1. i forgot to mention that i play without timelimit!

so you can´t win by sitting it out or something.

you must win by pure fighting. especially when you are besieged or attacked.


2. i fight whereever the enemy stands. i don´t move to a position (on stratmap) which favors my defense and then waiting for the enemy to come to me.

everytime an enemy army invades my borders i move my troops to meet it.
"my people" expect that from their military commanders.
it would be much easier to move to a suitable location and camping there, waiting for the enemy.