So, I was called a slut?

First off, I think this requires some back-story. I recently started working at a movie theater by my house, and it's pretty great. 2nd day working there one of my fairly good-looking co-workers asked me out, so I said yes and we made out and she drove me home. I may have given the impression that we were henceforth dating. That was Monday. We'll call her Red. Then yesterday (Tuesday, in case your time-zone is in some place that would change that), I asked a different, far hotter co-worker (who will be called Green) if she wanted to see Conan with me after work. I intended this to be just as friends.

Well, somewhere along the way, we had a really long deep talk about her and all her problems and what not, and she obviously took a liking to me just before we went into the movie. We came out and now the talk of the whole theater is how we were making out. Which is fine.

Buuuuuut, I texted Red (seeing as she doesn't work at all this week and I have no way of talking face-to-face), and said, very politely and gently, that we weren't gonna work out. She replied "I understand. Have fun with Green :)". Seeing as how I know she doesn't have the phone numbers of anyone who worked there that night, and she said this only 10 minutes after we left the theater, I asked how she knew already. Red told me that

"I went to the theater after work (at a pizza place) and everyone was talking about how you're a slut."


So. I'm not entirely sure if she's being bitter, insulting me, making a joke, or what. What do you guys think? I don't know what to make of it

Only girls can be sluts.


edit: You are a dude, right?

Yes I am a dude, and Red and Green are both chicks

not again XD

if u can get 2 different girls in 2 days why are u asking for advice on a game-forum -_- or are u just trying to get Warman jealous?

In my experience getting involved with people you work with can only lead to complications, whether you date one or all of them.

Didn't your momma ever tell you to be careful what you do and not go around breaking young girls' hearts?

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Originally Posted by Montmorency

Didn't your momma ever tell you to be careful what you do and not go around breaking young girls' hearts?

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Well, we all know what happened to the fella that followed that advice.

Stop showing off and enjoy your life.

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Originally Posted by Monk

Stop showing off and enjoy your life.

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As much as I'd like to show off, I'm genuinely not getting what she meant by that and it kinda disturbs me.

lol... how can u not get it. she is obviously displeased that u went and kissed some other chick. now she feels inferior and she will hate your guts for the rest of her life no matter how polite she may act in your face.

(she might not actually feel inferior, that was added for dramatic effect, tho it might be true)

Nope, as guys can't be sluts. When a guy behaves like a slut, he gets called a player. Unfortunately, you haven't really behaved like a player, and this is why:

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First off, I think this requires some back-story. I recently started working at a movie theater by my house, and it's pretty great. 2nd day working there one of my fairly good-looking co-workers asked me out, so I said yes and we made out and she drove me home. I may have given the impression that we were henceforth dating. That was Monday. We'll call her Red. Then yesterday (Tuesday, in case your time-zone is in some place that would change that), I asked a different, far hotter co-worker (who will be called Green) if she wanted to see Conan with me after work. I intended this to be just as friends [LIES ~ Subotan]. Well, somewhere along the way, we had a really long deep talk about her and all her problems and what not, and she obviously took a liking to me just before we went into the movie [Rubbish ~ S]. We came out and now the talk of the whole theater is how we were making out. Which is fine [If it was, you wouldn't be posting here. ~ S].

Buuuuuut, I texted Red [That's cold ~ S] (seeing as she doesn't work at all this week and I have no way of talking face-to-face), and said, very politely and gently, that we weren't gonna work out.

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And blah blah blah some stuff about how she found out about it which doesn't matter. What does matter is that you were extremely shallow. Dumping a girl you were going out with after a single day in preference of one who is cuter? The only thing more baffling than the turn of events itself is that you have to come here asking us to identify where you went wrong.

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She will hate your guts for the rest of her life no matter how polite she may act in your face.

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And you have to work with her! Ahahahahaaa

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

As much as I'd like to show off, I'm genuinely not getting what she meant by that and it kinda disturbs me.

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Dont worry. During your lifetime you will very regularly fail to make sense of what chicks say to you. This, and I cannot emphasise this enough, is not your fault.

You are going to have trouble making sense outta chicks at least 5 days out of each and every month...

Enjoy life you lucky lucky #$%#2 :)

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Originally Posted by johnhughthom

In my experience getting involved with people you work with can only lead to complications, whether you date one or all of them.

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This.

Never date where you have to go everyday. If things don't work out you're stuck with a lot of unpleasantness.
And men can't be sluts. They can be playboys. Which isn't entirely a bad thing if you can manage it properly.

