Guys over complicate women so much, that frustrates me more than the females themselves. Know what you want. Be upfront with the girl and let her know what you want. If she can't provide it, then move on. If no one can provide it, lower your standards. Not that hard people. Also, it isn't that hard to separate the chaff from the wheat when it comes to the intelligence of females you comes across. The self esteem lacking bimbos reveal themselves pretty fast just as the intelligent strong women do.