smile at customers...

[Strike For The South]

Ah yes, the grocery store. Where young love blooms.

I hate to break it to you as you seem like a rather amiable soul but getting an employee while you're a customer can be tricky business but not impossible. Confidence and directness will do you a wrold of good in this scenario. Say what how and when you want something and say it with authority. If you don't the grocery clerks will laugh at you and she will say no. Trust me I know grocery stores.

I will also say don't bother "building" the relationship. If the store is the only place you see her it isn't worth it. She has the same convo 20000 times a day. Be forceful and memorable.

She may say no in which case you yell move on.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

How do you know she's smart, intelligent (as well as smart? )

My educated guess.

and pedantic ( ) if you've never talked to her?

Observed her five seconds.

btw, it's the cashiers job to smile at customers...

Ah, you don't live in Germany, right?

[Beefy187]

When you get your change and before you walk away, say Danke and smile...then walk away.

Repeat

[LittleGrizzly]

When you get your change and before you walk away, say Danke and smile...then walk away.

Repeat

In that case the older pakistani gentleman down the road shall be mine in no time!

Strike's probably got a point, she has to make alot of polite conversation for her job, be different and memorable...

how ? ..... errm... wait for another .org user to suggest something good...

[Strike For The South]

You don't have to be necessarily different just memorable. Go up there with a straight back look her straight in the eye and say your piece. Don't fumble through it, Don't stutter, Even if you are scared to death don't show it.

I'm a grocery clerk myself. I have seen only 2 female employees give there number away to customers both times those ol'boys knew what they wanted and got it.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

Conversely I've seen about 100 fail but you never know!

[Beefy187]

When you get your change and before you walk away, say Danke and smile...then walk away.

Repeat

In that case the older pakistani gentleman down the road shall be mine in no time!

Well there is a polite smile... and a flirtish polite smile

EDIT: Ok listen to SFTS

[tibilicus]

Hi comrades,

yes I know I once asked you "what to do if you notice you have just attracted a beautiful girl", but now the situation is different. What to say to the beautiful supermarket employee girl?

There is that girl that works in a local supermarket. Unlike the vast majority of these girls, this one is smart, intelligent, pedantic (yes) and extremely beautiful (cutie-hottie, what else). I'm sure she is Indian or Pakistani if that helps.

Needless to say everytime I have to visit the supermarket I pick the one where she works, although it's not the nearest. She's sadly not there everytime I visit but sometimes. Oh if I only knew the schedule!

So what could get me into conversation with her? We have "met" prior, when she was the cashier. She smiled at me, but not terribly flirty. I've thought about asking her "Umm, do you know where product x is?" Then she would show it to me, but what to say afterwards? I want to find out...

Please share your incredible experience with me.

Ah these are the sort of things which we let pass in our lives and then sit their thinking what would of happened if I actually had the bottle to make a move? If your serious about this then seize the opportunity.

Maybe try and ask her to show you where a certain item is located and then get into a conversation with her from there. Try something simple like how long have you worked here that sort of thing. If your lucky conversation might bloom from then on. If your not just be ready to walk away and keep your head high.

[pevergreen]

Depending on your budget:

Low Budget:
Find a nice solid object that fits nicely in one hand, with an exposed outer area. eg. Paddle, baseball bat
Take said object to the grocery store.
Pick up a single item, one very cheap, say a single sweet or something.
Act completely normal, as no one can see your object, as it is strapped to your back.
When she starts processing your item, unsheath your object and use it on her head.
When she has had enough of your object and is out cold, proceed to drag her out of the store while grunting and having your object in plain sight of everyone, warning them to keep their distance.

High Budget:
Obtain chloroform.
Use on girl.
Drag out of store.

[Beefy187]

Depending on your budget:

Low Budget:
Find a nice solid object that fits nicely in one hand, with an exposed outer area. eg. Paddle, baseball bat
Take said object to the grocery store.
Pick up a single item, one very cheap, say a single sweet or something.
Act completely normal, as no one can see your object, as it is strapped to your back.
When she starts processing your item, unsheath your object and use it on her head.
When she has had enough of your object and is out cold, proceed to drag her out of the store while grunting and having your object in plain sight of everyone, warning them to keep their distance.

High Budget:
Obtain chloroform.
Use on girl.
Drag out of store.

In that case, you got about 1 hour or so to confess your love until some foolish cops comes along and drag you away to jail.

[pevergreen]

Grunt. Grunt. Gru gru grunt.

Alternatively, use your object on their heads as well.

[AlexanderSextus]

be careful. I've seen many guys ask a girl if she was pakistani or indian only to find out they were mexican or peruvian or something like that.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

She might be Turkish if you're in Germany.

Situations like this are blisteringly simple. Before you get to the counter take a deep breat, relax; then, let her ring up your order, hand over the money and get the reciet. Her job is done, now you say:

"So, do you fancy going out for a drink later this week?"

Don't bother with any of the "building a relationship", you can't because she's doing her job, at best you'll come off as "sweet", at worst stalkerish.

Remember, money reciet, then ask. Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

[LittleGrizzly]

Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

why ?

[Papewaio]

I asked a waitress out on a date once. She said 'Sorry, I've got to study for exams.'

So be prepared for the rejection. Its better to try and fail, then never try at all.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

She actually did have exams. I continued to go to that shop.

[||Lz3||]

What if you wait till her shift ends?

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

why ?

Um, seriously?

It doesn't leave a good impression if you ask, then hand over the money.

[Beefy187]

What if you wait till her shift ends?

