Am I being a snob?

[Vuk]

If you like older women, date older women. Or at least try if that is really your cup of tea. Based on that experience you can move on from there.

lol, I do not prefer older women.

Says the guy who thinks the people he meets aren't smart enough for him. Sounds to me like you may be a bit too self-centered as well. Try not to judge everyone you meet based on your preconceived notions of what you want. No one will ever see the world the same way you do, because no one else has lived your life. Plus, you may be completely wrong about what you want. A lot of intelligent people do a lot of navel-gazing and think they know exactly what they want out of life. That is both narrow minded and obtuse. There is no such thing as a perfect match, because every person is constantly changing, even you. The person you are now is not the person you were five years ago, nor are you the person you will be five years from now. All you know is what you think you want at this exact moment, but that conception itself is based on the idea that you know what will make you happy. Yet, how can you know what will make you happy if you've never had it? Simply put, you can't, you're just guessing. Even if you found a person who met all your requirements today, that person might no longer meet your requirements several years from now, either because they have changed, you have changed, or both. The important thing is to find someone with whom you will enjoy sharing your journey through life. The point of the relationship is the journey, not the starting point. The journey is what brings people together, regardless of their differences at the start.

In short, relax. You're clearly thinking about the entire situation way too much. Go out and date people without pre-judging them. If you find you're not enjoying being around the person after a month or two, move on. If you are enjoying being around them, keep dating them until you're not. Every relationship ends except the last one.

Is it self-centered to want your partner to have common sense, similar priorities, be decently intelligent, and have some-what similar beliefs? I never claimed that I was extremely intelligent TinCow, just that so many of the women my age who I meet are either lacking common sense, not very intelligent (not that I am saying they need to be geniuses), or have very different priorities. Would it be fair to myself or to a potential partner to start a relationship with her she could get emotionally involved in when I simply cannot feel connected to her? I do try to like people I meet, and I cannot help it if I do not feel a connection to them. It does me and my partner no good to be in a relationship where I do not care for her.
I think a lot of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived a very different life and had a very different upbringing than most people, and as such my priorities, values, and beliefs are very different. I don't want a carbon clone of myself with female genitals. I just want to find someone who shares most of my values, beliefs, and priorities in even a basic way and is reasonably intelligent and mature. If that makes me self-centered or narrow-minded, than I am, and I don't know how to be anything else.
Also, I do not pre-judge people. Even when I have assume certain things about people (by how they dress, things I have heard about them , etc), I always give them a chance to prove me wrong, and will change my opinion of them if they do.