I used to be, regardless of my religion or lack thereof, on the opposing side of where I stand today. I wasn't raised in a "Godless" household. It did not seem to be intuitive to me to equate gay couples with straight ones. I at one time felt it was a moral versus immoral issue, and felt it had something to do with the family. It took a very long time and a lot of observation... but there is just no basis for the discrimination. What is inherently moral about straight couples? I've seen some really immoral ones. What is inherently immoral about gay couples? They're not hurting people or doing anything immoral by any definition I can come up with.
I'm not even over it. I still have issues where I don't really want to watch gay couples kissing. I'm not entirely thrilled about the situation, but... I recognize where that comes from, and it's societal pressure and rejection of that which isn't considered the norm by the majority. But it's been around all my life and I'm attempting to get over it. I readily admit that I'm not. However, I simply cannot argue any other way than for equality and non-discrimination, and ultimately every argument leads back to that, and other than religious concerns there is no basis for opposing it. If you were taught that the tides were caused by ships at sea for example, all your life that is what you knew was fact, it would seem counter-intuitive to consider the idea that the moon's gravitational pull has anything to do with it. Eventually you let go of what you thought you knew, and you accept that which seems strange to you at first. If you're taught all your life that gay couples are different or wrong, and straight couples are the only acceptable thing, and if gay marriage is called an abonimation... that is what you know to be true.
Gays want to be treated as equals (doesn't everyone?). There can be no special "marriage" just for them. You don't have to marry them at your church, just as I don't have to get married at your church, because that's a religious marriage not a legal one. You don't have to accept their idea of marriage in your heart, or in your church, you can preach what you please. It's freedom of speech. A church, to me, is a private organization with it's own rules. There are some very backward (from my perspective) people who wouldn't marry a couple who were of differing races. And I don't want the government to step in and force a church that believes something along those lines to reform. The government has little to do with church and religious marriage. Conversely, church has little to do with government and legal marriage. We never should have mixed the two, and we do well to remember the distinction.
I know marriage is not a religious concept, because atheists, agnostics, pagans, and many other followers of differing kinds of beliefs can fall in love and seek to be partners for life. And they take their marriage just as seriously as yours. When I get married I doubt it will be at a church because I don't belong to one. But my marriage is equal under the law, as it should be. If gay people have equal legal rights and protections as straight people, and they should, then they can get married at the same courthouse I can and their marriage will be treated the same.
The slippery slope argument doesn't follow. People will not be marrying their dogs or their furniture or their food. In the end, our diverse culture must respect things we don't understand. I myself don't understand and cannot fathom why circumcision should be legal, on males or females. I see them as the same thing, just different levels of severity. However, as frustrating and appalling as it is to me, I recognize that there are too many arguments in favor of allowing it to be an option for males, and it may in fact be unintentionally offensive to, say, Jewish people. So I have to accept that which I don't agree with or understand.
It's all part of living in a multicultural world that respects diversity and human rights. I think Scientology is a joke, but I have to accept that some people like it. I find Saudi Arabian restictions on women to be abhorrent. But I'm not willing to go to war over it. And if a Saudi woman were in the United States I couldn't tell her to take it off. I have to respect differences. They have a legal right to practice their religion... some have a legal right to practice circumcision. Some are demanding the equal rights they deserve, even if it makes some uncomfortable.
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