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

not again XD

if u can get 2 different girls in 2 days why are u asking for advice on a game-forum -_- or are u just trying to get Warman jealous?

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:laugh4::laugh4:

I just came from class with two hot girls, one on my left directly, one on me right. :laugh4:


Dude, enjoy the hot chick time.

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

...and she (Red) drove me home.

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Originally Posted by Red

...you're a slut.

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What are you? Her submissive one?

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Originally Posted by ELITEKWARMAN8GINGYBREADMENMILK

:laugh4::laugh4:

I just came from class with two hot hands, one on my left directly, one on me right. :laugh4:


Dude, enjoy the hot shake time.

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fixed.

the girl is insulting you dimwit how is that not clear. while society may laud your efforts she doesn't appreciate it. Nobody wants to be called a slut and being a man slut is not a positive in society (A man can hook up in ways and with enough people that it becomes a negative even in fellow mens eyes)

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This, and I cannot emphasise this enough, is not your fault.

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Actually, it is completely his own fault. Let us look at PI's actions step by step, stripped of all the fluff and denial.

1. Girl at his workplace, Red, asks PI out, and clearly wants to have a go at a relationship. PI agrees.
2. PI then almost immediately goes behind Red's back and propositions Green, as Green is more physically attractive than Red. Green accepts.
3. Red finds out about this, presumably by talking to workmates who saw PI carry out step two. PI then sends a text to Red, who passive-aggressively tells him that she's hurt by this.
4. PI is confused and asks a video game forum for help on understanding these crazy chicks.

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

https://forums.totalwar.org/vb/image...post-right.png

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:laugh4::laugh4:

I just came from class with two hot hands, one on my left directly, one on me right. :laugh4:


Dude, enjoy the hot shake time.

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Fantastic.

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Originally Posted by Subotan

Actually, it is completely his own fault. Let us look at PI's actions step by step, stripped of all the fluff and denial.

1. Girl at his workplace, Red, asks PI out, and clearly wants to have a go at a relationship. PI agrees.
2. PI then almost immediately goes behind Red's back and propositions Green, as Green is more physically attractive than Red. Green accepts.
3. Red finds out about this, presumably by talking to workmates who saw PI carry out step two. PI then sends a text to Red, who passive-aggressively tells him that she's hurt by this.
4. PI is confused and asks a video game forum for help on understanding these crazy chicks.


Fantastic.

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Well not exactly. like i said, i genuinely meant to go as friends, but we started talking and that changed. the rest sounds really bad when you put it that way

A guy with a lot of one night stands is a player.

A guy who follows his **** and acts like a **** is quite the ****. Sorry. But she's right.

You are a slut. Call me.

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

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A brunette and a red head, real girls, not my hands. Unless the 1 hour 5 minutes I spent in class today was just a dream. :laugh4:

Que awkward silences and hate-fueled looks next time you work together.
You reap what you saw.

But:
Yes, there were times, I'm sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew
But through it all, when there was doubt
I ate it up and spit it out
I faced it all and I stood tall and did it my way.

You'll learn to face the consequences of your actions and maybe even forsee them before you act.
Be a nice guy and apoligise to Red. It's the proper thing.

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Originally Posted by Drunk Clown

What are you? Her submissive one?

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her submissive one... je jujubee thats harsh XD u shouldve taken it out alltogether less painfull

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Originally Posted by ELITEKWARMAN8GINGYBREADMENMILK

So i dressed up two hands. A brunette hand and a red hand, real hands, not my hands. Unless the 1 hour 5 minutes I spent infront of class today dressing them up was just a wet dream. :laugh4:

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fixed it again!

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

fixed it again!

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:laugh4::laugh4:

So many lesson about life in this thread.

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Originally Posted by rasoforos

Dont worry. During your lifetime you will very regularly fail to make sense of what chicks say to you. This, and I cannot emphasise this enough, is not your fault.
You are going to have trouble making sense outta chicks at least 5 days out of each and every month...

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My uncle told me roughly the same thing 17 years ago.

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Originally Posted by rasoforos

You are going to have trouble making sense outta chicks at least 5 days out of each and every month...

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Did you hear about the guy who finally figured out women?
He died laughing before he could tell anybody.

So understand it from Red's point of view.

ie If Green now makes out with a handsome dude how are you going to feel?

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Originally Posted by Papewaio

So understand it from Red's point of view.

ie If Green now makes out with a handsome dude how are you going to feel?

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whoa whoa whoa this comparison implies pi is a handsome young man. I have seen PI, cute little boy is the best I can give you sorry.

Wow you are a jerk.