That would be stalkerish

[Andres]

Its better to try and fail, then never try at all.

Do they sell flowers or something else that can be used as a small gift for a first romantic date (chocolate perhaps?).

You could ask her where you can find them. Tell her you want to ask a certain girl out, but you don't really know her and you're a bit shy. Ask her what would be a good gift to break the ice when asking a girl you don't really know and tell her it's the first time you're doing such a thing.

See how things go. If the chit chat is fun, buy the flowers (or whatever item she advises you), pay your groceries, put them in your car and come back in with the flowers. Give them to her and ask her out.

In case it's a no, you can always never go back to that store (it's not the nearest for you anyway...). Whatever she says, don't be rude and let her keep the flowers.

Be prepared to be:

1) succesfull
2) feel completely and utterly ridiculous

[Sasaki Kojiro]

My educated guess.


Observed her five seconds.

To say someone is pedantic is an insult...

Ah, you don't live in Germany, right?

What are they supposed to do in germany? Isn't customer service customer service?

[Andres]

To say someone is pedantic is an insult...

An online dictionary (English-Dutch) translates 'pedantic' as "academisch [a], universitair [a]"; which means "academic" or "coming from the university"; I think Centurio meant to say that she seems to be well educated.

The Dutch word "pedant" means something in the lines of "pigheaded" or "obstinate in your opinions".

Not an insult, just (apparently) a bad choice of words (the word "pedantic" seems to have the same bad connotation in English as the Dutch word "pedant"?).

[pevergreen]

My intepretation is that of harping on a single point, never letting up.

Pedantic about many things would be spending lots of time on many simple things just making sure that one last time that its ok, that its good.

[Husar]

Interesting, I guess the advice from Strike is the best.

I've been thinking that before but I'm rather hesitant asking girls out who I do not know at least a bit, for several reasons. Which doesn't mean I never do or did it.

Oh and one girl I just started talking to on the way to uni actually asked me whether I was a stalker(you may know the story), I just kept cool, said no and that I just noticed her on the way to uni often, she didn't drop me right there, we went partying etc afterwards though she was loyal to her boyfriend, just saying that even if she thinks you're a stalker it doesn't have to be the end of the world unless you blush, start stuttering and then run away.

[Jolt]

Depending on your budget:

Low Budget:
Find a nice solid object that fits nicely in one hand, with an exposed outer area. eg. Paddle, baseball bat
Take said object to the grocery store.
Pick up a single item, one very cheap, say a single sweet or something.
Act completely normal, as no one can see your object, as it is strapped to your back.
When she starts processing your item, unsheath your object and use it on her head.
When she has had enough of your object and is out cold, proceed to drag her out of the store while grunting and having your object in plain sight of everyone, warning them to keep their distance.

High Budget:
Obtain chloroform.
Use on girl.
Drag out of store.

POTM! (Post of the Month!)

We should have that award as well...

[HoreTore]

As a wandering grocery store/gas station lovemeister, I feel I can share some of my "wisdom" here:

1. If you ever see her somewhere else, like at a pub or whatever, NOW IS YOUR CHANCE!! The glory of this situation, is that she's suddenly any random girl as well as being off work, so will be free to do whatever she wants. As she's "normal" now, you can hit on her like any other. But here's the good stuff; you already have something to say, a reason to talk to her, ie. that you've seen her before at work. But don't push that, a couple of sentences is enough, more than that and you'll be boring/dumb. Say something like "hey, I've seen you before, you work at xxx down the street from my house", then move on to the regular stuff.
2. Shop when there are few people in the store. Off course, make sure she's working too Working at a grocery store is incredibly dull to most people, and are dying for some chit-chat when things are slow. Don't try to engage in conversation when there's other costumers around though. Just some general conversation, and for the gold medal, make sure you find out something about her, particularly stuff she does in her spare time, so that you can "accidentally" bump into her and do #1.

Or, you can off course take the bull by the horns and just plain ask her out on the spot. It won't work most of the time, but every now and again it will. But do keep it mind that there's a 90% chance of failure.

[Alexanderofmacedon]

Well your first post gives it away in my opinion. Why not spark a little convo by asking if she is Pakistani or Indian? Maybe use a little bit of what you know (or do a little research) so you can have some witty comment she wouldn't expect a foreigner to know.

Then just introduce yourself, she'll do the same. Ask if she wants to get some coffee later.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

I don't know about that, mixing up Indian and Pakistani is not great, and she might concievably be Greek or Turkish, or Iranian.

[Alexanderofmacedon]

I don't know about that, mixing up Indian and Pakistani is not great, and she might concievably be Greek or Turkish, or Iranian.

True she could be another ethnicity, but if the OP is certain he is Pakistani or Indian then it's only the two. (I guess you could be sure and still be wrong).

I know mixing up Indian and Pakistani is bad, but they're all very similar. We used to be brothers before the British and the partition...(I'm Indian).

Some people take it the wrong way, though; you're right.

EDIT: I'm half Indian and half German/Dutch/English and I've been mistaken for 1) Pakistani 2) Iranian 3) Egyptian 4) Italian 5) Greek ...............6) Mexican.......(but that's because I live in Texas)

[Scurvy]

be careful. I've seen many guys ask a girl if she was pakistani or indian only to find out they were mexican or peruvian or something like that.

Or ask if she was Pakistani only to find out she was Indian or vice versa...

Is there going to be a seperate section in the tavern for dating/relationship/life advice, there seems to be alot of such threads recently (maybe because its January...)