Men, what characteristics generally attract you to women?

[Vuk]

After speaking to one of my friends about women earlier, I realized that ever man I know (who has ever made mention of it) prefers very 'delicate' women who don't have a lot of muscle or thick bones. I guess I am weird in that respect, as I am very much attracted to strong women (not bulky, but strong) who are well muscled. I honestly have almost no respect for any adult (man or woman) who has a hard time lifting a milk-jug, and yet my friend was telling me how sexy it was that his girlfriend had a hard time putting a gallon of milk into a shopping cart!
It reminds me of another experience I had when a VERY sexy lady from my TKD class was being made fun of by other women because she had 'guy-like' biceps. She is a tiny (literally barely above my waste) woman with a small frame, but well muscled. There was nothing about her body that was not feminine, yet she stopped lifting because she did not like how 'guy-like' her biceps were.
I for one like a woman to have some muscle! In fact, I honestly am not at all attracted to women who have boney arms!

So here is the question, do you like strong women, or do you like 'delicately built' women? Also, do you think that a woman being very strong diminishes her 'feminitity'?

[Vuk]

lol, don't just vote, explain why! :P

[Strike For The South]

Well from a very young age I liked vibrant colors and musicals

[Monk]

lol, don't just vote, explain why! :P

Okay, i'll bite.

Being bisexual I don't usually date women, but when I do, i go for the softer look. Muscles are nice too but there's such a thing as too much. Depends on the person i guess.

[Vuk]

Well from a very young age I liked vibrant colors and musicals

lol, I believe it. You know that is not what I wanted explained though. :P Your reasons are your own. lol

Okay, i'll bite.

Being bisexual I don't usually date women, but when I do, i go for the softer look. Muscles are nice too but there's such a thing as too much. Depends on the person i guess.

So you think it is a more pleasing look then?
I see things differently, I cannot like someone's looks if I do not respect them (because of the association), and I have a hard time respecting people who never use their brain or people who never use their body (too many times I find people of whom both can truthfully be said).
Let me ask you, can you think highly of a woman who is very weak?

[Monk]

Let me ask you, can you think highly of a woman who is very weak?

So its not so much about the look, but the actual strength someone has. Not sure where you fixation on power comes from.

I suppose next you're going to tell me she has to beat you in a fight to the death in order for you to become interested, in some kinda strange, reverse Red Sonja thing?

[Motep]

If she can tear my head off, that is fine. If she cannot tear my head off, that is fine as well. I am honestly much more worried about what is going on in her head, and my tastes, as such, are quite...varied. A look at those I have dated yields nothing except to say that I am not gay. : /

[Vuk]

So its not so much about the look, but the actual strength someone has. Not sure where you fixation on power comes from.

I suppose next you're going to tell me she has to beat you in a fight to the death in order for you to become interested, in some kinda strange, reverse Red Sonja thing?

lol, I did not say that she has to be a body builder. It is not strength I am fascinated with, but character that I respect. Hard work develops character. Someone who has never done anything their whole life has not had that character building experience, and I find it hard to respect them.

[Monk]

lol, I did not say that she has to be a body builder. It is not strength I am fascinated with, but character that I respect. A hard working person has more character than someone who does not work hard.

Ah, I see now. Returning to the question you asked me in this context then, do I want my partners to have respect for themselves? Of course I do. Though, I don't expect them to be hitting the gym five times a week and taking a fighting techniques class. I have reasonable standards and they've done right by me, mostly.

[Strike For The South]

Aneta Florczyk

[Arthur, king of the Britons]

Curse you Google image search!

[drone]

Poll lacks "Great Personality", "Large Breasts", and "Gah!".

[Centurion1]

oh thought it was personality because thats what i look for first

[Beirut]

Shoulders. I love a woman with great shoulders.

Not big and muscular, just... nice athletic female shoulders.

Mmmmmmmm.

[Rhyfelwyr]

In physical terms, 'delicate' no question.