You made out with a co-worker, then went out and made out with another co-worker imediately after. Sounds like you were banking on the fact that number one was off work all week and didn't have phone access. Also sounds like you -- as the new guy -- somehow thought your suave and largesse was enough to trump the friendships and comraderie already in place between the co-workers, which makes you quite concieted as well for thinking you could pull something like that off.

I also wonder if girl #2 was aware of your lip locking session with girl #1 before she committed the same crime with you. I would not be surprised if girl #2 dries up pretty quickly upon realization of this. I would also not be surprised if they warn every new female employee that you are a shallow slut. Good job ruining your job. Ever hear the saying "Don't crap where you eat?"

You should have just said "no" to girl #1. You may consider learning some self control, rather than seeing the opportunity of getting some cheap thrills at the expense of another when you already knew full on that you were going to ask out girl #2.

Best part of this story? All you got to do was make out with this chick.

LOL. You didn't even get to lay pipe. Like in this scenario making out is like a negative.

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

Best part of this story? All you got to do was make out with this chick.

LOL. You didn't even get to lay pipe. Like in this scenario making out is like a negative.

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Working on it...

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

whoa whoa whoa this comparison implies pi is a handsome young man. I have seen PI, cute little boy is the best I can give you sorry.

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Facebook pics don't count. I take really crap pictures I'm not gonna lie.

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

Working on it...

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Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dntsig8RcAA

I'm not one to call the game because of rain, but seriously man... No chance of that now.

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Originally Posted by Monk

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dntsig8RcAA

I'm not one to call the game because of rain, but seriously man... No chance of that now.

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We'll see about that

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

You didn't even get to lay pipe

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You ought to be ashamed of yourself for speaking such filth.

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

WARNING: FILTH

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qG9Q2hFgOBg

Give Red my number. I will comfort her.

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

Best part of this story? All you got to do was make out with this chick.

LOL. You didn't even get to lay pipe. Like in this scenario making out is like a negative.

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Well Green (the one I didn't dump) came over a small bit ago. Didn't go that far, but somebody's got 2 thumbs and made a girl moan.

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

2 thumbs

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That doesn't sound quite right to me.

So much fail...ugh.:brood: So you still want to have a relationship with Red even while continuing your relationship with Green? I don't see that working out for much longer.

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

Well Green (the one I didn't dump) came over a small bit ago. Didn't go that far, but somebody's got 2 thumbs and made a girl moan.

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Pictures or GTFO lies.

You are going to fit in really well in a fraternity. I hope you like Natty Lite.

I got 2 thumbs.

Prussian, I think these guys are being a little hard on you. I'm wondering what they would have done in your situation. Once Green wanted to start making out, I'm not sure I would have thrown up my hands and said, "Wait just a minute! I've been on a casual date with a considerably less attractive woman, with whom I have made considerably less emotional connection, and we're going to have to postpone this make-out sessions until I've informed her that there will not be a second date!"

I think the real question is whether you made it clear to Red that you intended to continue pursuing a relationship with her, which you left rather vague in the OP. If so, then making out with another girl was an obvious wrong on your part. Especially if you knew there was a good chance that Green and yourself would be observed making-out by coworkers. Even so, the term "slut" seems ambiguously inappropriate to me. I think of "slut" as being a strictly sexual term. If you primarily value Green for her relationship potential (and your more recent posts don't seem to indicate that), then being labeled a slut isn't really fair. But if you traded what you perceived to be a more promising relationship with Red for the prospect of merely hooking up with Green, then yeah, you're a slut.

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Originally Posted by B_Ray

I got 2 thumbs.

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Yes, but who performs digital penetration with two thumbs? Admittedly, one digit per orifice is possible, but...

You know what, I don't want to know.

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Originally Posted by Papewaio

So understand it from Red's point of view.

ie If Green now makes out with a handsome dude how are you going to feel?

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This. Try having a little empathy, and all of a sudden women make a lot more sense.

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Originally Posted by Populus Romanus

So much fail...ugh.:brood: So you still want to have a relationship with Red even while continuing your relationship with Green? I don't see that working out for much longer.

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no. i immediately broke it off with red. and am sticking with green.

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Originally Posted by Major Robert Dump

Pictures or GTFO lies.

You are going to fit in really well in a fraternity. I hope you like Natty Lite.

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natty lite?

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Originally Posted by B_Ray

I got 2 thumbs.

Prussian, I think these guys are being a little hard on you. I'm wondering what they would have done in your situation. Once Green wanted to start making out, I'm not sure I would have thrown up my hands and said, "Wait just a minute! I've been on a casual date with a considerably less attractive woman, with whom I have made considerably less emotional connection, and we're going to have to postpone this make-out sessions until I've informed her that there will not be a second date!"

