Gay Parenting

[ajaxfetish]

Indeed. But they all have one thing in common: they're female. Or do females hold no worth in your opinion?

. . .

I fail to understand what appears to be a thundering lack of respect for women on your part.

. . .

Walk into a women's lib center and annnouce to the crowd that nothing other than the posssesion of a vagina marks any of them as special.

How you're getting any of this from PJ's posts I can't begin to imagine.

Ajax

[Rhyfelwyr]

I think Beirut is using a technique where you try to take an usual angle to steal the morally righteous position. For example, PJ's liberal take on things (on this matter anyway) makes Beirut appear like the bad guy, so Beirut turns it round by making it look like PJ does not treat women with respect, thus stealing the mantle for being able to have an outburst of moral outrage.

Or for another example, the abortion thread. HoreTore and other liberals had the morally righteous position defending women's rights, with Vuk as the bad guy. So Vuk turned it round by making it look like abortion in fact picked on minority groups eg blacks, stealing the right to moral indignation.

It's a good technique but not entirely honest (in both cases, since neither PJ or HoreTore were doing what they were accused of).

I avoid it and just come accross openly as a , I prefer things that way.

[Beirut]

How you're getting any of this from PJ's posts I can't begin to imagine.

Ajax

I guess I just have a better imagination than you.

It is clear he is saying that beyond the biological factory the female supplies, ending in the fetus passing through the vagina and into the world, the/a mother can then be permanently removed from the equation without any consequences to the child. I say that that is false. And If I spoke every language in the world, I would repeat that it is false in every language of the world.

It is natural, it is good, it is better, and it is best that a child have a mother and a father. That's it. That's all. Period. Done. Finished. Clear as the summer sun and set in stone. Have a nice day and enjoy the trip.

[Rhyfelwyr]

I share Beirut's exasperation here, the differences between men and women are to me something very obvious and something that we see and experience every day. I gave some studies and could blitz the place with them but they just get dismissed, at the end of the day you shouldn't even need them, has everyone gone crazy?

[miotas]

It is clear he is saying that beyond the biological factory the female supplies, ending in the fetus passing through the vagina and into the world, the/a mother can then be permanently removed from the equation without any consequences to the child. I say that that is false. And If I spoke every language in the world, I would repeat that it is false in every language of the world.

In all fairness I could just as easily say that it is "clear" that a father has no worth as a parent beyond simply being a sperm donor. Each individual parent could never be just replaced by any other random off the street. My mother could not be simply replaced by any other person (be that person a hetero woman, a gay man, a lesbian woman, a hetero man or other) since her personality infulenced me in many ways that no other induvidual could replicate.

But say we are facing the horrible situation of a child orphaned at birth or a mother unable or unwilling to raise a child and that child winds up in "the system" as so many kids are. In this case the biological mother was unfortunately just the carry case for the foetus and any other willing and suitable parents can step in.

[Beirut]

In all fairness I could just as easily say that it is "clear" that a father has no worth as a parent beyond simply being a sperm donor. Each individual parent could never be just replaced by any other random off the street. My mother could not be simply replaced by any other person (be that person a hetero woman, a gay man, a lesbian woman, a hetero man or other) since her personality infulenced me in many ways that no other induvidual could replicate.

I sent a copy of that to your mother. She has a 27 metric tons of homemade chocolate chip cookies waiting for you.

But say we are facing the horrible situation of a child orphaned at birth or a mother unable or unwilling to raise a child and that child winds up in "the system" as so many kids are. In this case the biological mother was unfortunately just the carry case for the foetus and any other willing and suitable parents can step in.

I never said gay parents should not be allowed to adopt, nor did I say that gay parents could not be good parents. I did say that having a mother and a father is inherently better for a child than having two parents of the same sex.

[PanzerJaeger]

A topic to discuss, but perhaps best discussed in its own thread.

I think the question is perfectly suited to this thread. If your position is based on the virtues of diversity, wouldn't that extend to mixed-race couples as well? I don't need a thesis - a simple yes or no would help me understand how far you're willing to travel on this logical path.

Indeed. But they all have one thing in common: they're female. Or do females hold no worth in your opinion?

I don't know whether to be more insulted at your multiple assertions that I do not have respect for women, or the fact that you actually think you'll put me on the defensive with that playground tactic.

Ever have PMS?

I didn't realize girls learned PMS from their mothers.

You made the claim that children take from their mothers and fathers unexplained but wholly unique and irreplaceable 'differences' that are critical to their interaction skills with the opposite sex. At least that's what I think your position is. It is so vague that I really can't nail down what actual deficits you're claiming children of gay parents suffer. (Another unanswered question.)