In personality terms... I'm going for some sort of third way option. It would be nice if she was strong/independent but not be a ***** about it, and still be caring/nice (and generally not like me, lol).

In fact that's my only criteria in terms of a woman's personality. Don't be like me! Can't really go wrong with that...

[Hax]

Depends, although generally I prefer more delicate girls. Most of my ex-girlfriends don't have much in common with one another physically, but there's a general idea that I don't usually go for very athletic girls. I don't know why, probably it's because I'm afraid they'd knock me out with their breasts or something. I'm not really a very muscular guy either way.

[Strike For The South]

What am I attracted to? A pluse!

Lol, I have a million of these

I suppose I like athletic women, I never bought into the whole oppisites attract baloney and I lead a pretty active life, so I couldn't see myself being with a woman who is a shut in
I also like books and would love to have girl whom enjoyed them as much as I did

Basically I am the epitome of a reniscance man and yet to have found my feminie equal


So I settle for a toothy smile, soft skin, and smell good

[Secura]

I think the thread title should have been "what characteristics generally attract you to the opposite sex?"! :P

To be honest, regardless of my partner's gender, their physical strength is irrelevant; I think that there are more important qualities to look at in a potential partner.

[Jaguara]

Sorry, but this poll is pretty much meaningless. In more ways than one. What is "Strong", what is "Delicate"? And that is the only two criteria?

Anyway,

My so-called delicate woman is strong. It is not the size of the dog in the fight, it is the fight in the dog.

[Jaguara]

To be honest, regardless of my partner's gender, their physical strength is irrelevant; I think that there are more important qualities to look at in a potential partner.

What she said.

[Strike For The South]

. It is not the size of the dog in the fight, it is the fight in the dog.

Coincedentally That's also the first thing I say when we get in bed

[Subotan]

mary mother of god I groaned when I saw this in the frontroom but I wasn't expecting anything this bad.

Anyway, to answer OP's question, OP's question is a false, misogynistic dichotomy. If we're talking characteristics, then intelligence is definitely the number one factor for me - smart girls make me melt, no question about it. If we have to talk about physical characteristics, then definitely legs.

[Hax]

Anyway, to answer OP's question, OP's question is a false, misogynistic dichotomy. If we're talking characteristics, then intelligence is definitely the number one factor for me - smart girls make me melt, no question about it. If we have to talk about physical characteristics, then definitely legs.

Come on Sub. Let's get serious here. Intelligence is a huge factor for me, too, but I won't fall in love with a girl that doesn't look pretty. It's just how it works, hmm?

[Subotan]

I'm not saying that it's the only factor, just the most important one. Sure, there are definitely girls who are very attractive who aren't very smart, or just average, but I could never see myself in love with such a girl. Could I fall in love with a plain but fiercely intelligent girl? I'd like to think so, but I honestly couldn't say for sure.

In reference to the OP though, intelligence trumps delicateness/strength - I couldn't care less which of the latter the girl in question is (Outside bizarre extremes such as steroid-pumped weightlifters and that kind of thing, but then I'm guessing they were never being considered anyway).

[Hooahguy]

Of the two choices provided, I chose "makes no difference" because I like my women intelligent and great personality. Looks are good too.

[Hax]

I'm not saying that it's the only factor, just the most important one. Sure, there are definitely girls who are very attractive who aren't very smart, or just average, but I could never see myself in love with such a girl. Could I fall in love with a plain but fiercely intelligent girl? I'd like to think so, but I honestly couldn't say for sure.

We're on the same page then. Good, I misinterpreted your post.

[Subotan]

Yeah tbh I was a bit unclear in my first post but hopefully that's clarified my opinion

[Jaguara]

If we have to talk about physical characteristics, then definitely legs.

Yes, Sub, but are the legs delicate or strong?

[Centurion1]

the real question is, do you want woman with wide childbearing hips or a delicate flower who no bear you many strong sons.

[Crazed Rabbit]

Vuk - I think defining physical strength and character strength as being tied together is a false assertion.

CR