I think the real question is whether you made it clear to Red that you intended to continue pursuing a relationship with her, which you left rather vague in the OP. If so, then making out with another girl was an obvious wrong on your part. Especially if you knew there was a good chance that Green and yourself would be observed making-out by coworkers. Even so, the term "slut" seems ambiguously inappropriate to me. I think of "slut" as being a strictly sexual term. If you primarily value Green for her relationship potential (and your more recent posts don't seem to indicate that), then being labeled a slut isn't really fair. But if you traded what you perceived to be a more promising relationship with Red for the prospect of merely hooking up with Green, then yeah, you're a slut.

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well its really green for me because of both; for starters to me she is far more attractive and sexual. but its beyond that. theres a far stronger emotional connection. being with her feels way more natural and better than with red.

i do feel bad about red and i admit i did make it seem like i would pursue more dates with her, but what can i say? i didnt see us doing as well as me and green.

it doesnt help my conscience that i was told that red was "really upset" about the whole thing.

Dude you are such a tool....... just like me. Yeah im giving you a hard time but ive done similar or worse things haha.


but yeah you sound like a total tool bragging about doing some sexual stuff with a girl online.

also natty lite is a cheap beer enjoyed primarily by college bros and laxers

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

lol... how can u not get it. she is obviously displeased that u went and kissed some other chick. now she feels inferior and she will hate your guts for the rest of her life no matter how polite she may act in your face.

(she might not actually feel inferior, that was added for dramatic effect, tho it might be true)

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What he said.

Going after one and then jumping ship at the next sight of a larger, more flash boat is not going to go down well with the previous boat. (Yes, I did just make women analogous to boats, what of it?).

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

also natty lite is a cheap beer enjoyed primarily by college bros and laxers

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Umm, it's like the second best beer bro. Only topped by the smoothness of an nice cold Coors light. Let me guess, you like drinking microbrews with fruit in it ya ***?

Don't listen to him, he is a *****. All real men that GO HARD like me, drink natty light and wash it down with some ICE bro.

What MRD said.You dont piss on your own drinking water. I am already waiting to hear what happens when the "thing" between you and green dries up. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

I don't get this thread.

On the one hand, you supposedly ask a question: "is it true that I'm a slut?", but in fact the only thing you want to hear is "oh dude, totally :daisy: awesome that you made out with two girls. I stand in awe of your superior skills with women". It's silly and it does make you look like, as Centurion pointed out, a tool.

Also, you deserve everything that's coming your way. Just so you know.

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Originally Posted by Montmorency

That doesn't sound quite right to me.

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I'm equally disturbed.

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Originally Posted by Centurion1

Dude you are such a tool....... just like me. Yeah im giving you a hard time but ive done similar or worse things haha.


but yeah you sound like a total tool bragging about doing some sexual stuff with a girl online.

also natty lite is a cheap beer enjoyed primarily by college bros and laxers

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however true this might be i would never brag about it... anymore XD

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Originally Posted by Major Robert Dump

Pictures or GTFO lies.

You are going to fit in really well in a fraternity. I hope you like Natty Lite.

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i just found a movie of PI and his 2 thumbs incident. i warn u guys its not pretty!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUA-eGvvcW4

Anyhow just don't now go out with Amber. You won't be sure to stop or floor it with that one...

How can any beer with 'lite/light' in its name be good?

Two thumbs, really? Was there a memo about new techniques i missed? Or am I picturing the wrong body part here?

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Originally Posted by rajpoot

How can any beer with 'lite/light' in its name be good?

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Thank you, that question had to be asked.

Just imagine he was doing a breast cancer screening...

Ahahahahahahah XD

Still, he got to drink the milk then :D

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Originally Posted by Peasant Phill

Two thumbs, really? Was there a memo about new techniques i missed? Or am I picturing the wrong body part here?

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

I'm equally disturbed.

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I know you all know what I mean, but it feels necessary to point out that it's a common joke to say something like "who's got 2 thumbs and *verb* *pronoun* *noun or proper noun*? This guy!" and then pointing at themselves with 2 thumbs. No thumbs were involved.

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Originally Posted by Arjos

Ahahahahahahah XD

Still, he got to drink the milk then :D

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wha..........no comment

dude, you're just.... tooo evil, if you try to have a relationship, try to treat women with respect, not playing them as mere objects...

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Originally Posted by Cute Wolf

dude, you're just.... tooo evil, if you try to have a relationship, try to treat women with respect, not playing them as mere objects...