I want you to explain those differences to me.

I am trying, dear sir. I am trying.

No, you're not. I've posed the same very simple questions to you over and over again and you refuse to answer.

Everything a woman is.

And what does that everything consist of - specifically?

I fail to understand what appears to be a thundering lack of respect for women on your part.

... so little respect, in fact, that I've posted two different studies pointing out the strengths of lesbian parenthood.

I respect women as individuals. What I do not respect, as they have not been explained to me, are these monolithic tribes of Man and Woman you seem to be referring to who hold characteristics/traits/differences/voodoo secrets that are wholly unique to them and can only be passed down to children through them.

So what are these differences?

As the world is roughly half female, as the child was born of a female, will grow to interact, work with, and possibly procreate with a female, it is beyond question that being exposed to a female - a mother - carries great weight.

Does it? Do women speak a different language that a boy can only learn from his mother?

Also, you seem to be under the assumption that children of gay parents are living under rocks, and that they would not go to day care as infants and that they would not go to preschool (average starting age these days is 2) and then on to school and society at large.

At what age are these critical 'differences' taken from mothers and fathers by their children that are so crucial to their interaction with the opposite sex later in life? It would have to be within the first twelve months.

Walk into a women's lib center and annnouce to the crowd that nothing other than the posssesion of a vagina marks any of them as special.

Then duck. Then run for your life.

Amazing! You are arguing that it is their genitalia - their sex - that makes them special. I am saying that their common genitalia is, in fact, the least special thing about them, so unimportant that it is not an essential or even important part of child-rearing.

What makes a person special, an individual, and a good parent - is their personality, their experiences, and their devotion to the child. Sex is completely superficial to the process.

No, sexual attraction is not learned from the parents. But a good deal of how a child will grow to relate with the opposite sex is. Having a mother and a father allows a child a better and more complete view of the human condition.

I'm starting to believe that you are the one with the problem understanding women. You seem to be under the impression that they are a mysterious, secretive species to be 'interacted with' only by experienced men who had access to their mothers from birth.

Maybe it is a generational thing, but I just don't find women that complicated.

Again, I would submit that if you truly think there are no differences between men and women other than parts, then you need more experience with women.

Thank you for your advice. It does puzzle me that you took the 3 seconds to again tell me I am inexperienced in the sacred art of interacting with women, but didn't take another 3 to actually type out any of the differences.

As this discussion has progressed, I have really tried to think of any non-physical differences wholly unique to either of the sexes, especially in regard to raising children.

Drawing on experience and familiar stereotypes yielded nothing. Females can teach sports, driving, and instill discipline just as well as men. Men can be caring, nurturing, cook and clean just as well as women.

Again, again, and again - what are the wholly unique differences that men and women bring to a heterosexual relationship that make their interactions important for a child to observe?

I'm sorry, but if the first twenty or thirty times I explained it did not suffice, I can't see how saying it again here would help.

You said it. You have not explained it.

I am very sure that you understand exactly what I am asking you to provide, but I am willing to entertain the notion that something in the way I form logical positions or write is confusing you. Maybe an example completely removed from the topic will help you to understand what I am looking for.

Suppose I say that the Tiger was the best German tank in service in 1943.

That is a claim.

Then you say: "What, specifically, makes the Tiger the best German tank in service in 1943?"

An appropriate response would be:

"The Tiger was the best German tank in service in 1943 because:

• It had the best armament of any German tank up to that point.
• It had the best armor of any German tank up to that point.
• It had the best suspension of any German tank up to that point."

That is specific supporting information backing up my earlier claim.

Instead, what you have done repeatedly is to essentially say:

"The Tiger was the best German tank in 1943 because the Tiger was the best German tank in 1943, for the common sense reason that the Tiger was the best German tank in 1943."


Now, as I said before, I think you've come to the realization that you cannot come up with anything specific and non-physical related to child-rearing that a man can do that a woman cannot and conversely nothing a woman can do that a man cannot, and that any claims to the contrary would come off as incredibly sexist nonsense.

However, maybe, just maybe, my example will help you understand what I am asking for.

I share Beirut's exasperation here, the differences between men and women are to me something very obvious and something that we see and experience every day. I gave some studies and could blitz the place with them but they just get dismissed, at the end of the day you shouldn't even need them, has everyone gone crazy?

For my part, I do not dismiss your studies. However, they point to greater statistical occurrences of particular traits in both sexes - not wholly unique traits. It is kind of like the classic IQ example. Blacks have a greater occurrence of lower scores on the test, but that doesn't mean that there are not intelligent black people.

[Beirut]

I think the question is perfectly suited to this thread. If your position is based on the virtues of diversity, wouldn't that extend to mixed-race couples as well? I don't need a thesis - a simple yes or no would help me understand how far you're willing to travel on this logical path.

Well, good morning, PJ. I have my coffe and am delighted to peruse this Sherman tank of a post you wrote.

I think the issue you raised in that question is best left for another thread. We have a dozen pages already on this one male\female question. I'm not sure there is merit in making the next dozen a mish-mash of the two as it is carried farther and farther until we are debating whether, in the name of holy diversity, a child is better off with one black homosexual parent, an adrogynous Aisan parent, and a sibbling in a wheelchair, as opposed to being raised by a robot with a penis, a sentient cat, and a trans-gender set of dishes.

I don't know whether to be more insulted at your multiple assertions that I do not have respect for women, or the fact that you actually think you'll put me on the defensive with that playground tactic.

I am saying a woman's influence is crucial to a child's upbrining. You are saying a woman, once having passed the baby through her vagina and into the world, can be tossed aside. She's simply not needed anymore.

I think that speaks for itself.

I didn't realize girls learned PMS from their mothers.

The point being that PMS is a psychological state unique to women. (Though the little dears do love to share the joy with their men.)

You made the claim that children take from their mothers and fathers unexplained but wholly unique and irreplaceable 'differences' that are critical to their interaction skills with the opposite sex. At least that's what I think your position is. It is so vague that I really can't nail down what actual deficits you're claiming children of gay parents suffer. (Another unanswered question.)

They "suffer" in that they have lacked being with both a mother and a father. Nothing vague about that at all.

Two simple specific points:

(a) Mom
(b) Dad

No, you're not. I've posed the same very simple questions to you over and over again and you refuse to answer.

I have answered many times. That you do not accept my answer is the crux of this debate; you say women are not unique and I say they are.

And what does that everything consist of - specifically?

You want me to explain, specifically, everything about women?

Um...

I'm sorry, but this forum does not support posts over 10,000 words, nor does it support the 6,549,091 consecutive pages required for Part I of the answer.

... so little respect, in fact, that I've posted two different studies pointing out the strengths of lesbian parenthood.

And yet you still say children don't need mothers. Very odd.

I respect women as individuals. What I do not respect, as they have not been explained to me, are these monolithic tribes of Man and Woman you seem to be referring to who hold characteristics/traits/differences/voodoo secrets that are wholly unique to them and can only be passed down to children through them.

I don't see why you catagorize the differences between men and women as negatives.

Does it? Do women speak a different language that a boy can only learn from his mother?

In a manner of speaking, yes.

Also, you seem to be under the assumption that children of gay parents are living under rocks, and that they would not go to day care as infants and that they would not go to preschool (average starting age these days is 2) and then on to school and society at large.

Hmmmm, rocks? No, I never mentioned anything about rocks.

At what age are these critical 'differences' taken from mothers and fathers by their children that are so crucial to their interaction with the opposite sex later in life? It would have to be within the first twelve months.

It's an ongoing and cumulative learning process.

Amazing!

Thank you.

You are arguing that it is their genitalia - their sex - that makes them special. I am saying that their common genitalia is, in fact, the least special thing about them, so unimportant that it is not an essential or even important part of child-rearing.

I am saying women are special because they are women, and that they are unique because they are women. And they are greater than the sum of their parts.

What makes a person special, an individual, and a good parent - is their personality, their experiences, and their devotion to the child. Sex is completely superficial to the process.

Not if one of the sexes is absent from the parental process.

I'm starting to believe that you are the one with the problem understanding women. You seem to be under the impression that they are a mysterious, secretive species to be 'interacted with' only by experienced men who had access to their mothers from birth.

Of course I have problems understanding women. Find me a man who doesn't. I've got a wife and two daughters, I could write a Ph.D. dissertation on what I don't understand about women.

One day the wife and kids left early. I woke up later, went downstairs, made my cereal, and sat at the table. Then I noticed that in the middle of the table was a giant-sized box of Kotex. So, I sat there with my Cheerios, munching away, and me and the box of feminine napkins had a quiet thoughtful breakfast together.

Mysterious secrets of women? Buddy, you have no idea.

Maybe it is a generational thing, but I just don't find women that complicated.

Give it time.