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Ahh, I get it. You're trying to get into the pants of a girl who browses the org. Gotcha.

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Originally Posted by johnhughthom

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Ahh, I get it. You're trying to get into the pants of a girl who browses the org. Gotcha.

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... totally wrong, actually. I just try to give a serious suggestions that you should treat women with respect, not otherwise.

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

wha..........no comment

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Just joking about the video been posted :P

Anyway everything has been pointed out already, you acted quite cheaply...

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Originally Posted by Arjos

Anyway everything has been pointed out already, you acted quite cheaply...

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I acknowledge that. But let's not make the assumption that most guys wouldn't do the same thing

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

I acknowledge that. But let's not make the assumption that most guys wouldn't do the same thing

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yeah, almost every guy can do that under most circumstances, what we can do is explain to them that wasn't the right thing to do.

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

I acknowledge that. But let's not make the assumption that most guys wouldn't do the same thing

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Harrumph. :stare:

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I acknowledge that. But let's not make the assumption that most guys idiots wouldn't do the same thing

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Fixed.

Doing in the same place? No XD
Anyway if the second girl is so much better or you feel so much more connected, and if she's fine with all of this; have fun :D
Most likely if she gets to know this whole story is going to leave you, if not you two can be a slutty couple XD

You might be a good guy, Arjos. :thumbsup: :wink:

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

I know you all know what I mean, but it feels necessary to point out that it's a common joke to say something like "who's got 2 thumbs and *verb* *pronoun* *noun or proper noun*? This guy!" and then pointing at themselves with 2 thumbs. No thumbs were involved.




wha..........no comment

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it must be german humour. i never get that.

like this one

"there is a guy in my class who constantly calls me gay, what should i do about it"

"oh you should definitly do X (fill in an action, like beating him up or ignoring him whatever)"

"No i cant because he's just too sweat (i think he mightve meant sweet)"

a sure hit in germany!

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Originally Posted by Arjos

Doing in the same place? No XD
Anyway if the second girl is so much better or you feel so much more connected, and if she's fine with all of this; have fun :D
Most likely if she gets to know this whole story is going to leave you, if not you two can be a slutty couple XD

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hes connected to her with 2 thumbs!

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Originally Posted by The Stranger

hes connected to her with 2 thumbs!

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LMAO, I was keeping the most gentleman-like view I could XD
Who are we to judge him? :P

You are young and naive and there is nothing wrong with that.

Nor is there anything wrong with playing the feild

However there is something desperatly wrong with forgetting the Golden rule and skritting communication to avoid conflict

Man up and speak how you feel. Be unequvicoal but not mean and serious but not forceful

So you are with Green now, right?

I bet both Red and Green are :daisy:ing ugly.

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Originally Posted by B_Ray

I think the real question is whether you made it clear to Red that you intended to continue pursuing a relationship with her, which you left rather vague in the OP.

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I'm guessing he also left is vague to Red as well. Unfortunately for him and Red (but mainly Red), this is one of this situations when silence indicates approval, and that a specific denial would have been required on PI's behalf. However, this is all based on the assumption that PI was always intending to dump Red, rather than simply trying to desperately hedge his bets and hook up with Green on the sly.

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Originally Posted by PI

I acknowledge that. But let's not make the assumption that most guys wouldn't do the same thing

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Who cares what they do? You are the one who treated Red like crap.

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Also, you deserve everything that's coming your way. Just so you know.

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You reap what you sow.

Also I explain the societal double standard for these sorts of things using the lock theory

Not that I personally belive that mind you, who a woman sleeps with is none of buisness and the simple act of intercourse really means nothing more than recreation

However many women, the younger ones espacilly use sex to mask deep emotional issues and that's sad. Being a woman is a tough gig, I wouldn't trade being a guy for all the free drinks and dinners in the world

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Originally Posted by johnhughthom

:inquisitive:

Ahh, I get it. You're trying to get into the pants of a girl who browses the org. Gotcha.

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the actual story behind his "advice" is more interesting, actually (PI knows it as well, yes?) :wink:

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the actual story behind his "advice" is more interesting, actually (PI knows it as well, yes?) :wink:

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*cough *cough

and BTW, I see PI allready take the green one :smile: :wink:

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Originally Posted by Prussian to the Iron

I acknowledge that. But let's not make the assumption that most guys wouldn't do the same thing

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Believe me, I've done much worse. That doesn't mean that you get a free pass.
You'll see thee people a lot, just make sure you can at leat have a normal conversation with them.