Thank you for your advice.

My pleasure.

It does puzzle me that you took the 3 seconds to again tell me I am inexperienced in the sacred art of interacting with women, but didn't take another 3 to actually type out any of the differences.

It will take a tad longer than three-seconds to explain the differences between men and women.

As this discussion has progressed, I have really tried to think of any non-physical differences wholly unique to either of the sexes, especially in regard to raising children.

Drawing on experience and familiar stereotypes yielded nothing. Females can teach sports, driving, and instill discipline just as well as men. Men can be caring, nurturing, cook and clean just as well as women.

Again, again, and again - what are the wholly unique differences that men and women bring to a heterosexual relationship that make their interactions important for a child to observe?

You continue to miss the point; you are talking about parenting skills and that is not the point. I will not deny for a moment that a gay man or a gay woman can be a good parent. When my father was in the last stages of brain cancer, it was one of my brother's friends, a gay man, who was my father's nurse. He fed him, bathed him, helped him use the toilet, it was like caring for a 200lb infant. I am well aware of the abilities of gay people. But that is not the issue.

The point is that there are inherent benefits to a child being exposed to, and learning from, both a man and a woman. We are not talking about the parents, we are talking about the child.

You said it. You have not explained it.

I am very sure that you understand exactly what I am asking you to provide, but I am willing to entertain the notion that something in the way I form logical positions or write is confusing you. Maybe an example completely removed from the topic will help you to understand what I am looking for.

Suppose I say that the Tiger was the best German tank in service in 1943.

That is a claim.

Then you say: "What, specifically, makes the Tiger the best German tank in service in 1943?"

An appropriate response would be:

"The Tiger was the best German tank in service in 1943 because:

• It had the best armament of any German tank up to that point.
• It had the best armor of any German tank up to that point.
• It had the best suspension of any German tank up to that point."

That is specific supporting information backing up my earlier claim.

Instead, what you have done repeatedly is to essentially say:

"The Tiger was the best German tank in 1943 because the Tiger was the best German tank in 1943, for the common sense reason that the Tiger was the best German tank in 1943."

Interesting. But you are in the wrong ball field if you think the innefable qualities of what makes a woman a woman and what makes a man a man can be put on paper like a transmission diagram. The understanding you are seeking does not exist in statistics or Powerpoint presentations; it is an ongoing part of the human condition, and the human condition exists with many, many unanswered and seemingly unanswerable questions. Just because we cannot draw a precise diagram that explains a thing does not mean that that thing is not only very real, but has very real conquences to us.

Now, as I said before, I think you've come to the realization that you cannot come up with anything specific and non-physical related to child-rearing that a man can do that a woman cannot and conversely nothing a woman can do that a man cannot, and that any claims to the contrary would come off as incredibly sexist nonsense.

I think it is sexist nonsense to dismiss the relevance of either a man or a woman to a child's upbrining. I simply don't see either men or women as being as dispossable as you do.

However, maybe, just maybe, my example will help you understand what I am asking for.

I know what you are looking for, but I really don't think you are going to get, or even can get, an answer in the way you want one. You are seeking answers to grand philosophical and existential questions and want them printed out on a statistics chart. It ain't gonna happen.

[ajaxfetish]

I am saying a woman's influence is crucial to a child's upbrining. You are saying a woman, once having passed the baby through her vagina and into the world, can be tossed aside. She's simply not needed anymore.

Well, in the case of adoption, that woman whose vagina was passed through is already out of the picture. She has to be replaced. It's just a question of who should replace her.

And yet you still say children don't need mothers. Very odd. . . . Not if one of the sexes is absent from the parental process.

For all the talk about disrespecting mothers and how offended they would feel, I wonder how a single dad would interpret comments like these. I guess he just might as well give up already, since he can't give his kids what they need anyway.

Of course I have problems understanding women. Find me a man who doesn't. I've got a wife and two daughters, I could write a Ph.D. dissertation on what I don't understand about women.

One day the wife and kids left early. I woke up later, went downstairs, made my cereal, and sat at the table. Then I noticed that in the middle of the table was a giant-sized box of Kotex. So, I sat there with my Cheerios, munching away, and me and the box of feminine napkins had a quiet thoughtful breakfast together.

Mysterious secrets of women? Buddy, you have no idea.

*psst* *They're for soaking up/holding in their blood during menstruation. Just thought you should know*

But you are in the wrong ball field if you think the innefable qualities of what makes a woman a woman and what makes a man a man can be put on paper

This is the second time you've avoided describing the characteristics that make women unique by calling it ineffable. If you want to treat womankind as a religious mystery, that's all well and good, but in a country with separation of church and state such views shouldn't determine policy in state-administered adoption programs.

Ajax

[Beirut]

Well, in the case of adoption, that woman whose vagina was passed through is already out of the picture. She has to be replaced. It's just a question of who should replace her.

Another woman.

For all the talk about disrespecting mothers and how offended they would feel, I wonder how a single dad would interpret comments like these. I guess he just might as well give up already, since he can't give his kids what they need anyway.

A single mom\dad doing all they can for their kids does not negate the fact that the kids would be better off with both a mother and father.

*psst* *They're for soaking up/holding in their blood during menstruation. Just thought you should know*

I know what they are for, I just never thought I would be having breakfast with them. Such are the surprises of life with women.

This is the second time you've avoided describing the characteristics that make women unique by calling it ineffable. If you want to treat womankind as a religious mystery, that's all well and good, but in a country with separation of church and state such views shouldn't determine policy in state-administered adoption programs.

Oh, well then please, let us have the state describe the philosophical and existential qualities of womankind for us. I look forward to reading that gem of a report.

Some people here seem to be of the opinion that a woman can be defined in totality thusly: "A man with a vagina. No other differences noted." I wonder if the government report would share that soaring and eloquent syntax and grammar.

[ajaxfetish]

I know what they are for, I just never thought I would be having breakfast with them. Such are the surprises of life with women.

Guess I'm just not seeing the mystery of household items being left on the dinner table. Would a box of toothpaste have been equally weird for you?

Some people here seem to be of the opinion that a woman can be defined in totality thusly: "A man with a vagina. No other differences noted." I wonder if the government report would share that soaring and eloquent syntax and grammar.

Tons of differences. Muscle mass, center of gravity, hormone balance, water content, etc., etc. Lots of differences in averages, for height, weight, and so on. The question is, what are the differences that are relevant to children's development. That part seems to be ineffable, and so not really relevant for a secular situation.

Ajax

[Beirut]

Guess I'm just not seeing the mystery of household items being left on the dinner table. Would a box of toothpaste have been equally weird for you?

Are we on Vulcan?

Tons of differences. Muscle mass, center of gravity, hormone balance, water content, etc., etc. Lots of differences in averages, for height, weight, and so on. The question is, what are the differences that are relevant to children's development. That part seems to be ineffable, and so not really relevant for a secular situation.

Ineffabitily is not limited to deities.

As to the differences and how they relate to a child's development; the female is a mother and the male is a father. Mothers are not irrelevant. Mothers are crucial because they are mothers. Fathers are not irrelevant. Fathers are crucial because they are fathers. And this ongoing and overtly hostile quest to delegitimize either or both in the name of some new age version of a progressive society is political correctness taken to the most absurd level and contrary to the most basic tenets of humanity. Are we truly at a stage in our evolution where, if we cannot present the value of a human being on a flow chart or a page of statistics, that human value is then considered irrelevant and not only to be ignored, but attacked? Ouch. Take that logic far enough and the family itself could be disolved and our children raised in government camps because the "Holy Trinity" of science, statistics, and ice cold logic would back the idea 100%.

I suspect this obsession to neuter society (at the cost of children, mothers, and fathers) for the sake of some perceived benefit of "equality" is - thank God - a transient minority view that will go the way of the Macarena and the pet rock. I look forward to its demise and will celebrate its fall with great gladness.

[ajaxfetish]

As to the differences and how they relate to a child's development; the female is a mother and the male is a father. Mothers are not irrelevant. Mothers are crucial because they are mothers. Fathers are not irrelevant. Fathers are crucial because they are fathers.

It'd just be a lot more convincing if you could summon even a single bit of support for this claim instead of just making it over and over.

Ajax

[a completely inoffensive name]

YAAAAAY! The most absurd thread in the history of the backroom has come to fruition.

[Strike For The South]

Are tampons really this much of a mystery?

Is that why there are all of this terrible jokes about going to buy them?

Is this why gay people can't adopt? A sufficent amount of the household has to be uncomfortable around feminine products?

[Beirut]

Are tampons really this much of a mystery?

Is that why there are all of this terrible jokes about going to buy them?

Is this why gay people can't adopt? A sufficent amount of the household has to be uncomfortable around feminine products?

Good Lord, five-cents worth of light-hearted humour in a short story and the wheels come right off the truck around here.

Vulcan indeed.

[Beirut]

It'd just be a lot more convincing if you could summon even a single bit of support for this claim instead of just making it over and over.

Ajax

I really believe all of this has descended into the most twisted of Monty Pythonesque unrealities.

I deeply apologize for not having a flow chart to show the importance of a father to a child. And I am sad that I lack a thick book of statistics to prove the crucial nature of a mother to a child. And I am grieved beyond words that I lack a Powerpoint presentation to demonstrate the very human goodness of a child having both a mother and a father in its life.

But then again, what makes me sad most of all, is that anyone would actually need those things.

[ajaxfetish]

I deeply apologize for not having a flow chart to show the importance of a father to a child. And I am sad that I lack a thick book of statistics to prove the crucial nature of a mother to a child. And I am grieved beyond words that I lack a Powerpoint presentation to demonstrate the very human goodness of a child having both a mother and a father in its life.

But then again, what makes me sad most of all, is that anyone would actually need those things.

And that I can readily accept.

Ajax

[Fragony]

It'd just be a lot more convincing if you could summon even a single bit of support for this claim instead of just making it over and over.

Ajax

The long lost art of intuition, science be damned. If it doesn't feel right something must be wrong. And you all know he's right

Question, singles can be excellent parents. Would you prefer a single parent over a gay couple or vica versa

[PanzerJaeger]

Ridiculous show, very heartening results...

[Strike For The South]

LOL, them yankee boys were licking their chops and rode the one guy who agreed with the waitress for all he was worth

Then casually mention that blue state New York only 1/4 as many people stand up to the waitress (taking into account sample size)

Ridiculous media is ridiculous

And the quotes from that yankee scum make my blood boil "we're here to eat" OMG How does one live?

"I hate rude behavior in a man. I won't tolerate it"

[Centurion1]

LOL, them yankee boys were licking their chops and rode the one guy who agreed with the waitress for all he was worth

Then casually mention that blue state New York only 1/4 as many people stand up to the waitress (taking into account sample size)

Ridiculous media is ridiculous

And the quotes from that yankee scum make my blood boil "we're here to eat" OMG How does one live?

"I hate rude behavior in a man. I won't tolerate it"

This. People up north are sooooooo much better. Make the southerner look dumb. Classic.

[PanzerJaeger]

This. People up north are sooooooo much better. Make the southerner look dumb. Classic.

The setup actually made Texans look more empathetic than New Yorkers, which defies stereotypes and is generally heartwarming to see.

[Centurion1]

The setup actually made Texans look more empathetic than New Yorkers, which defies stereotypes and is generally heartwarming to see.

Yeah it certainly isn't defiant of stereotypes....... New Yorkers are complete ********. It's depressing to go to the deli and have the 65 year old woman behind the counter do a double take because I address her as ma'am. You live in the South too Panzer you should be well aware that people as in any other place may personally hate and think an act or action is wrong but will not say or bother people committing it. What that waitress did is unimaginable in any damn place she would probably be fired.

[Strike For The South]

whoa whoa Texas does not equal the south

The south is filled with ignorant crackers

Texans are the most noble of noble

[Centurion1]

whoa whoa Texas does not equal the south

The south is filled with ignorant crackers

Texans are the most noble of noble

OH GOD...................... The most Texan man I have ever known was a Mexican Sergeant First Class who referred to other Mexicans as wetbacks.

[a completely inoffensive name]

Southern hospitality is unmatched by any other.

[Fragony]

Ridiculous show, very heartening results...

Gawd not I have to kill a kitten with a sledgehammer

[PanzerJaeger]

Yeah it certainly isn't defiant of stereotypes....... New Yorkers are complete ********. It's depressing to go to the deli and have the 65 year old woman behind the counter do a double take because I address her as ma'am. You live in the South too Panzer you should be well aware that people as in any other place may personally hate and think an act or action is wrong but will not say or bother people committing it. What that waitress did is unimaginable in any damn place she would probably be fired.

I must have had a stroke, because this is the third or fourth paragraph I've read tonight that I just don't understand.

Anyway, I just thought it was cool that real life people went way beyond what I would have expected and stood up against some of the same rhetoric that seems to be far more acceptable when posted in relative anonymity on the internet. I wasn't trying to make a statement about the North versus the South.

[Rhyfelwyr]

From the glance I got of the NY restaurant maybe that has something to do with it. The Texan one was just a little diner, people are more likely to speak up in that sort of environment compared to the place in NY, it looked pretty posh and you probably get the sort of people there that wouldn't want to make a fuss (unless it concerned them).